All posts by Debbie Ford

About Debbie Ford

About the Author Debbie's first three books, The Dark Side of the Light Chasers, Spiritual Divorce and The Secret of the Shadow, are still known as groundbreaking, pioneering work in emotional and spiritual education. They take the reader on amazing journeys into the internal world, laying out the blueprint of the human psyche. They are honest, straightforward and practical. Debbie

Are You Holding Onto Emotional Pain?

Screen Shot 2013-07-03 at 11.34.36 AMI’ve spent my life’s work supporting people in working through their anger, their sadness, their grief, their disappointment, their frustration, their rage and their confusion. Working with our emotions is one of the most difficult things we’re asked to do in this human experience. And we can be sure that when we are struggling with or stuck in our emotions, it’s always because of our resistance to actually be with what’s going on.

I’m sure you’ve found this to be true. What you resist persists. What you can’t be with won’t let you be. No matter how hard you try to get rid of an unwanted emotion — whether you eat over it or drink over it or shop over it or work over it — it will always keep coming back until you allow and invite the emotion, the feelings, the thoughts, the fears and the resistance to be as they are.

Even though some people would call me a master of emotional freedom, I get stuck in my own emotions all the time. And when I do, I call one of my staff or one of my coaches and they work me through it. Lately I’ve been calling my dear friend Hale Dwoskin, listening to one of his recordings or watching a bit of his movie Letting Go. (I say “a bit” because I’ve watched it a few times now in its entirety.) Hale is the New York Times best-selling author and teacher of The Sedona Method which was created to support people in uncovering their natural ability to let go of any painful or unwanted feeling, belief or thought.

After Hale’s proven, powerful, and liberating techniques saved me once again from a gnarly mess of wound-up emotion, I realized that many of you don’t even know about him, his work and his movie. Letting Go works. So if you haven’t seen this movie, I really want to highly recommend it. I promise you that you’ll get your value out of it at least 10 times over if you stick with it.

Transformational Action Steps

I’m excited to share with you one of my favorite processes to make peace with my emotions.

1) Find a comfortable, quiet place and bring your journal and a pen.

2) Identify an emotion that you are resisting.

3) Take a deep breath and give yourself permission to give up your resistance.

4) Do to The Subpersonality Process by listening to this recording. In this process, give the emotion you are resisting a name other than your own and then use the process to dialogue with this aspect of yourself. You will be amazed by the gifts you discover.

5) Take the action or put in place the practice that will support you in making peace with this part of yourself.

Make this week the week of emotional release. You deserve it.

With love and blessings,

p.s. I’d love to hear from you on Facebook and Twitter about what you discover as you do this emotional release work!

 

Originally published March 2011.

Celebrate Everyday Miracles This Valentine’s Day

You can either live your life as though nothing is a miracle or as though everything is a miracle.  - Albert Einstein

DSC_1607Most of us spend our days waiting for a future that is not here yet. We hunger for the moment when all of our external desires will come to fruition so that our “perfect life” can begin. Day after day, we strive for more better and different, looking at what is lacking instead of what is working. We complain about the inconveniences of everyday life, whether it be our bodies, our bank accounts, our government, our families, our partners or lack of one, and on and on. Seeing through a distorted lens that says “It shouldn’t be this way,” we have forgotten that we are a bit blind, overcome by the trance of the modern age.

But this week myself, many of my coaches and other community members had the profound privilege to spend half an hour listening to a miracle:

Dr. Edith Eva Eger, a Holocaust survivor and one of the courageous stars in The Shadow Effect movie. She literally lifted us out of the circumstances of our lives into the holy vibration where miracles exist. All she had to do was share the lens through which she views the world, not like some new age optimist but as a survivor of one of the worst atrocities that any human has endured. During that ordeal, Edie chose to stay focused on the miracle of each moment and to take control of the only thing that she had — her mind.

