Being present.
To me, this is the work. And by being emotionally present, consciously in situations we are more powerful people. If we set an intent to be present the challenge is sticking with the committment but being present it actually not ‘hard.’ What is hard, it keeping the committment. Like anything else, working out, eatting healthy, being kind, being consistent is the work. It is the only thing that changes behaviors, relationships and bottom-lines.
So how to do it:
1. Stop judging, let go and notice what is around you right now.
2. Trust. Trust yourself. Trust the universe.
3. Lean in, relax the body. Let the loose muscles rest.
4. Notice your body again, scan it from head to toe. Where are you still hanging on tight. Let it go.
5. Be Peace both internally and externally.
6. Breathe, breathe again.
7. Now again, notice what is around you right now.
8. Acknowledge someone right now.
9. Find one thing that you are grateful for.
10. Look at the person you are with, look into their eyes and be present.
It is not only a gift you will give to the world but just as important, yourself.
Lorin Beller Blake
hi lorin!
i just replied to yumi in her similar topic-
i reprinted it here as maybe a contribution to yours!?
for me "presence" is merely a matter of the full integration of self-
we only wobble in and out of presence when parts of our selves are in other places-
when we reside in the past-
when we reside in dependence on the effects of others-
when we reside in hopes and futures-
when we are anywhere but home in an integrated whole-
and to be whole we must become permeable to ourselves-
we must be able to freely travel in our minds eye through the barrier separating our conscious and unconscious-
with full access to a full integrated self we are naturally present- for we are never pulled anywhere but inwards and together-
no act or effort or ideology is required to ever be present-
only reconnection to self in the here and now-
and what is preventing this is pain-
global- cataclysmic- fetal- and infant- and childhood repression and trauma and deprivation-
otherwise known as the barrier between what we know- and what we dare not know-
once this psycho-emotional wall dividing our consciousnesses is safe to traverse and return-
we are always present-
and this presence is a love spring of self- and acceptance- of what is- IS
from here forward- faiths and ideal-ogies and practices are wonderful things-
but before we have grieved for the traumas which preceded even thought or language or conscious memories-
faiths and ideologies and practices simply become the next treadmill and defense mechanism-
if we fall off or stop- we're back where we started-
simply children longing for love-
the war is over- and despite the terror which is trying to block our return to integration-
we can now feel anything-
and we must feel everything-
right back to the bliss of our fetushood-
if we are ever to be present-
loving tears of coming home to all-
love roe
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