Who would you call your best friend?
Who are your go-to’s when you have something tough to discuss? Since we’re no longer in grade school and since no one remembers what speed dial is anymore, perhaps it’s been a minute since you’ve had to consider who your trusted council would be.
Whether you’re 8 or 38, there is something cathartic about getting your tough questions off your chest and when you have wise sounding boards, you’re all the more likely to feel prepared to tackle them. So who are your people? Could you write down three names on a sheet of paper?
Our intent is to seek wise guidance, to find the people we trust to advise us and to be the kind of people who are willing to open up and give in the same way.
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What exactly makes you feel at home? And what does home feel like? As tough as it can be going out your door, there’s something special about having a place or being a person that radiates kindness and warmth. Sharing that warmth means interacting with people who don’t have to be afraid or ashamed and we are committed to creating that environment. Our intent today is to share a little warmth.
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Everything is demanding your focus.
Your job. Your family. Your personal goals.
Your finances. Your relationships. Your new business idea.
Not to give you one more thing to think about, but when was the last time you paused and thought about your own health? Until sci-fi movies catch up with reality, we only get one body to take care of and we don’t always treat it that way.
When was the last time you had a check-up? On a scale of 1-10 would you say your eating and health habits are more likely to build you up or tear you down?
We invite you to join us today in slowing down and letting our health be a focus.
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It’s wild. 54 years since it’s original publication, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr’s words spoken in his famous “I Have A Dream” speech are not only reminders of a rocky past, but also a reminder not to repeat the same mistakes in the future. We wish that 54 years later, racism was a concept taught to our children only as a part of history, but they unfortunately learn about it from our headlines, from their own lives, from actions taking place in every country including this one.
Our intent today is to, like Dr. King Jr, believe in better. Our hope is that you will too and that your believe will spark you to action. Our hope is that you would believe in kindness and in gentleness, that you would believe in forgiveness and grace. Our hope is that you would believe in your fellow human, that you would see them as a whole person and that you would seek to lift others up rather than tear them down.
We have no better words to express our intent than the following: Continue reading
That’s right, I’m talking about HELP When my first child was born we had issues breastfeeding. It took two weeks of misery, tears, frustration, including a trip to the hospital for jaundice, pumping to get my supply back up because he wasn’t actually nursing and constant breakdowns before I finally hired a lactation consultant.
She checked everything and let me know he was too small to latch, gave me a plan to get him bigger, a hospital pump to rent, and my piece of mind back. Best whatever money it was that I ever spent.
I asked myself over and over, why did I wait so long? I could have made that so much easier so much sooner and would have been more present for those first two weeks. Instead I reached the point of frustration where I understood why someone would shake their baby (I never did! But I saw how it could happen.) Continue reading
If you ever played a sport you probably came up against many challenges, trained hard, and accepted accountability for your actions. Sports are not easy, especially at the highest levels but they teach us a lot about life, ourselves, and are also rewarding and fun. If you talk to world class competitors, they will probably tell you that the best part of their experience as an athlete was when they had to battle to win.
Aging successfully requires the same skills and mindset as an athlete playing his or her sport because as we get older, in order to enjoy our lives and still be productive, we no longer get to cruise on autopilot. Getting older is a challenge! We must step up, or get beaten down. The analogy of taking on aging as a sport motivates us to get off the bench, put on our helmets, get into the game, and maybe for the first time really take charge of our lives. Aging is not something we should fear. It is a privilege that should not be taken lightly. After all, look at all the people we know who didn’t make it this far.
So how can we take on aging as a sport? Here is a 5-point game plan for empowered aging: Continue reading
Where are you right now?
Right. This. Minute.
Where you are, for better or for worse, will only be here for a moment. The people walking past. The clocking ticking. The person sitting next to you. The wind blowing. This moment will never be able to be recreated exactly as it is and these moments happen all day every day, but how many do we stop and sit in?
Right. This. Minute.
Just be in the moment.
Our intent? To enjoy the moment we’re in right now. If you need help, here are some wise words from wise people we respect about taking in the moment:
Forever is composed of nows.
Write it on your heart that
every day is the best day in the year.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
Let everything happen to you
Beauty and terror
Just keep going
No feeling is final
-Rainer Maria Rilke
Happiness, not in another place but this place…
not for another hour, but this hour.
I don’t know who my grandfather was; I am much more concerned to know what his grandson will be.
Is the weather highlighting just how stiff and achy you are these days? We don’t always reward our muscles with a good stretch after all their hard work and that, along with bad posture, long hours sitting and other medical conditions can contribute to pain and soreness. But it doesn’t have to stay that way!
Stretching can be a free and effective way to beat the pain, get the blood flowing again and have you climbing mountains (or at least getting in and our of your car) again. Our intent today is to take time to stretch our muscles.
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In the midst of changing seasons, strong personalities, new situations, finding yourself tossed in the waves of personality is a great likelihood. We’re navigating bosses, spouses, family members, strangers, ourselves. It’s a lot to juggle and if you’re not careful, you can find yourself changing shape based on the circumstance when ideally we would all show up as our most authentic selves.
When we can maintain our identities, the world gets to experience the gift of our individuality, our contribution of feelings and perspective and the confidence that comes when we are successfully able to communicate. Today our intent is to maintain our identity in a sea of personalities.
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It can feel sometimes like the world has gone mad. Public discourse is filled with anger and confusion; people sit together in crowded spaces staring at their own flickering screens, isolated by the technology intended to connect them. And throughout the world, parents look for answers: How do I raise healthy, happy children in this complex world? How can I guide their behavior without punishing or spoiling them? Is it possible to build strong relationships in a fractured world?
The answer is yes—but it takes thoughtfulness and commitment. And the foundation is both simpler and more complicated than you might think. When parents are asked what they believe is most essential to raising capable, healthy children, most of them offer the obvious answer: love. But as it turns out, some of the things parents do in the name of loving their children are not helpful or effective. Children need more than love alone.
Imagine an infant lying contentedly in her crib. She may be watching her hands or gazing with fascination at her own feet when she suddenly becomes aware of a need. She may be hungry, or wet, or lonely, or tired. Whatever the cause, she cries to let her caregivers know that she needs them. And those caregivers usually rush to pick her up and soothe her. Especially when parents are new to the job, it may take several bumbling efforts before the cause of the baby’s distress is discovered and resolved. Eventually, however, the baby goes back to resting contentedly and her parents breathe a sigh of relief—until next time.
How many times in a day do you think this little scenario unfolds? Dozens, even hundreds of times—and each time, a baby learns more about trust and about the family she is now part of. If this cycle continues consistently throughout her childhood, she will develop what researchers refer to as “secure attachment”, what Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs called a “sense of belonging and significance” more than 100 years ago, and what in Positive Discipline is simply called “connection” (www.positivediscipline.org). This sense of being wanted and cared for unconditionally sets the stage for everything children will learn in life. Continue reading