Double Standards and Deeper Spirituality

When I was a child I used to go to church with my family and learn all about the Holy Spirit. Then I’d go right back to school on Monday and live my usual petty, self-involved and mean-spirited life. There was no problem with this – that’s…

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Choosing Life, Choosing Happiness

My old college chum, Adam Phillips, has written his seventeenth book on psychoanalysis: “Missing Out”. It’s got a compelling premise – he writes about how the life we haven’t lived can haunt us and undermine the way we feel about the life we have. It’s an interesting…

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Death and the things we value

We give “value” to all kinds of things, some times in terms of money, and sometimes in terms of usefulness. Yet I think there is another set of values that we overlook at our peril – we value things by what we had to give up to…

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Dealing with Temptation

When temptation comes, be grateful. If you really do covet your neighbor’s wife or husband, don’t fight that feeling. Move towards it knowing that until you feel it, fully, as a temptation you could act on, it will have no reality. It will be merely theoretical. The…

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What is an intent?

When we say “I intend to eat better” or I intend to go shopping,” we express a future aim. Yet I have to say that true intent is more than just future goal-setting. True intent is not created by us planning our daily life. True intent is…

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