I’ve spent my life’s work supporting people in working through their anger, their sadness, their grief, their disappointment, their frustration, their rage and their confusion. Working with our emotions is one of the most difficult things we’re asked to do in this human experience. And we can be sure that when we are struggling with or stuck in our emotions, it’s always because of our resistance to actually be with what’s going on.
I’m sure you’ve found this to be true. What you resist persists. What you can’t be with won’t let you be. No matter how hard you try to get rid of an unwanted emotion — whether you eat over it or drink over it or shop over it or work over it — it will always keep coming back until you allow and invite the emotion, the feelings, the thoughts, the fears and the resistance to be as they are.
Even though some people would call me a master of emotional freedom, I get stuck in my own emotions all the time. And when I do, I call one of my staff or one of my coaches and they work me through it. Lately I’ve been calling my dear friend Hale Dwoskin, listening to one of his recordings or watching a bit of his movie Letting Go. (I say “a bit” because I’ve watched it a few times now in its entirety.) Hale is the New York Times best-selling author and teacher of The Sedona Method which was created to support people in uncovering their natural ability to let go of any painful or unwanted feeling, belief or thought.
After Hale’s proven, powerful, and liberating techniques saved me once again from a gnarly mess of wound-up emotion, I realized that many of you don’t even know about him, his work and his movie. Letting Go works. So if you haven’t seen this movie, I really want to highly recommend it. I promise you that you’ll get your value out of it at least 10 times over if you stick with it.
Transformational Action Steps
I’m excited to share with you one of my favorite processes to make peace with my emotions.
1) Find a comfortable, quiet place and bring your journal and a pen.
2) Identify an emotion that you are resisting.
3) Take a deep breath and give yourself permission to give up your resistance.
4) Do to The Subpersonality Process by listening to this recording. In this process, give the emotion you are resisting a name other than your own and then use the process to dialogue with this aspect of yourself. You will be amazed by the gifts you discover.
5) Take the action or put in place the practice that will support you in making peace with this part of yourself.
Make this week the week of emotional release. You deserve it.
With love and blessings,
Originally published March 2011.