By Barry Goldstein
Pajamies are put on, yawns are in abundance, teeth are brushed and your child is finally ready for bed. Every evening you take your child through this ritual, but are you truly ready to create sacred space with your child at bedtime? Are there steps that you go through so that you don’t bring your daily stresses along with you before you tuck them in or read that beautiful bedtime story? Children are very sensitive to our moods and emotions. Let them know this time is special! Here are some tools to use using sacred sound and visualization that you can create in a few minutes!
1) Use sound to release your daily stresses– Give yourself a deep breath in from the bottom of your feet and bring it to the top of your head. As you release your breath
let out a big aaaaaaaaah! The sound of Ahhhh connects us with the area of our heart. Do this a few more times, letting this sigh release the stresses of your day throughout your body. On each breath tighten a group of muscles (arms, legs, etc.) and then relax the muscle.
2) Take the Pressure off– There is nothing else that is more important than being present for your child at this moment! Very often we put an intense amount of pressure on ourselves. Are your shoulders tense or tight at this moment? We hold our “shoulds” in our should- ers. Give your self another breath in and as you exhale, release any should have’s could have’s and would have’s from the shoulder area with another big aaaaaah. Move your shoulders around and stretch them. Our words carry vibrations just as music does…repeat these words: Today I did the best I can … allow yourself to receive recognition for the amazing job you did today!
3) Connect to your heart- Give yourself another breath in and put your hands on your heart. As you release your breath visualize your heart gently opening like a beautiful flower. Visualize yourself doing something that you love to do…Walking on the beach, connecting with nature, drawing, what ever it is that connects you to something beyond yourself. As you connect with these images, allow yourself to receive joy and visualize the flower of your heart in full bloom. As you create the space to receive for yourself, this opens your heart for a magnificent exchange of love between you and your child!
4) Connect to your child’s heart – Although you are not in the room with your child yet, connecting to the essence of your child’s heart is important. Keep your hands on your heart and give yourself another breath in. As you release your breath let out another aaaaah. Allow yourself to imagine your child talking, or hearing them laugh, or maybe even singing. As you hear them doing this allow your heart to open to receive their beautiful spirit! Visualize your child placing their hand on your heart and sending you love!
5) Sharing – What is it you choose to share with your child this evening? A bedtime story, a song, a poem, or a big hug and kiss? Making what you do special makes your child feel special and this in return makes you feel special. This is the perfect balance of giving and receiving, when both you and your child receive a gift and give one as well!
6) Setting an intention- Setting a simple but clear intention creates the doorway for sacred space. As you set your intention your words are heard and supported beyond you. Each word holds a vibration that is received by your child before you even enter their room. E.g.: “ This evening Johnnie will feel the love that emanates from my heart and know he is safe, loved and nurtured “.
7) Create a peaceful environment- Take inventory of the space around you. Are there loud noises such as TV, video games, computers are other distracting noises? Are the lights too bright? This is a time to begin to wind down. Make sure all of these distractions are gone. Put on some soft gentle music and maybe light a candle. Perfect…now you are more centered, present and able to truly connect with your child!
Once you create this ritual it will only take a short period of time to create an enormous shift! You might even notice you and your child are sleeping better and more present with each other when you are awake! Each breath you take together with your child is a magnificent gift! Make each one sacred!
Barry Goldstein has been a composer, producer, and researcher on the vibrational effects of music for more than twenty-five years. He brings his knowledge of frequency, resonance, entrainment, and harmonics into his healing with music series Ambiology, which is being used in hospitals, hospices, medical offices, and in individuals’ homes worldwide. He is a Billboard Top Ten recording artist and has composed music for film and television. His work spans many styles and genres, from coproducing the Grammy Award–winning track “69 Freedom Special” with Les Paul to providing original ambient music for Shirley MacLaine, Neale Donald Walsch, Gregg Braden, Dr. Joe Dispenza, and Dr. Daniel Amen. In addition, in his new book The Secret Language of the Heart, Barry shares how every one of us—the musical and nonmusical alike—can harness the power of music to alleviate specific illnesses, reverse negative mindsets and attitudes, dissolve creative blocks and improve overall health. Backed up by the latest scientific research on the benefits of sound, music, and vibration, this book offers practical, concrete instructions for healing that can be tailored to suit your individual preferences and needs. Available at www.amazon.com/author/goldsteinbarry. More about Barry at www.Barrygoldsteinmusic.com