Edie stood where most people have feared to go. More often than not, the fear that we have controls our minds. We fear that we will fail, that we will be wrong or that our dreams won’t be a reality. And our fear wins out over the miracle of faith. We focus on our flaws, our weaknesses, and the one person who has broken our heart rather than forge tirelessly into the next moment with gusto and strength. We all have this capability — we are born with it. We have the ability to fight and see through the broken illusions of the past. We all have the power to stand for the miracle of this moment, knowing that we are born again and again and again every time we do.

Edie has proven this to us. She is one of people I admire most in the world because despite the horrific violation of her youth, she believes in the miracle of her life. She heroically stands for freedom, for forgiveness, for taking all of what happens in life and making it something pure, beautiful and holy. She has gotten the greatest revenge on Hitler and that is by the success of her own life.

On this Valentine’s Day weekend, give those around you the greatest piece of chocolate that they will ever taste — a moment with you when you are living in the miracle. And most importantly, give yourselves the greatest Valentine that you could ever receive — a moment when you see through the triumphant eyes of pure, unadulterated glory, when you see yourself and your life as it is right now, as the miracle that it is.

Your Valentine’s Love Ritual

(1) Make a list of 100 miracles that you have experienced in the last 12 months. Remember, even your breath is a miracle.

(2) Read the list over and over again each day. It will lift you out of the pain of the past and into the glorious present that is now.

(3) If you’re with a loved one, write down 20 things you love about them and read it to them.

(4) Have a weekend that rocks, whether you are alone or with someone you love! Celebrate the miracle that you are. Don’t buy into any other voice. Just tap into Edie’s consciousness and wrap yourself in the love that you deserve.

Originally published in 2010

Debbie Ford: A Tribute To The Fat Ass

For the last 20 years of my career, as I’ve been leading processes around the world, one of the top five reasons I’ve heard for why people don’t really love themselves and their bodies is “I have a fat ass.” I was born on the skinny side, so I’ve never really been able to relate to having a fat ass although I’ve always had other issues with my body, be it my belly, my sagging skin, my skinny legs or any number of other things that if I focused on could send me into a pool of bad feelings.

But since my hospital stay when I lost 11 pounds, I have come to dream about having a big, wide, round (okay, it doesn’t even have to be round) fat ass. For those of who you have tortured yourselves for millions of hours over the shape of your body, you may wonder “Why is she wishing for a fat ass?”

Well, I’ve lost so much weight that I’m a little bag of bones. I feel like I’m 13 again except without the muscles or padding in my rear to protect me from hard seats and the bed I’ve been resting in for so many hours to get well. I can’t get comfortable no matter how I sit. Yes, I’ve even gone to the extreme step of being one of those women who has to carry a cushion around with them — one of my biggest shadows. What kind of person has to carry around a cushion just to sit down? Me apparently, even though I never even liked carrying a purse, let alone a cushion.

I’ve tried everything. On doctor’s orders, I ate Kentucky Fried Chicken and big chocolate brownies to solve my bony ass trauma. But I woke up the next day with nothing on my rear end and a belly so distended that my son asked me if I was pregnant. My kind sister Arielle got me a booty. Do you know what that is? It’s padded underwear to make it look like I have a bigger rounder butt. But the padding is at the top, not where I sit, so there’s nothing on the place I need the most help! I’ve spent hours on Google searching for a great butt pillow, but the system is failing me. It’s become cosmically funny how my pants just hang down now since there’s nothing to fill them out.

So I decided to do a tribute to the big fat ass. To all those who have been hating, ignoring, hiding, shame-filled, miserable, or embarrassed, to all of you I ask that you appreciate that one day, the extra fat might be your lifesaver. It might be your soft cushion. It might be a friend, allowing you to sleep through the night or sit through a business meeting without wanting to scream because your bones are digging into the chair.

You never know when you’ll need what you’ve got. It’s true for me too. Even as I try taping big soft foam around me, I honor my little skinny ass because I know that too comes bearing gifts (although at the moment I just can’t find them). So whether it’s your thighs, your stomach, your rear end, your flabby arms, or some other part of your body, see if you can make the sacred promise, the solemn oath, and the blessed vow to thank it and honor it.

