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Intent of the Day: Embrace


We can rush into a Monday with all kinds of feelings.
Excitement to be back to work on an important project.
Hesitancy because we don’t know what the week will hold.
Utter defeat because we know we don’t want to be where we are.

We like to think of feelings as a smoke signal- it is an identifier of other things going on.
If you’re walking into Monday with excitement and expectancy, this is a great indicator that you are thriving in the place where you are. Clearly.

However, if you’re walking into your week with trepidation, what does that mean? Is there an issue within yourself? Perhaps you don’t feel confident. Perhaps you feel like you’re letting people down. Perhaps you feel unqualified or unprepared. Could it also be that external factors are out of alignment with your expectations? If you’re working as a doctor, but you want to be a baker, walking into that hospital everyday may always be frustrating.

So today our intent is to embrace where we are. We want to take an evaluation of the process. Here are 3 questions you can ask yourself: Continue reading

Is it Really the End?

A photo by Kristopher Allison.

When you feel like you’ve come to the end, it only means you’ve come to the end of yourself.  You’ve come to the end of your limited experience and knowledge.  They can carry you no further.  Now you are in uncharted territory.

It’s terrifying.

When you get to the end of yourself, when you feel like you can’t go on any further because all is lost, you are experiencing a death so that the new you can be born to go places the old you could never go.

The new you is, of course, terrified, like a newborn moose still wobbly on its legs, and just learning to walk.  Continue reading

Intent of the Day: Best for Our Bodies


It was this year that we got serious about our diets- how much sugar we were consuming, how much we were dining out, how many miles we were running. In little ways, we edged out the processed foods and replaced it for real food and it wasn’t very long before momentary relapses produced interesting results. A cupcake before was barely a speed bump but now it could bring on a headache within several minutes. When there was a routine schedule for eating, it could get messy to deviate from it. It was then that our team started to notice that our bodies really did have something to say! We just hadn’t noticed before because the airwaves were so noisy with all the things coming and going: stress, processed foods, children, spouses, dates, vacations, the list goes on and on.

So today our intent is to listen to our bodies and find what works best. Not every meal plan, exercise regimen or relaxation technique will work for you. Your job is to listen and notice.
Ready to listen too? Here are 3 resources to help: Continue reading

Stop the Insanity: The Scientific Case for Ingesting Essential Oils


The essential oil space has experienced tremendous growth over the last five years. This growth generated hundreds of thousands of new essential oils users that are forced to wade through the conflicting ocean of essential oil information that plagues the internet. One of the most hotly contested subjects is the ingestion of essential oils, with traditional aromatherapists bellowing the “dangers” and progressive essential oil experts championing the benefits.

One side largely relies on customary practices, whereas the progressives seek to find the answer to this divisive discussion through science. When you cut through all the rhetoric and objectively analyze the evidence, this dispute can be encapsulated in to four elements: 1) empowerment versus control, 2) potential, 3) knowledge, and 4) comfort level. Continue reading

Intent of the Day: More Water


We’re continuing with nutritional goals this week by drinking more water. How much is enough? You probably grew up hearing that 8 cups is the official goal, but is that still the case? The truth is it depends on things like our age, gender, and activity level. You can decide what is right for you here. Once  you know, join in on this intent to drink more water.

You too? Here are 3 resources to help: Continue reading

Intent of the Day: Cut Down on the Sugar


Setting food goals is an important step for us in getting balanced nutritionally. This is why we decided to get a jump on one of the toughest aspects of eating- curbing the sugar.
It’s in everything at this point and there is so much to learn about sugar alternatives, processed sugars, even natural sugars like honey. In the meantime, our intent is to cut down on the sugar. 
You too? Here are three resources to help: Continue reading

Intent of the Day: Time to Mealplan


The end of the year is upon us and where are you with the goals you made in January? The ones where you promised to eat better? The one about getting back into the gym? Maybe the one about taking more time for yourself? Even if you’re just getting started, the truth is it’s not too late. We’re right there with you on taking baby steps on this journey. We’re going to start with an intent to mealplan.

You too? Here are 3 resources to help: Continue reading

Daring to Trust Again


You were brave. You let yourself love fully. You were vulnerable and open. And you were crushed when the person you gave your heart to abused your love. Now, even though you want a healthy new relationship, it’s hard to trust that you won’t be hurt again.

Does this sound familiar? It’s not just you. I’m a therapist as well as a dating coach, and as such I’m well aware that many people re-entering the dating field after a bad experience are understandably cautious. They have seen the darkness and felt the risk of loving.

More most this isn’t just an intellectual decision, it’s a feeling. You might genuinely want to date, but find it hard to feel excited about anyone you meet. Or you lose any emerging feelings of attraction for them over the slightest thing. Our you just feel flat, and exhausted when you think about dating.

On some level, you know you’re protecting yourself from being hurt again, but you can’t control the way you feel. It’s like knowing you should eat a healthy meal, but having absolutely no appetite. What to do? Continue reading

The Second Half of Life Relationship Rules: Six Ways to Keep the Fires Burning till Death Do Us Part


Being married for any length of time is truly an accomplishment these days.  Just last week a woman asked how long I had been married and when I said forty years this July, her eyes got huge and she said, “To the same person?  How is that possible?”

When we got married people were taking bets on how long our marriage would last.  The average bet was between two weeks and two years because of our age difference and personalities.  Let’s just say, my husband is calm, wise and conservative and I am the exact opposite.  I do remember feeling really shaky when I said my vows. … “for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and health, till death do us part.” Now that’s a huge promise!  Could I really do this?

Flash forward forty years.  We are still married, happy and love each other, although it hasn’t been an easy road and our relationship has been tested on many occasions, and I’m sure more will come as we navigate through our senior years.

Someone once said, “I married you for better or worse, but not for breakfast and lunch.”  I never really understood that until now.  Obviously, when couples first get married, it is exciting challenging, romantic and fun.  And then if children come along, the marriage gets even more interesting and challenging as people try to raise their kids, together.  But after the kids are gone, and retirement looms, people start to feel displaced as their roles in life change.  Who are we without our careers and kids?  What do we have to talk about?  And why do we keep bumping into each other in the kitchen?

So in order to keep a marriage going all the way to the end, here are six rules of engagement to keep the fires burning. Continue reading

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