24 Hours in Washington D.C. with my father, Deepak Chopra
In my book, Living With Intent, Take Action is an important step in my path to INTENT. The insight for this step came to me when my friend was diagnosed with breast cancer and I realized that the now is the time to live the purposeful and connected life I seek. (And for the many who have asked, the good news is that my friend is in remission.)
Loss has also reminded me to have gratitude and be present with those we love if we have the opportunity to do so. In my 40’s, many people I love have transitioned, and I have seen family and friends lose their parents, spouses, even children, to disease or senseless tragedy. My intent to spend time with loved ones is a priority for me. Continue reading
You arrive at the end of your day.
Do you know how many steps you’ve taken?
Do you know how many calories you ate?
How many minutes were spent on a phone?
How many spent on “you time” or wrangling kids or making dinner?
Where did the whole day go?
Sometimes our days are a cyclone at best. If we made it out alive, it’s cause for celebration. The trouble when we stay in a perpetual survival mode. We live constantly like we’re barely squeaking by- grab the cookie from the office kitchen since there’s not a second for lunch! Send one more email from bed! “What is this lady’s name?! I know I’ve met her before!!” Continue reading
Despite the fact that today we pride ourselves on being a culture of multi-taskers, I myself am anything but. For me, multitasking is the art of messing up several things at once. But we all know – and perhaps secretly despise – the woman who can seemingly do it all. And seamlessly, at that! Yes, she’s the one who gets up at 5 a.m., sprints to the gym, then showers, answers all her e-mails, fixes her family a breakfast of steel cut oatmeal with flaxseeds and warm organic maple syrup and is ready to go to the office as soon as she drives her two equally perfect children to school. Her male counterpart is just as Type A and accomplished. Not only does he hold down a high-powered day job, but he is a nationally ranked squash player and on weekends writes poetry when not competing in an Ironman Triathlon. In a pinch, he can re-shingle his roof.
One morning, many moons ago, I decided that I, too, could do it all. On that particular day, I also made my family oatmeal for breakfast and carefully chose my husband’s suit and tie. And as soon as I rushed my older sons off to the bus and took my little girl to nursery school, I hopped in the car and gave him door-to-door service to his office.
An hour later, all missions accomplished, I returned to my office and started to write my column with still plenty of time left to meet my deadline. I sat back in the chair and let out a large self-satisfied sigh, thinking to myself, Who said you can’t do it all? Just then the phone rang. Continue reading
From Further Secrets of Adulthood: If we’re too tired to do anything except watch TV or cruise the internet, go to sleep.
I have to admit, I struggle sometimes to remember this Secret of Adulthood. I don’t have trouble getting off the internet, but sometimes I watch TV because I feel too tired to read. Continue reading
If you want to give your kids an edge in life, teach them to perform under pressure. Doing so will be more helpful than giving them an SAT tutor, tennis lessons, or sending them to Europe to broaden their cultural awareness.
The fact is, most kids crumble under pressure —they perform below their capabilities when they want to do their best. I learned this truth while researching my latest NY Times Best Seller, Performing Under Pressure.
Whether it’s taking the SATs, auditioning for a school play, trying out for the tennis team, or having to play their guitar at a family gathering, pressure is apt to worsen your kid’s performance. Memory, attention, judgment, decision making, psychomotor skills are all downgraded when they are in a pressure moment—a situation in which they have something at stake and the outcome is dependent on their performance. Continue reading
The days roll by and sometimes you might wonder, “What did I do today? Did I get any closer to my goals and dreams?” Life gets busy and you get focused on what has to be done, not what you want to do. Your goals could be anything from finally losing those last 5 pounds to changing your career or moving to a new location.
Maybe every January you make the resolution that “this year will be THE year” but then before you know it, December rolls around and you are making the same resolution for next year. For many people, the rut just gets bigger and the opportunity to escape it seems less and less likely.
There are many very legitimate reasons why people get stuck in a rut. Life really is demanding at times. There can be health issues, family issues, and financial concerns, and sometimes the focus has to be on the emergency at hand, not on the dreams to come. But no one wants to feel unfulfilled and as if life is one big unrealized dream. What can you do, even in the midst of your daily life, to get unstuck and start to take those steps forward to the long-held dream?
Here are the five key steps to getting unstuck and moving toward where you want to go: Continue reading
Slamming doors. Cursing. Screaming. Stony silences. Constant criticizing. Throw in threats of suicide. This out of control 13 year old behavior, is unfortunately the behavior of many parents.
And if this is you, you need to know your kids are taking it all in. They feel the tension when the two of you are smoldering. They cringe when their parents argue about them. They become clingy when one parent threatens to leave. They retreat emotionally as the tension rises. Teachers notice something’s wrong even thought parents don’t. A seven-year study published in Child Development in 2012 showed that Kindergarteners whose parents fought with each other frequently and harshly were more likely to grow into emotionally insecure older children who struggled with depression, anxiety and behavior issues by 7th grade. Continue reading
Mallika Chopra comes from a family that understands the power of meditating and setting intents in living a life you’re genuinely proud of. Still, sometimes the lessons come in surprising new ways. For instance, the family dog, Yoda: Continue reading
This past week has been an immersion in to the world of “intention”, guided and inspired by Chopra.
First, as a multi-media editor reviewing books, the week began when I surprisingly (and excitedly) received Mallika Chopra’s new book “Living with Intent” in my mailbox. This began a 6-day journey in to Mallika’s journey through “Intent” which, of course, fueled my own journey in to intent. As a journalist and avid reader of self-help, I have always held a deep and professional intention to align with any of the Chopras in any capacity. So you can imagine how excited I was to learn my interview with Mallika about her book was confirmed. Continue reading