Transformational Action Step

Go to the mirror and say you’re sorry to any part of your body that you’ve been judging, criticizing, hating, ignoring or belittling. Really bless this part of your body. Thank it. Imagine how this part of you could serve you if you got hit by a car, were in an earthquake or endured some other trauma. See how the extra flab, for example, could protect you, save you, keep you warm or allow you to be a cushion for someone else to find comfort. Thank your body for all the gifts that it offers you. Promise to be aware not of its faults but of its greatness. Do this exercise every day for 10 days until you can write a thank you letter to the part of your body you’ve most judged.

With love and blessings,

Debbie Ford

Originally published in 2010.

PHOTO (cc): Flickr / bandita

Are You Standing In Your Power?

As we head into February, it is important to reconnect with the vision of the most incredible year of our lives. This is a time when it’s easy for our visions to fade or for us to get distracted by the busy-ness of our daily lives. But one way to ensure that we continue to commit ourselves to creating the best year of our lives is to claim all of our power by using this Right Question: Am I standing in my power or am I trying to please another?

It doesn’t matter who we are — how rich, famous, talented, or educated. At some point each of us will face the choice of claiming our power or giving it away by trying to please someone else. Pleasing others is a habit that some of us developed when we were young. We learned that if we did something special — if we were cute, danced, used good manners, or received good grades in school — we would gain the affection and the approval we desired. Some of us learned that we had to forsake our own needs to fit in with our families. We kept our opinions to ourselves. We stayed silent, even when we longed to share our views. We followed along with the crowd rather than making waves. For most of us, this pattern of behavior began in our interactions with our parents. Now this habit is embedded deep in our psyches. We’ve learned to give away our power for the approval of others. We deny ourselves the gift of our voice, our opinions, and our authentic expression. Obligations, “shoulds”, and guilt become the dictators of our actions.

When we’re stuck in the pattern of people-pleasing, we do not have access to making clear choices. We are driven to fulfill others’ needs in order to be loved. In order to stand in our power, we must have the option of saying no. We have to be willing to give up the need for others’ approval and give up our need to make others happy. The truth is that not everyone will like us and it’s not our job to make others happy — just as it isn’t the job of others to make us happy.

It’s so easy to give our power away to oblige our partners or console our families. But if the choices we make rob us of too much of our private time, if they deprive us of our joy or our inner peace, if they prevent from expressing our creative gifts, then ultimately they are violations we are perpetrating against our own souls. These violations do not affect just us in negative ways, they affect all those around us. When we don’t take care of ourselves because we are trying to make others happy, we build up resentment toward the very people we are trying to please.

The Right Question, “Am I standing in my power or am I trying to please another?” allows us to stand in our power and to be clear about our priorities. If I choose to ignore myself when I am in desperate need of my own attention, I will resent those I have deemed more important than me. Even though I might spend the day trying to be happy and pleasant, underneath I will feel angry because I have made a choice that depleted me. This underlying resentment will inevitably come out no matter how hard I try to deny what I feel.

We set ourselves up to lose every time we give away our power and minimize the importance of our own needs. Many people I work with truly believe that they don’t matter. They think it’s okay to abandon themselves as long as they are making someone else happy. They tell themselves that they are strong enough to withstand the neglect as long as it’s in the name of making someone else happy. Or they tell themselves that it’s their job to be the sacrificial lamb. This is often what we were taught when we were young, and it sets us up to violate ourselves and play the part of the martyr. Each time we ignore our own needs to please another, we disconnect from our own ability to love and nurture ourselves. Please remember that pleasing another is not the same as caring for another. The important thing to realize is that we can’t really care for another if we do not first care for ourselves. By consulting ourselves to see whether the choices we make come from a place of standing in our power or one of needing to please another, we are forced to confront the subtle and not so subtle ways in which we violate ourselves.

Transformational Action Step

This is the week to reclaim your power in every aspect of your life. You may feel that you have your power in some areas of your life, but certain people and situations are bound to come along that will temporarily blindside you. It is precisely at those moments that I invite you to remember to breathe deeply, check in with yourself, and ask yourself this important question: Am I standing in my power or am I trying to please another? It’s time to take back your power!

