When we are choosing the people in our lives, we like to pick ones that comfort us and support us in our times of need. Part of our relationships with these people means supporting them as well. Some of us don’t really know what it means to be supportive, and we do the best we can.
So, what does it mean to be supportive? What can we do to connect with our loved ones better, and help lift them up without any burden to ourselves? Luckily, the answer is quite simple.
Many of us are fixers – we like to solve other people’s problems, lend a hand, and make sure everyone else’s lives are running smoothly. As a fixer myself, I know that more than enough time is spent on these tasks. Living as an adult child of an alcoholic means that I am well versed in the art of fixing, whether it is cleaning up after someone, fixing their mistakes, or bailing them out of trouble when that might not be the best thing for them. Being a fixer is not a bad thing; many of us are caregivers by nature, and we genuinely do love to help out. Being a fixer just means we spend a little too much time focused on fixing others.
Unfortunately, the best intentions can sometimes go astray. We know that we are coming from a loving place or wanting to help and connect with the other person. Constantly telling them how to fix their problems, however, is not what someone wants out of a supportive friend, and we often get pushed away. Continue reading
Several weeks ago we asked our Intent community “what are the life questions that come up most regularly?”
We received many excellent ones. Some we regularly shared. Some brought new perspective. We asked the author of Break the Norms: Questioning Everything You Think You Know About God and Truth, Life and Death, Love and Sex, Chandresh Bhardwaj to share his words of wisdom on the delicate topics and today we are happy to share and answer to our first question.
Why do bad things happen to good people? Continue reading
Since releasing Living with Intent: My Somewhat Messy Journey to Purpose, Peace and Joy in April of 2015, it has been wonderful to hear stories from readers about their own individual journeys to intent. As we celebrate the upcoming holidays, we would love to contribute to making that season special by offering signed bookplates for your copies of Living with Intent!
How do you get one for free?
1. Purchase Living with Intent from anywhere awesome books are sold. A retailer like Amazon will ship your book to you or a loved one lightning fast.
2. Email LivingWithIntentRSVP@gmail.com with the name you would like addressed on the bookplate.
ie- “Bookplate can be made out to Steve” or “Bookplate is for Dr. Smith”.
3. Include your mailing address* in that email so we can return your bookplate! When it arrives, affix inside a copy of Living with Intent, wrap and deliver! Continue reading
A few weeks ago I had the honor of being a panelist at The Parliament of World Religions conference in Salt Lake City. The Parliament of World Religions held its first conference in 1893, and since this date has attracted such remarkable speakers including: His Holiness The Dalai Lama, former president Jimmy Carter, Dr. Jane Goodall, Dr. Vandana Shiva, and Dr. Eboo Patel.
In September, I was in New York City when a professor asked me in person if I would be willing to join a Parliament panel and talk about my book, A Widow’s Guide to Healing, and immediately my heart was in my throat. It was not one of my finer professional moments as I couldn’t even muster up the words, “Thank you.” I didn’t answer “yes”. I said I had to think about it and this was partly true. I would need to make travel and work arrangements to get coverage at my day job, where I am a clinical social worker. The other part that I did not share was that I was scared. I was intimidated by the nature of such a large conference, attracting 10k people from 80 different nations and 50 different faiths, and the other panelists I knew had doctoral degrees from fancy ivy- league schools. I flew home and thought long and hard about this amazing opportunity and why I was so reluctant to accept it. Deep down I knew that it was my own insecurity because I had never have spoken in a panel format and I didn’t want to disappoint anyone, especially since I realized that the professor was taking a risk in even asking me to participate.
And a few days later, it occurred to me that I needed to revisit my original intent in writing my book. The intent was to be able to share the narratives of other widows so that a widow would be able to find herself in one of these stories and feel less alone. Before writing my book, the words that C.S. Lewis wrote “We read to know that we are not alone” rang true to me. And I know first- hand how lonely and scared grief can leave a person. I was 33 in 2007 when my husband, Roy, died from advanced adrenal cancer nearly eight weeks after being diagnosed with bronchitis at his family doctor’s office. Continue reading
There are lists for everything.
FBI’s Most Wanted.
But we are truly excited to see Fast Company’s list of the 100 Most Creative People in Business in 2015 where even the “bottom” of the list includes amazing innovators in science, technology, family and global health. It is a beautiful diverse group of men and women alike who have lived lives of intent, followed their passion, and in turn, are currently impacting the world for the better. Continue reading
Today is National Sibling Day!
You get to choose a lot of things in this life, but your family is not one of those things. Still, family requires intention to become strong, listening and loving. Continue reading
About two years ago, I approached my father (Deepak Chopra) with a confession. I told him I was generally exhausted, over caffeinated and my sugar addiction was out of control. I realized I was overscheduled trying to balance my role as a wife, mom, and entrepreneur with Intent.com, my start-up social media company. I felt bloated and had a lot of body pain. I hadn’t been meditating or exercising much, and at night I was having trouble sleeping. My father looked shell shocked, and it took a few moments for him to transition from concerned father to Deepak Chopra, the person that thousands go to for health advice. Continue reading
Being really alive.
As springtime arrives and the earth is waking up from a long sleep, we’re reminded of what it means to really live, to really bloom and grow. Everyday you have the option to put yourself on autopilot, to check out of everything happening around you. But what if you really embraced being alive? What would it look like?
Here are some gentle reminders of what it means to really be alive: Continue reading
Intent.com founder Mallika Chopra has been teaching people the power of meditation and living with intent for some time now. As a mom, businesswoman, and individual, she faces so many of the constraints many of us face in balancing ourselves with our lives, our dreams with our reality and our opportunities with what makes sense right now.
Dallas Brown at the Chopra Center recently sat down with Mallika to interview her about the journey to living with intent and her upcoming new book with the same title. We’re excited to share that with you here: Continue reading
I have spent the last two years working on Living with Intent: My Somewhat Messy Journey to Purpose, Peace and Joy — so it is both exciting and nerve wracking to finally begin sharing it! If you are interested in purchasing the book, I would be so grateful if you consider pre-ordering it now, and I am offering a special bonus gift to those who do. Continue reading