The Touch of Love and Compassion
Massage is a great way to relieve tension, improve blood circulation, move energy around the body and sexually arouse your lover! Massage is also a mutually satisfying way of helping couples exhibit intimacy for one another. Ours is a culture starved for touch, and massage is a quick, easy means to feed this hunger. "Easy?" You may be asking yourself. Well, you don’t need to be a certified massage therapist to give a great Tantric massage. The most important component of a great massage is the desire to please your lover. So, here are some suggestions.
For starters, set the mood for a romantic environment by dimming the lights, burning some candles and incense, playing your lover’s favorite relaxing music and warming the room so that both of you will be comfortable. I know pretty soon you’ll be making enough heat of your own, but it’s always best to start at a temperature in which you are both comfortable especially since you should both be naked.
You can use scented mineral oil, massage oil or essential oils, or edible massage creams, lotions or powder. The choice is yours, but for the sake of this Tantric massage, I’ll assume you are using some kind of oil.
Begin with the Back Side
About two tablespoons of oil should be enough to start with. Pour the oil into your hands first and then rub
your hands together so that they will be nice and warm to the touch. Then place your hands on your lover’s
lower back and let your hands glide up your lovers back all the way up to the neck, around the shoulders and back down, over the buttocks and the Rosebud.
The Hand Slide
Now that you’ve got the oil on your lover’s back, begin with your hands parallel to each other and slide them
down each side of the spine, massaging all the way down to the lower back and over the buttocks. Move your
hands up all the way to the neck, over the shoulders and down the arms to the fingertips. Repeat this motion
at least six times. As you do this, ask your lover for feedback. If he/she is not the talkative type, then just
know that it’s better to make the massage too soft than too strong. Remember, it’s all about giving as much
pleasure as you can.
For variation, try alternating one hand after the other as you pull up and stroke the sides of your lover’s body. Start by placing both of your hands over one of your lover’s hips and then gently pull up towards the spine.
Move your hands to the waist and pull up towards the spine. Then take your hands to the side of the chest or
breast and pull up towards the spine. Put your hands just under the armpits and pull up towards the spine. Don’t forget to do both sides.
If you have ever kneaded pizza or bread dough, then this technique will be a breeze but if you haven’t, try squeezing your lover’s back and buttocks between your thumb and fingers in a flowing motion (not too hard) with one hand, and then with the other hand. Now slide your hands to another area on the back and repeat until your lover has been well kneaded from neck to buttocks. The fleshy parts of the body like the buttocks can stand more pressure, so feel free to squeeze just a little harder and gently spread the cheeks as you knead. This can be very exciting for the receiver.
Before you move onto the thighs, caress your lover’s neck, shoulders, arms, back and buttocks with your
fingertips in a very light feather stroke for at least five minutes. If you have fingernails, gently scratch your
lover with them. You can do this in circular motions, long fluid motions or from side to side. Let your light,
tickly strokes and caresses create sensual anticipation for your lover as he/she won’t know where you are going to tickle, scratch or touch next. If you have medium to long hair and you don’t mind getting oil in it, then I highly recommend you use your hair to caress your lover’s body. It is very erotic and highly memorable.
You’ll probably need more oil now so don’t forget to put it in your hands first, then onto your lover’s body.
Now do the hand slide technique on the thigh and calf in slow motion. Follow this with the kneading stroke
and then the feathery one. Do one leg at a time. The feet are a major erogenous zone so let’s give those
tootsies some attention! Take one foot at a time and smother it in oil, spreading it around the ankle, the heel
and in between the toes. Now use the palm of your hand to slide over the bottom of your lover’s foot back
and forth about four times. Gently rotate every toe clockwise and counter-clockwise and finally slither your
forefinger between each toe. Gently pull each toe away from the body.
Turn your Lover Over
Your lover will probably have a smile on his/her face because your massage is so relaxing and sensual. Let’s
continue the massage by focusing on the stomach and chest/breasts. Rub plenty of massage oil in your hands and then put your hands lightly on top of the belly button, slowly sliding them up the center of your lover’s stomach and around their nipples, then back down to the belly button. Do this at least five times because it feels really good and it’s moving energy around the body. Be very gentle around female breasts. The male chest can handle a firmer stroke. In fact the male chest can even handle some kneading whereas feather strokes are more appropriate and pleasurable on and around the female breasts/Pillows of Compassion. Don’t forget to use your hair on your lover’s body.
This is an excerpt from the section on Tantric Massage in Dr. Ava’s Tantra Workbook: Relationship Enrichment and Journey to Sexual Enlightenment by Dr. Ava Cadell. Visit Dr. Ava’s bookstore at Loveology University — http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/BookStore.aspx?a_aid=sward