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Debbie Ford: Come Alive In 2012

Wake up! This is not a dress rehearsal. 2012 is here, and it can be YOUR year to come alive and be positively lit up by a luminous love of life! Do you need more sex, more love, more fun, more passion, more creativity, or more pleasure? In this new year ahead, what if all you do is take back your vitality, attractiveness, magnetism, and allure? Wow, how do you think that would impact every other area of your life?

Do you remember walking down the street feeling great in your body? Do you remember feeling strong, vibrant, and in touch with your power? Sadly, we’ve come to believe that as we get older it’s natural to lose touch with this radiant life force. We allow vital parts of ourselves to be hidden and suppressed, and instead we settle for feeling tired, weak, flabby, and old. Well, enough is enough! 

How would you like to feel luscious, juicy, and sexy year after year? To all the women AND men out there, how would you like to reconnect with the seductive, magnetic, and desirable you — whether you’re 35 or 75?! What would be possible for you if you reclaimed your desirable self this year?

As I shared with you last week, I’m committed to supporting you in rising above the gravitational pull of your past. You have an opportunity to encode your consciousness, day after day, with your best life. And we need to get moving. Your life isn’t coming later, it’s here now. So look to see how you may have already sold out. Did you set a new intention a few weeks ago and are already seeing yourself slip back into old patterns? It’s okay. You can just make little shifts — slight adjustments in your thinking, your behaviors, your habits, or the words you speak — and watch those small shifts have BIG impact — like the ripples in a pond, gradually influencing the whole of your life. What I’ve noticed over the years is that transformation almost always happens with the little shifts.

Would you like to create an intention for coming more fully alive this year? What would that look like and feel like for YOU? Allow yourself to see it, feel it, and encode your consciousness with it. Create a vision map or place the images, objects, and notes all around you that will remind you of your new intention. How do you think it would affect your psyche if everywhere you looked (your bathroom, bedroom, kitchen, living room, office, and car) you saw images and words that inspire you to unleash your true magnificence?

I am certain that this can be one of the yummiest years of your life so far. So make a commitment to doing the transformational action steps I send you, and get ready to reclaim your holy glow.

Transformational Action Step

Take out your journal or a piece of paper and pen and ask yourself the following question:

What would I have to let go of in order to come more fully alive this year? What…

Story
Excuse
Grudge
Habit
Belief
Addiction
Tired old drama

..from 2011 would I have to lay to rest in order to have 2012 be the best year of my life?

With love and blessings,

p.s. Share with me on Facebook and Twitter about what you are letting go of to come alive!

PHOTO (cc): Flickr / ohmann alianne

Debbie Ford: Are You Ready To Make 2012 The Best Year Of Your Life?

January is a month of big change, and some of those changes are a work-in-progress. I know that you can create 2012 to be one of the best years of your life, and I’m committed to supporting you to stay in action. By tending to your inner world with care, compassion and love, you won’t be able to stop yourself from taking action in the outer world!

In order to help you stay on track and inspired this week, I thought I’d use a lesson on Risk from The Best Year of Your Life online courseon the Daily OM website, a course based on my book by the same name. I invite you to dive into this lesson with the intention that it bring your life to the next level. 

Risk: The Lesson

To move forward powerfully and achieve quantum results, we have to take risks. We must be willing to look at the ways we keep ourselves small and confront the resistance we have to entering the unknown. In other words, we have to do something different. Attaining the next level of success, fulfillment, intimacy or passion requires us to face our fear and risk appearing foolish, making a mistake, or asking for help. Remember the old saying, “Of course you have to go out on a limb sometimes, that’s where the fruit is.”

If you are one of those people who talk themselves out of taking risks because they are so scary, just think of the alternative: You could continue to create the same predictable results.

Risk: The Assignment

1. This week, identify one place in your life where you are not getting the results you desire. Maybe it’s in your career, with your family, with your health or in your intimate relationships. Allow yourself to see the approaches you’ve used to try to achieve your desired result.

