Monthly Archives: February 2012

Inspivideo: One-Moment Meditation

Everyday we spotlight one remarkable video to inspire you to fulfill your intentions and improve your life. Do you have a video you’d like to suggest? Send it to us at editor [at] intent.com.

Today, a clever little animated short that shows you how to reduce stress, calm down, focus, and find peace… right now!  Based on the book, One-Moment Meditation, this video is a fun resource for everyone out there with intentions to meditate more. Let us know if it helps you!

 

Are You Seeking Nothing or Something?


It is amazing when you talk to people about their life goals or the changes that they want to make in their life. The book, “The Law of Sobriety” is filled with life scenarios that clients I have worked over the years have shared with me. In many of these scenarios, which are all from recovering addicts, I found a striking pattern. When asked what changes these individuals wanted to make in their life they were not able to talk about the change in a positive way.

Everything that they were seeking was actually a form of nothing. In other words they weren’t able to articulate what they wanted but rather only what they no longer wanted. They would make comments that indicated that they didn’t want to drink, do drugs, disappoint their spouses, partners or family or that they didn’t want to lose their jobs. What they wanted is for the negatively to be out of their lives. What they didn’t realize is the very act of constantly thinking about what they did not want was actually bringing that negativity to the front of their thinking.

Instead of seeking nothing, which is something to be gone or out of your life, you have to start seeking something, which is what you want in your life. You can do a simple exercise to determine if you are seeking nothing or something, which I would encourage you to try right now.

  1. Think about the 3 things in your life that you would like to change.
  2. Write them down on a piece of paper.
  3. Carefully look at the wording, are these things you want in or out of your life?
  4. Change the wording on the negative thoughts or things out statements to read positive thoughts or things you want in.

This simple exercise will leave you with a list of 3 things that you want to attract into your life. This helps to push out those negative thoughts or nothingness and bring in positive thoughts or actual goals. This change in thinking will have profound impact on your actions and your goals will become obtainable and continue to increase as positive energy permeates your life.

Sherry Gaba LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life & Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the author of “The Law of Sobriety” which uses the law of attraction to recover from any addiction. Please download your copy of“Manifest Holistic Health” from Sherry’s Enrich Your Life Series. Contact Sherry at sherry@sgabatherapy.com for webinars, teleseminars, coaching packages and speaking engagements. Listen to Sherry on “A Moment of Change with Sherry Gaba”on CBS Radio

DAY 19 of 30 Days of Intents! Re-commit to the challenge!

Dear Intent Community,

Can you believe it? We have already reached DAY 19 of 30 Days Of Intents, our annual community challenge to share one intent for 30 consecutive days. How has it been going for you so far? Tell us in the comments section below and re-commit to posting your intents for the remaining 11 days of the challenge.

If you missed joining #30daysintents when it started, don’t worry… it’s not too late in the game to join! All you have to do is leave a message in the comments section below stating your commitment to post one intent a day for thirty days. From there, you can post your intents everyday on Intent.com, support others in their challenge, and find inspiration and motivation on the blog. (Please be sure to tag your intents #30daysintents when you share them on Intent.com) We are looking forward to reading all of your intentions!

For those of you who have never participated before in 30 Days Of Intents, it’s quite easy!

1. If you haven’t done so already, create an account at Intent.com.

2. EVERY DAY until February 12, 2012, post one new intent on Intent.com. Be sure to tag them #30daysintents.

3. Optional: Support others who are creating intents with you. Share intents that you find inspiring on Twitter and Facebook. Spread the positive energy!

Namaste,

The Intent Team

Are You Standing In Your Power?

As we head into February, it is important to reconnect with the vision of the most incredible year of our lives. This is a time when it’s easy for our visions to fade or for us to get distracted by the busy-ness of our daily lives. But one way to ensure that we continue to commit ourselves to creating the best year of our lives is to claim all of our power by using this Right Question: Am I standing in my power or am I trying to please another?

It doesn’t matter who we are — how rich, famous, talented, or educated. At some point each of us will face the choice of claiming our power or giving it away by trying to please someone else. Pleasing others is a habit that some of us developed when we were young. We learned that if we did something special — if we were cute, danced, used good manners, or received good grades in school — we would gain the affection and the approval we desired. Some of us learned that we had to forsake our own needs to fit in with our families. We kept our opinions to ourselves. We stayed silent, even when we longed to share our views. We followed along with the crowd rather than making waves. For most of us, this pattern of behavior began in our interactions with our parents. Now this habit is embedded deep in our psyches. We’ve learned to give away our power for the approval of others. We deny ourselves the gift of our voice, our opinions, and our authentic expression. Obligations, “shoulds”, and guilt become the dictators of our actions.

When we’re stuck in the pattern of people-pleasing, we do not have access to making clear choices. We are driven to fulfill others’ needs in order to be loved. In order to stand in our power, we must have the option of saying no. We have to be willing to give up the need for others’ approval and give up our need to make others happy. The truth is that not everyone will like us and it’s not our job to make others happy — just as it isn’t the job of others to make us happy.

It’s so easy to give our power away to oblige our partners or console our families. But if the choices we make rob us of too much of our private time, if they deprive us of our joy or our inner peace, if they prevent from expressing our creative gifts, then ultimately they are violations we are perpetrating against our own souls. These violations do not affect just us in negative ways, they affect all those around us. When we don’t take care of ourselves because we are trying to make others happy, we build up resentment toward the very people we are trying to please.

