Category Archives: Happiness

Living with Intent: 6 Steps to Living a Healthier, More Joyful & Purposeful Life

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About two years ago, I approached my father (Deepak Chopra) with a confession. I told him I was generally exhausted, over caffeinated and my sugar addiction was out of control.  I realized I was overscheduled trying to balance my role as a wife, mom, and entrepreneur with Intent.com, my start-up social media company. I felt bloated and had a lot of body pain. I hadn’t been meditating or exercising much, and at night I was having trouble sleeping. My father looked shell shocked, and it took a few moments for him to transition from concerned father to Deepak Chopra, the person that thousands go to for health advice. Continue reading

Doing the Inner Work for the Outer Work in a Suffering World

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For the last 3 weeks, I participated in an intensive program at Teachers College (Columbia University) for my Masters in Psychology and Spirituality. During 9-hour days, we immersed ourselves in an academic understanding of the inherent spirituality in children, and how spirituality relates to personal healing, education, substance abuse and depression, and communication. The experiential learning included heart based connection, artistic expression, individual and planetary energy healing, Jungian symbol exploration and, of course, lots of meditation and intention setting.

I will be honest – at times I found the experiential exercises excruciatingly annoying. I have been meditating for 35 years, have attended conferences since my teens, and teach about intention and balance at conferences around the world! For me, returning to school at 45 was clear – my intent was to develop a lexicon of theories in spiritual psychology for my public speaking, and potentially future books and projects.

This endeavor was for my mind and my intellect, not my soul.

As we sat, day after day meditating, I found myself getting more irritable. Because, the world continued to happen…

Brexit, stirring fear and uncertainty

Terrorist attacks in Turkey, Bangladesh, Iraq, Saudi Arabia

The refugee crisis

My friend mourning her husband’s death to cancer

Philando Castile and Alton Sterling

Police shootings in Dallas

Accepting that we had to let go of Cleo, my brother’s dog Continue reading

Aging Gracefully

Aging Gracefully:
Noticing and Choosing What You Want As You Grow Older

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A few months ago, I did a panel, and follow-up interview with Prevention Magazine (a magazine which I love, by the way) on aging gracefully. How funny to find myself being a voice for that…

On the panel, as others talked about diet, exercise and how to look young, I found myself getting emotional as I thought about my grandfather, Nana, who had just passed away. I realized, while sitting on the stage, that aging gracefully for me meant living with dignity, being of service, and cherishing the relationships in my life. Continue reading

Like Me, Do You Get the Urge to Do Spring Cleaning? Here Are Some Areas I Plan to Tackle.

One of my great realizations about happiness (and a point oddly under-emphasized by positive psychologists) is that for most people, outer order contributes to inner calm. More, really, than it should. After all, in the context of a happy life, a crowded coat closet is trivial. And yet over and over, people tell me, and I certainly find this, myself, that creating order gives a huge boost in energy, cheer, and creativity.

So I’m a big believer in the value of clutter-clearing.

Also, I’m a big believer in using outer milestones as a catalyst for action or change. Whether that’s New Year’s day, September (the other new year), my birthday, or a holiday, I think it’s helpful to be reminded that I might want to make changes in my life. (Yes, Questioners, I know you think that January 1 is an arbitrary date. Noted.)

So spring, for me, is a reminder to think about spring clutter-clearing. I’m not inspired to do deep cleaning like window-washing, carpet-cleaning, or anything like that. Spring reminds me to tackle nagging clutter build-ups.

I look for places where I tend to stick things and forget about them. Do you have this problem? For me, I’m looking at these areas: Continue reading

Intent of the Day: Be Aware of Burnout

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How many times have you taken a day off, called out of work, skipped a fun night out because you weren’t just tired, you were done? Taking time for yourself, you thought “Great! Now I’ll be refreshed and ready to take on the world again!” only to find yourself running on fumes, short tempered and miserable days later? What you may be experiencing is burnout. It is a state defined as “emotional, mental, and physical exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress.” This can be stress from any arena- family, work, health, you name it. Going full speed, a tumultuous relationship, starting a business in a rocky financial environment, and and all of it can cause you to not only be exhausted. Rather than being seen as a badge of honor, that perceived exhaustion is actually a much more serious state taking a toll on your mind, body and spirit, not to mention your friends, family and those you interact with in big and small ways.