2. Now, write down three actions you could take that would be outside your usual comfort zone that would produce quantum results. For example, could you ask someone for help? Do you need to hire a coach or put a structure of accountability in place?

3. Lastly, approach three people this week whose opinions you respect and ask them how they would go about achieving your goal. Remember, breakthrough results occur when we are willing to give up the old and embrace the new. This week, exercise your muscle of taking risks.

I know that when you complete this assignment, you will find the motivation and a big boost of energy to carry you elegantly through the week ahead.

With love and blessings,

p.s. Share with me on Facebook and Twitter about the risks you are taking this week!

PHOTO (cc): Flickr / ooberayhay

Debbie Ford: Dare To Dream A New Dream

I’m really inspired by all of you who are doing the New Year’s Ritual and committing to make this an incredible year. (If you haven’t done the ritual yet, it’s not too late.) I feel moved to share with you the dream I had for you during my meditation on New Year’s Eve.

My dream is that you are free from the bondage of your wounded ego’s needs, fears, doubts and greed in 2012 and that you wake up every day and see the goodness in yourself and in others. My dream is that today you accept the past for what it is — the past — and you open up to a whole new future unlike anything you’ve seen before. My dream is that this year you will love like you’ve never loved before, that you love your brothers, sisters, mothers, fathers, children, neighbors, and even enemies in ways that you didn’t think possible. And my dream is that you devote yourself to living in peace and prosperity by telling yourself and others the God’s honest truth. 

In this beautiful first week of January, you are called upon to begin 2012 by allowing a new dream for yourself and the world to emerge. It’s not enough to write out a short vision or list a particular goal. In order to step into the next greatest expression of your soul’s highest desires, you must dare to dream. You must allow a dream that already exists in your soul to come to the front of your conscious awareness. You must unconceal a wanting, a longing that is consistent with the state of being you most desire. This should not be your ego’s dream but rather God’s dream for you — something that the divine has been waiting to give you until you were ready to ASK, LISTEN, and RECEIVE.

Dream today. Allow the powers that be to give you a glimmer of a future that is wanting to emerge this year. Don’t try to insert your will on to this divine dream. Just invite it into your awareness over the next few days. Write it down. See it in all its color and glory. Bless it, feel it, and thank the higher realms for giving you a peek at what is available for you this year if you allow your soul to be your guide.

I know that, if you are willing to reach deep into your heart, you will see a bigger dream for yourself and the world than you ever imagined.

With love and blessings,

PHOTO (cc): Flickr / aepoc

Debbie Ford: A New Year Ritual

This is a tremendously powerful time of year – a time when the universe is moving all of us in an exciting and positive direction, a time when everyone, whether they know it or not, is looking to complete the past and move into a new future. 2012 offers all of us a new beginning!

I’m excited to share with you this New Year’s Ritual and two special community calls to support you in clearing out the past and opening up to a new future. When you presence your gratitude, acknowledge yourself and nourish yourself from the inside out, you will be able to let go of the past and open up to a new pure state of consciousness, one that you have never experienced before, one that will support you in growing and allowing new experiences into your life.

My intention is to support you in letting go of whatever it is that keeps you holding on to the person that you’ve been, no matter how great or un-great you think that person is. Why would I want you to let go of who you’ve been? Because there is a you that already exists inside of you, one that is just waiting to be discovered, that can deliver you an unpredictable, unimaginable, extraordinary life in 2012.

And here’s a quick tip for you. Since the process I’ve designed is one of the heart and not the head, I encourage you to write out the answers to the questions I ask you as quickly as you can so that you’re not thinking. If you find yourself trying to come up with answers from your head, just use your breath to reconnect with your heart where all the answers reside.

