”Why does God allow children to suffer and die?” read the question. To which I answered: “Because God sees death as a beautiful transition, not a horrific disaster.” And he responded: “Every torturer sees someone else’s torture and death as beautiful.” And what did I say to that? I said this: “What if death is [...]
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Why Awareness Will Free Your Mind and Transform Your Heart
Awareness is a quality of being awake and present to the moment. All great athletic performances are an example of how awareness fuels high level performance. How does this apply to our more mundane lives? How can we tap into that quality of awareness to enhance our lives? Once we can identify and understand what [...]
Find Out What You Want – Step #8
See, this is my fear. The only one that is real. It is not that I will die, it is not that I might get sick, it is not pain. It is not a ruin that scares me. A bankruptcy, a homelessness. I feel no fear at the thought of losing Christopher and, if you [...]
A Personal Quiz to Find Out How You Respond to Expectations
I’m still obsessed with the four categories I’ve developed–which, for lack of a better name, I’m currently calling the Four Rubin Tendencies. These categories describe how people tend to respond to expectations: outer expectations (a deadline, a “request” from a sweetheart) and inner expectations (write a novel in your free time, train for a marathon). [...]
5 Ways to Never Be Stressed Again
Everybody feels stress and knows it intimately, but very few of us think about what stress actually is. Stress is a thought. That’s it. No more, no less. If that’s true, then we have complete control over stress, because it’s not something that happens to us but something that happens in us. The dictionary definition [...]
Free Yourself From the Cycle of Stress to Live More Fully Than Ever
For many of us this is a season when it feels that we are going faster and faster. Everything’s racing, through school semesters, wrapping up work commitments, entering the holidays; the currents of life are in full tilt. Given the time of year, one student fell into a period of intense stress resulting from a [...]
Find Out What You Want – Step #7
“God damn me!” I thought to myself today. We had such a splendid fight today, Chris and I, and I was so right! Oh, I was so sure of it, too, sitting in my studio, mulling over what he said and what his problem was and how he screwed up and how he really needs [...]
Tornadoes, Bombings, and Kidnappings – How Tragedies Activate Our Higher Selves (Part 2)
Click here for part 1. Author Seth Godin shares that, in today’s world, big change doesn’t happen top-down – by governments or companies deciding what to do. Big or epic change happens from the ground up. It happens as thousands of people decide how they want something to be and then go do it. We [...]
Tornadoes, Bombings, and Kidnappings – Making Sense Out of Tragedies (Part 1)
In what seems to be a period of an unprecedented amount of tragedies, we ask what is happening with our planet and with the people in our world? Tornadoes, earthquakes, tsunamis, and super storms; bombings, kidnapping, civil wars, battles over land and beliefs, and centuries’ old sectarian violence is all we hear about. Today’s news [...]
The One Superpower You Can Activate Anytime, Anywhere
Some superheroes wear capes and masks, crested unitards, and holsters filled with magical tools. But there’s another kind of superhero. The kind that wears smocked dresses with patent leather Mary Janes, grass stained jeans, and Red Sox caps. My kids are the latter kind. At least I’ve always told them so. When they were tiny [...]
