I’ve been noticing all the differences in my life recently, having moved from California to Texas. And really, everything is symbolic of everything else, isn’t it?
As I was chopping vegetables for my dinner last night, I was really excited about these cute little zucchini squashes that are grown locally here in central Texas. They’re about half the size of what I’d consider a regular zucchini to be, and perfect for making “dinner for one.” I didn’t have to wrap up half a squash and store it back in the fridge and I noticed myself thinking “zucchini’s are better in Texas…” Then a moment later as I was chopping a local tomato I found the opposite sentiment going through my mind “hmm, I like California tomatoes better…” Well, I’d let the wheels of my thinking get in a rut again.
As far as massage goes, as you grow and open yourself to different kinds of healing practices (including different kinds of massage and spa treatments), try not to let your thinking get you in a rut. Sometimes people will make appointments with me, show up, and then request that I give them a bone-crushing deep tissue massage. That always makes me chuckle. So I’ll ask, “Why did you make an appointment with me?” And they say, “Because my friend said you’re the best.” Obviously the friend didn’t say I’m great at deep-tissue, because that’s not what I do. The person just assumed they’d get what they always get. They showed up with a rigid expectation, rather than being open to accepting what I’m really good at.
If you came to get a massage from me, wouldn’t you rather enjoy something that I’m really good at giving rather than lie there and witness me fumbling around trying to do something I don’t know how to do? It’s like me expecting the Texas soil to produce California tomatoes.
When you practice massage, spa treatments or energy healing (yes, we can all do this – don’t think you can’t!) at home with your partner, let your partner give you what he or she wants to give. That person wants to give you something great. If you expect something that your partner isn’t suited for or doesn’t enjoy doing, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. If you can remain open to “an experience,” at the very least (by letting go of expectation) you’ll get a lot of love, appreciation, attention and affection. Who cares about the body work, if that’s what’s at stake?
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