The Ritual

  • Begin by taking some slow deep breaths. As you breathe out, use your exhales to breathe out who you have been in the past, all that you know yourself to be, all the decisions you’ve made in the last few years that are old decisions by now, anything that stands between you and the you you don’t know yet. As you breathe in, allow yourself to breathe in new energy, inviting a state of consciousness you’ve never known.
  • Now allow yourself to see all that you’ve done in 2011 that you’re proud of. Make a list of the courageous acts, the changes, the breakthroughs, the accomplishments and the achievements in 2011.
  • Read this list out loud to yourself in the form of “Thank you for.”. Thank yourself – the you of 2011 – for all that you’ve done this year. As you thank yourself for every item on your list, allow yourself to feel like you’re being tickled in the heart.
  • Take another few slow deep breaths and let yourself to see what you would need to let go of and leave in 2011 so that you can feel the gratitude and appreciation for being you and for getting to play a role in this universe. Make a list of the thoughts, beliefs, habits, addictions, grudges, resentments or harsh internal dialogues that are robbing you right now of a new future. What is in the way of you standing in the joy and magnificence of life?
  • Now imagine that your list represents a weight keeping you stuck in your current reality, a weight that keeps you attached to the you that you are right now. See the items on your list as anchors that are weighing you down and then imagine that by unhooking from these anchors, you will be able to float to a whole new reality that is just waiting for you. Let yourself see what you would need to do — what actions do you need to take — in order to unhook from these anchors and move forward in your life. Make a list.
  • Take another sweet, strong breath and give yourself permission to expand beyond the you that you’ve been. Put all your energy around your heart and invite an inspired vision to come to you. As you see this new future for yourself, feel the energy and the light around your heart. Notice what makes your heart happy and joyful. See what turns your light on. Make some notes.
  • Feeling this love in your heart, ask yourself if you are willing and ready to be guided by this love in 2012. Are you willing and ready to be guided by this love in 2012? If you are, affirm that to yourself out loud seven times. “I am willing and ready to be guided by this love in 2012.” As you repeat this phrase, let your inner smile emerge on to your face.
  • Now let yourself see all your friends, all your supporters, all the gods and goddesses, and all the angels cheering you on, telling you it’s safe to let go and open up. Spend a few minutes basking in the love of this cheering squad.
  • Send deep love to all of your selves — the self you’ve known and the self that will emerge in this new year. As you’re giving yourself this love, allow a short statement — a love mantra for 2012 — to come into your awareness. Write it down and then repeat it to yourself seven times.
  • Pick one dramatic action to take in the first 24 to 48 hours of the new year to demonstrate your seriousness to the universe about allowing a 2012 version of yourself to emerge. Maybe you will take all the beer out of your fridge if your 2011 self drank too much. Maybe you will remove your television from your bedroom if your 2011 self used it to avoid caring for yourself. Maybe you will write a letter of forgiveness to someone your 2011 self harbored a grudge against. Let yourself see the dramatic action you can take.

Transformational Action Steps

  1. In the first 24 to 48 hours of the new year, take the dramatic action that will demonstrate your seriousness about allowing a 2012 version of yourself to emerge.
  2. Take the other actions you identified that will support you in unhooking from whatever it is that keeps you stuck in 2011 or the you that you’ve been.
  3. Repeat your love mantra for 2012 to yourself at least three times a day — when you get up in the morning, in the middle of the day and when you go to bed at night.
  4. Come to my special New Year’s Community Calls on Saturday December 31st at 3:00 PM Pacific/6:00 PM Eastern and Thursday January 5th at 5:30 PM Pacific/8:30 PM Eastern to connect with a global community that will celebrate you becoming someone you’ve never been before.
  5. Share this New Year’s Ritual with your friends and loved ones to support them in having an unimaginable year.

From the bottom of my heart, I am wishing you a year filled with the knowing that you are the greatest gift there is. I love and support you in being the greatest expression of yourself in this new year. May your precious soul be watched over and protected each and every day. May you know yourself in a whole new way and may you see, even if just for an instant each day, how holy, divine and magnificent you really are.

