Are You Seeking Nothing or Something?

By Sherry Gaba on February 3, 2012 in Happiness, Healthy Living, Inspiration, Living Your Purpose, Spirituality

It is amazing when you talk to people about their life goals or the changes that they want to make in their life. The book, “The Law of Sobriety” is filled with life scenarios that clients I have worked over the years have shared with me. In many of these scenarios, which are all from recovering addicts, I found a striking pattern. When asked what changes these individuals wanted to make in their life they were not able to talk about the change in a positive way.

Everything that they were seeking was actually a form of nothing. In other words they weren’t able to articulate what they wanted but rather only what they no longer wanted. They would make comments that indicated that they didn’t want to drink, do drugs, disappoint their spouses, partners or family or that they didn’t want to lose their jobs. What they wanted is for the negatively to be out of their lives. What they didn’t realize is the very act of constantly thinking about what they did not want was actually bringing that negativity to the front of their thinking.

Instead of seeking nothing, which is something to be gone or out of your life, you have to start seeking something, which is what you want in your life. You can do a simple exercise to determine if you are seeking nothing or something, which I would encourage you to try right now.

Think about the 3 things in your life that you would like to change.
Write them down on a piece of paper.
Carefully look at the wording, are these things you want in or out of your life?
Change the wording on the negative thoughts or things out statements to read positive thoughts or things you want in.

This simple exercise will leave you with a list of 3 things that you want to attract into your life. This helps to push out those negative thoughts or nothingness and bring in positive thoughts or actual goals. This change in thinking will have profound impact on your actions and your goals will become obtainable and continue to increase as positive energy permeates your life.

Sherry Gaba LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life & Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the author of “The Law of Sobriety” which uses the law of attraction to recover from any addiction. Please download your copy of“Manifest Holistic Health” from Sherry’s Enrich Your Life Series. Contact Sherry at sherry@sgabatherapy.com for webinars, teleseminars, coaching packages and speaking engagements. Listen to Sherry on “A Moment of Change with Sherry Gaba”on CBS Radio

About Sherry Gaba

Sherry Gaba, LCSW, is a licensed psychotherapist and life coach who has helped hundreds of people cope with lifelong addictions, including substance abuse, shopping, gambling, food, sex and love, co-dependency, eating disorders, depression, anxiety, single parenting and divorce. Sherry appeared on Celebrity Rehab 3, 4, and 5. She also facilitated life coaching on their subsequent spin off Sober House and Celebrity Rehab’s Sex Addiction. During filming of the series, Sherry used her trademark sensitivity and compassion to help troubled cast members as they transitioned into their new sober lives with psychotherapy and life coaching tips. Sherry most recently appeared on CNN Headline News as a guest expert, as well as Inside Edition, where she spoke about Mackenzie Phillip’s who was on Celebrity Rehab 3. In addition, she appeared on KTLA Channel 5 as an expert on eating disorders and Fox San Diego News, Better TV, WPIX New York, CNN Prime News, Issues with Jane Velez Mitchell on HLN, Showbiz Tonight, and E!News discussing Celebrity Rehab and Teen Mom on MTV. Sherry’s book, “The Law of Sobriety” from HCI Publications is about recovery from addictions and alcoholism and was published in September 2010. Sherry has also been published in Cosmopolitan Magazine, Women’s World, Los Angeles Times Blog, New York Post, The Huffington Post, Hollywood Life, Elle On-line, E! On-line, and the New York Daily News. She has also been a guest with Martha Stewart, Jay Thomas, and Judith Regan on Sirius XM Radio. Sherry also blogs on Beliefnet.com, Counselor Magazine, and Renew Magazine. In addition she just joined CBS Sky Radio and hosts “A Moment of Change,” a show on self discovery and positive transformation.

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