Before we burnout, we want to change our patterns.
We do not want to glorify working til we crash.
We intent to be aware of burnout.

You too? Here are 3 things to help you combat burnout: Continue reading

Intent of the Day: Decide What We Want First

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It was the millionth time in a row of feeling frustrated because plans weren’t settled or what you hoped they would be. It was the millionth time you felt under appreciated and forgotten in the midst of decision making. In the name of team work and collaboration we can find ourselves waiting to know our own feelings or make a decision until everyone else has decided and declared their own. Without realizing, we can find ourselves complicit in the act of not giving ourselves a voice. How does that happen?

Sometimes it feels rude or bossy to know what we want. But who decided that “rude” or “bossy” would be synonymous with know your feelings and intent? How often do we give others the opportunity to decide without judgement? Then why should we not give ourselves the same opportunity? It is far easier to adapt when you know where you stand to begin with, so today our intent is to decide what we want first. Before we’ve heard from the crowd. Before we let someone else decide for us. Before re resent people who have decided.

You ready to do the same? Here are 3 things to consider: Continue reading

How to Enhance Fertility: 8 Secrets from Mother Nature’s Perspective

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Making babies from a place of bliss is every woman’s ideal vision. You finally decide the time is right. You chart your ovulation; you take all the right supplements. But the sobering reality as a fertility coach I see women do all the “right” things and they still go through hell trying to birth their dreams.

I have also seen a common pattern: How these smart women have been approaching their fertility has left them feeling even more drained, disheartened, and empty.

But also look at the world we live in and it is no wonder; stress, toxic relationship patterns, addictions, negative headspace, technology, GMO, plastics, pesticides, oh my.

Could it be that our very environment is making us sick? Could there be a connection as to why our most fundamental abilities being threatened?

What if how we embrace our fertility has the power to change it?

Women everywhere are awakening to a higher perspective on fertility. One Mother Nature herself might teach if she had a book, Facebook page or an online course. I consult with her wisdom often because she has taught me that fertility is really about life – and what wants to be born cannot thrive unless we are. Here are the 8 most common teachings Mother Nature has whispered to me over the years: Continue reading

Intent of the Day: Feet Firmly Planted

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If you stand for nothing, you’ll fall for anything.
We’ve all heard some variation of that adage, right? Much like a misstep in the waves will send us tumbling down into the water, uncertainty in our beliefs can leave us feeling tossed about throughout our day. While staying pliable and open is also a positive attribute, we want to have a solid starting point. We want the confidence of standing for things that are tested and tried in our own lives, knowing that we can still be receptive to differing opinions and change. We intend to keep our feet firmly planted on the ground.

You too? Here are 3 things to help you do the same: Continue reading

Self-Care Isn’t Selfish! 5 Easy Ways to Practice Self-Care

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There have been a few times in my life that I have had what I refer to as a “light bulb” moment. It happens when something becomes so crystal clear and illuminated in my mind, almost like a light bulb has been turned on in a dark room.

I had a light bulb moment when thinking about my self-care routines, and ultimately it helped to transform me and change extended to my entire family.

As a young mom I had an idea in my head that being a martyr meant I was “doing it right.” I thought that putting everyone else’s needs before my own meant that I was proving my love to my family. The only problem was that when I did they got the exhausted, depleted, and overwhelmed version of Mommy.

We have all heard flight attendants instruct us to put our oxygen mask on before those that we are caring for. Every single time I fly I silently thank the airline for the gentle reminder. It never gets old.

We cannot share what we don’t have. If we don’t have reserves of energy that allow us to feel balanced and centered we can’t give our best to our children and loved ones, to our jobs, or to our friends and extended family.

The more I began to prioritize my own needs and care, by practicing meditation, mindfulness and gratitude, the more patient, present and joyful I became. I was able to bring the best version of myself to everyone that I cared about.

What I learned as I transformed from a “hot mess” to a “mindful mom” is that it doesn’t take as much time as one would think to practice self-care. Small tweaks had a huge impact on my life. Things such as: Continue reading

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