With love and blessings,

Leaving 2011 Where It Belongs

As we welcome the completion of 2011 and open the door to an inspiring vision for 2012, there are a few things that are imperative to do before the year ends. Some of you know what I’m going to say and others of you are asking, “What?!” Well, I’m not talking about cleaning your house although that would be great. I’m talking about cleaning up your communication and forgiving those who have hurt you. Communication and forgiveness are ways of being kind and loving to all those who interact with us and more importantly it is a way to be kind and loving to ourselves.

As I began to explore cleaning up my own communications, I saw that there were a few people whose calls or emails I hadn’t returned. I want

ed to let them know that it wasn’t personal and that I love them but that I’d be off email and the phone for another six months or so. I saw that I needed to call my Aunt Laura and Uncle Sandy who I’d been out of communication with just because I’ve been off the phone. And I realized that I needed to clean up my communication with somebody who I was really angry with in the past. She knew I was angry and I could feel her continual pain as she kept reaching out to me for closure. I had long since released my anger and I wanted her to know so that she could let it go as well. In going through the process of identifying and then cleaning up these communications, I had the opportunity to set new healthy boundaries and I released myself and them from any unfinished business between us. 

This is the week for you to look for the should-haves and the need-tos in your life and to address as many of them as you can. Even if you send a short email or text or tell someone you’d like to set up a time to talk to them in the new year, take action to close these open loops. It doesn’t have to be a big deal. Just make a list of these incompletions as they occur to you and handle as many as you can. If you see you can’t handle any more of them, just pick a date in January where you will sit down and recommit yourself to this communication cleanup campaign.

It’s amazing what happens as you embark on this process. You’ll notice that as you move forward, you will watch with greater care what we commit to. Or you will clean up your communication in the moment so you don’t’ have to carry it around with you like an old bag of garbage.

I promise you that when you clean up these communications, they will stop floating around in your consciousness and new energy will be able to emerge. As you complete 2011, you are clearing the space for creating an inspired vision of the future. So allow this be a breakthrough four days when you clean up anything that’s left over.

I hope you’ll consider joining me for one or both of the community calls I’ve set up on December 31st and January 5th. I’ll be leading processes to support you in completing 2011 and envisioning 2012. I love you and I am wishing you the happiest and healthiest new year.

With love and blessings,

p.s. Come share your clean-ups with me on Facebook and Twitter.

PHOTO (cc): Flickr / Tim Morgan

Debbie Ford: Are You Running From Your Fear?

Many of you have been emailing and asking where have my newsletters have been. I’ve been huddled away writing my next book which I’m totally turned on by. I’ll send you excerpts throughout the year. Its publication date is April 24, 2012. They say it’s my best book yet. Sorry, gentlemen, it’s a book for women. Women of the world, are you ready for more courage and confidence? Are you ready to give up your fear? This book is the warrior’s code to finding your power, your strength and igniting your courage and confidence.

So let’s open up the conversation this week. Pick one area of your life where you have concerns or struggles. On a piece of paper, write out all of your worst fears related to this area and for the next week meditate five minutes in the morning and five minutes at night, sending each of these fears love, love, and more love.

Love the fears that you hold in your hand more than anything you have ever loved before.

Think about all the hours you have spent trying to deny, avoid, and get rid of these fears, and thank them for always bringing you into the presence of the limited human mind.

Thank them for sending you out to look for ways to get rid of them. Think of all you’ve discovered during your search!

Thank them for making you look at your life.

Thank them for this community, for your fears are probably what got you here…reading this right now.

Thank your fears for reminding you that you have a small child inside that is in desperate need of your love and attention.

Thank your soul for dispensing these fears to you, to help you find your way back home to God – the energy of pure love, the energy that trumps fear.

Love your fears like you have loved no other part of you – bless them, honor them, and use them as the holy reminders that they are…reminding you always to come home to your whole self.

If we just choose today to love where we have hated, to love where we have cowered in shame, and to love what we have made wrong, we will truly know the path to God like never before.

Transformational Action Step

This week, don’t allow your voice of fear to speak without acknowledging what it is and giving it some love in return…knowing that this fear is where the door to enlightenment lives.

With love and blessings,

Debbie Ford

 

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