The Right Question, “Am I standing in my power or am I trying to please another?” allows us to stand in our power and to be clear about our priorities. If I choose to ignore myself when I am in desperate need of my own attention, I will resent those I have deemed more important than me. Even though I might spend the day trying to be happy and pleasant, underneath I will feel angry because I have made a choice that depleted me. This underlying resentment will inevitably come out no matter how hard I try to deny what I feel.

We set ourselves up to lose every time we give away our power and minimize the importance of our own needs. Many people I work with truly believe that they don’t matter. They think it’s okay to abandon themselves as long as they are making someone else happy. They tell themselves that they are strong enough to withstand the neglect as long as it’s in the name of making someone else happy. Or they tell themselves that it’s their job to be the sacrificial lamb. This is often what we were taught when we were young, and it sets us up to violate ourselves and play the part of the martyr. Each time we ignore our own needs to please another, we disconnect from our own ability to love and nurture ourselves. Please remember that pleasing another is not the same as caring for another. The important thing to realize is that we can’t really care for another if we do not first care for ourselves. By consulting ourselves to see whether the choices we make come from a place of standing in our power or one of needing to please another, we are forced to confront the subtle and not so subtle ways in which we violate ourselves.

Transformational Action Step

This is the week to reclaim your power in every aspect of your life. You may feel that you have your power in some areas of your life, but certain people and situations are bound to come along that will temporarily blindside you. It is precisely at those moments that I invite you to remember to breathe deeply, check in with yourself, and ask yourself this important question: Am I standing in my power or am I trying to please another? It’s time to take back your power!

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Want to love your body? Get naked.

Is embracing your body on your list of intents for 2012? Especially near the beginning of the year, many of us leap on the New Years Resolution train with grandiose goals for our fitness and health regimes. We want to lose weight, exercise more, eat better… the list goes on and on. But what if you could develop a more loving relationship with your body just by spending more time in your birthday suit? Writer Chris Webb, over at Mind Body Green, says it all starts with self-love:

The American psyche is battered by relentless media projections of what the “ideal” body should be. While women have been targeted historically, men are an increasingly lucrative playground for the industries that profit off of insecurity and self-hatred.

AskMen.com reports that between 2009 and 2014 worldwide purchases of beauty products targeted to men will rise about fourfold from nearly $20 billion to $85 billion per year. In a 2009 follow-up to a 1984 survey about female body image, Glamour found that for twenty-five years, body dissatisfaction has remained steady across eras at 40 percent. Extrapolated into recent census data, this means that nearly 63 million women are unhappy based solely on subjective views about a vessel they cannot escape. As a result, the diet industry, which has a tremendous failure rate, flourishes with promises of beauty and happiness.

My honest advice for people enduring body hatred is simple: be naked more often. Not necessarily among other people, but definitely more than just for your daily shower.

It sounds crazy and counterintuitive, right? I certainly thought so…

Read more here.

Inspivideo: The Economy of Love

Starting in February, we here at Intent will spotlight one remarkable video each day to inspire you to fulfill your intentions and improve your life. Today, a brief taste of the upcoming documentary, Occupy Love.

“If I want a society that works, then I need you to be powerful, I need you to be responsible, I need you to be fully engaged, and maybe I need you to be joyous. The more I can give you the better my society is, because we are actually in this together”

Rebecca Solnit

How My Passion Found Me

Throughout life I have always heard the phrase, “Find your passion.” Quite frankly this quest has made me feel a bit pressured at the same time chipping away at my self-esteem when I didn’t find it. To this end I would read inspirational books about people who found their noble calling. I would listen for that great calling, but no one called me. I searched for clues everywhere in movies, words, even posters on the train, but didn’t succeed on this kind of scavenger hunt. I tapped into the law of attraction and decided to wait, and wait and wait. I might still be waiting if I hadn’t made up mind, contrarian that I am, to be delightfully ordinary.

 

When you are an ordinary person, you can enjoy your life on a daily basis. You notice the simple things which inspire you. You are happy to be looking at shoots instead of roots.

When you are ordinary:

  •  You don’t feel entitled to anything; so if there are obstacles, there is no “why me” attitude. You have to find a way to cope.
  •  There is no pressure to compete with the Joneses or describe adventures on Facebook as larger than life to make everyone else jealous.
  •  You cherish your possessions. You like to collect what inspires you.
  •  You are polite and friendly to other ordinary people who return your good energy which generates small, happy moments.
  •  When good fortune comes your way, you express your gratitude and enjoy it without fearing that lightning will strike you for being happy and take it away.

While in this ordinary state of mind, having a romance with life, my passion found me. It awoke me in the middle of the night with a light-filled dream.  At the time I was taking care of my mother who had Alzheimer’s; she had contracted the disease a short while after my father died from Alzheimer’s.  I realized that I had a gift – knowing how to manage stress in an ordinary way to make the best of what I had.  Moreover, I have loved to write ever since I learned how in elementary school.  Finally, I wanted to share. I combined ability with love, thus activating my creativity to compensate for my losses to fill an empty heart. Upon helping others I have helped myself. What could be more ordinary?

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