Our intent today is inspired by the many times we’ve ended the day feeling dissatisfied, unproductive and not enough. What do you do when you feel like you don’t measure up? Our intent is to instead accept what we CAN do. Maybe it was one huge task, a bunch of small tasks or that you just got out of bed today. Accept the progress you’ve made. Celebrate the ways you showed up today and the strength you gained since the day before. Today is the building block for tomorrow!
Are you struggling with where you are in this moment?
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I’m not famous, nor do I have a recognizable last name and I’m not related to any powerful individual, so when Deepak Chopra, MD, FACP replied to my tweet I assumed it was a member of his staff. This was in the fall of 2013. We exchanged emails for a few weeks before I discovered it was actually Deepak himself writing me. Then in January of 2014, he generously agreed to meet me in his New York office. Since this time, I’ve had the good fortune of having Deepak as my mentor and friend.
Here are ten things I’ve learned from having Deepak Chopra as a mentor:
There’s a diet for everything.
There’s a 4 hour work week and there are ways to make you feel like you’ll never work another day in your life. Everyone has a different management system for a different aspect of your life and that is great because it means there are options, but it’s up to you to figure out what works for YOU.
Struggling to stay organized?
Struggling to prioritize?
We get it. Here are 3 resources to help you find what structure works for you: Continue reading →
Our intent is to be at peace with the unknown. That might be health. That might be timing. That might be your job or a relationship. The unknown can arrive at any time and rather than be scared of it, we intent to embrace it and walk forward in confidence.
This video from Mallika Chopra about pursuing purpose, peace and joy no matter what the circumstance.
Whether you’re in sickness or health, good times or bad, richer or poorer, living a life of purpose, peace and joy is possible and so important. How to do you get there when so much is unknown? Mallika Chopra shares 6 ways from her book Living with Intent. to tune your mind and actions.
Suck it up. Deal with it. No crying in baseball.
If you grew up like me, sharing those feelings was for someone who couldn’t control themselves. You became adept at stuffing it all down, explaining it all away and then finding yourself in the same place over and over with no explanation in sight. Maybe it’s time to honor those feelings instead of bottling them up. Here are 3 things that might help:
This quote from Mitch Albom.
We wonder why we get stuck in pattens but we don’t always hesitate to react to scenarios the same way without considering their impact. Conflict ensues and we shut down. Or we feel powerless. We grow enraged. If we don’t start to notice what is arising, we stand very little chance of changing a negative pattern. Instead, allow yourself to see what comes up. Again, you don’t have to let a feeling dictate the choices you make, but nothing is gained by ignoring that you are hurt when the same family member leaves you out of holiday planning or that you are at wits end about a roommate or partner’s cleaning habits. Notice. Acknowledge. Know what needs to be let go and what needs to be discussed so that you really can move forward.
This video from Spirit Junkie Gabby Bernstein who encourage us to honor our feelings. Gabby says it so simply. Sometimes bottling comes from an unwillingness to be in the present. Do you feel like you deserve the thing that makes you mad or sad? Do you feel like you have a voice? Do you feel like your opinions are worth listening to? There are so many reasons and past baggage that can stop us from honoring how we feel in the moment. Perhaps changing that one pattern, deciding to honor your feelings, is a key waiting to unlock a new view of yourself and your life.
To keep up with the news these days is to be heartbroken. Families grieve the loss of fathers that should’ve come home that day. Politicians speak words of hate about ethnicities who live and thrive in this country and will vote in November. Women suffer assault and the perpetrators of those crimes will have their athletic accolades included in backstory of their act. It can make you wonder if anyone is fighting for peace, kindness, gentleness.
Today our intent is to be those people. You can be one of those people.
You can make your intent to be a person who furthers love and patience instead anger and hatred. You can choose to grow and change into a human who accepts and pursues good instead of a person who is self-seeking and narrow-minded.
How? There are lots of ways to dig in. Here are a few things that might help with today’s climate:
This video from ACLU deputy legal director Jeff Robinson calling for policing reform.
In the wake of two more police shootings, we revisit this video shared after the deaths of Alton Sterling and Philando Castile. Robinson calls us to find a better way.
In choosing to be a peace-maker, it also means dealing with the resentment and anger in your heart. There is much to be upset about. There is much change that awaits us. This does not mean a root of bitterness should be fostered in the process. Choose to pursue change because you desire a better future, not because you wish to remain trapped in the past. Forgiveness does not mean you have to forget where you’ve come from. It can mean accepting the freedom to take a different path.
All parents are looking for the silver bullet to parenting. We know we need to give our kids continual instruction on honor, truthfulness, integrity, kindness, patience and loving the unlovable. They need to be held accountable for their actions. Learn to restrain their impulses to throw temper tantrums. Be able to resist peer pressure to experiment with sex, drugs and alcohol. But the question remains, “What can we teach our kids that will prepare them for any crisis that is sure to impact them some time in their lives?”
Because there will be days, months even when everything seems lost. When they suffer the inevitable heartbreak. When they fail to make the team. When their friends have deserted them. When they’re rejected by their favorite college. When even God seems far away. And these are just the teen years.
We all know there will often be times in adulthood when money is tight. Jobs are lost. Marriages are rocky. Health is failing. Loved ones leave us. And loneliness collapses souls.Continue reading →
My need for external reassurance as a woman came home to me many birthdays ago. I decided to test everyone (especially Honey) by making no reference to my personal holiday during the entire month of January. The results were devastating. Not a single soul—parent, child, sister, friend, husband (gasp)—remembered. The red-letter day came and went without a whimper. Now, before you scream “Revolution!” (which I came close to doing at the time) let me add this: Honey was under huge pressure at work, serving tirelessly at church, and acutely worried over finances. He comforted, cuddled, and counseled with tenderness. It’s just that his calendar was off.
When I realized that accusation would never produce a bottle of perfume, the truth hit me like a whiff of cheap cologne: I had been thinking for too long that it was my guy’s primary job in life to make me feel good, to heal all my wounds, to spend every possible minute with me, to be emotionally available and responsive 24/7, to always want what I want. I had set myself up for disillusionment.
Thankfully, I wised up and made a course correction that stuck. My birthday is now advertised far and wide and way in advance. I am responsible to ask for and inspire special attention on January 27. Healthy, balanced doses of giving and receiving from family, friends, God, and myself, keeps my tank full. Histhree little words (“I love you”) then top me off and overflow into a puddle at our feet.
And that’s the secret. Fill your own tank by taking responsibility for your own happiness.
There is a simple way to get started, or continue, in the habit of filling your own tank so that you can give from abundance while receiving with confidence. I don’t mean to make it sound easy—we are talking about the greatest challenge of a woman’s life, the seesaw between nurturing herself and nurturing others—but I know you can do it.
There were millions upon millions of glittering lights shattering the night, tall neon-lit buildings reaching up to the sky, black limousines, bright red Ferraris and silver Porsches gliding slowly and elegantly down the main strip.
As my buddy and I walked down the Las Vegas strip late one summer night, I asked, “What would it be like to own all of this – to own all the money, land, buildings, and cars in the world?”“I can’t even imagine,” my friend replied. “But what if you owned all of this, and you were the only person on the planet? Then what would it all be worth?” My buddy just stared at me in stunned silence.
What is money really? What gives it its value? No other species on earth finds any value in gold, silver, diamonds, or least of all, in paper with official looking numbers printed on it. You can’t eat it. You can’t plant it. You can’t mate with it. Gold does not make the best protective armor because it’s too soft. It makes for lousy tips of spears and arrows. So where does the real value in money come from?Continue reading →