One of the key components of human consciousness that most of us need to address and change is our tendency to be hard on ourselves. We do this in ways that are both overt and subtle, and half the work sometimes is recognizing that we are doing it at all. For example, if we find it difficult to graciously accept compliments, this is probably a sign that we tend to be hard on ourselves. Other ways in which we express this tendency include never feeling satisfied with a job well done, always wanting to be and do better, and getting mad at ourselves for getting sick. Getting mad at ourselves at all indicates that we need to rescue ourselves from our learned ability to be unkind to ourselves. 
In essence, when we are hard on ourselves, we send our bodies the message that we are not good enough. Whenever we do this, we do damage that will need to be addressed later, and we sap our systems of much-needed energy. Being hard on ourselves is a waste of precious time and energy that we could use in positive ways. To begin to understand how this works, we can think about times when someone made us feel that we weren’t good enough. Even just thinking about it will create an effect in our bodies that doesn’t feel good. We may be used to the feeling, but when we really tune into it, we instinctively know that it is not good for us on any level.
Like any bad habit, being hard on ourselves can be a challenging one to release, but the more we feel the burden it places on us, the more motivated we will be to change. At first, just noticing when we are doing it and how it makes us feel is enough. As our awareness increases, our innate impulse toward health and well-being will be activated, moving us out of danger and into a more positive and more natural relationship with ourselves.
Is it a bad habit or a low self esteem ? Our interaction with the people around us is simlpy an exchange of energy.When our energy is depleted and this is because of certain complexes we have we try to regain energy absorbing it from those around us and thus conflicts arise ,we desperately have the need of approval to feel fulfilled and satisfied with ourselves.But once one knows how to get this energy from universe which is found in abudance,then he becomes free,without the need to be accepted and recognised from the others and then his self is automatically released from any "Bad habits"This is what we say is to get to know yourself and be real aknowledging your potentials and not try to be something you are not ,fake so to say.All miseries derive from this point ,of not knowing our selves.
Love
Despina
I agree whole heartedly with you Despina. It could be called a habit but the bottom line is that it stems from low self-esteem.
I agree whole heartedly with you Despina. It could be called a habit but the bottom line is that it stems from low self-esteem.
Thank you Csilla ,I'm glad our attitude coincides