Category Archives: Mindfulness

Intent.com: Why Forgiveness?

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It was almost 10 years later when one of our Intent staff writers realized she hadn’t dealt with a three year relationship that almost ended in marriage. Cliche? Maybe. But she had told herself it was over and that she needed to move on and that’s what she tried her best to do. But what does that look like in a real, tangible way? Almost a decade later, she was just learning of all the ways resentment, anger and grief were still impacting her physically, mentally and emotionally.

In the course of a lifetime, you will likely experience much more than just a relationship that doesn’t work out. Betrayal, disappointment and violence of all kinds may be part of your story and the idea of forgiveness or restoration seems painful and distant. So is it worth it? Is there something to offering forgiveness and focusing on gratitude? Continue reading

How Far Will Your Arrow Fly: Reaching Beyond the Possibilities

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By Dan Castro

The next time you are tempted to say, “I’m out of options.  I’m defeated.  There is nothing left that I can do,” step outside on a clear, starry night.  Look up.  Recall that at one point in time, humans believed that all that existed was that which we could see with our own eyes.  The earth, the sun, the moon, and a sea of stars.      

As you look up at the stars, single out one star among all you can see.  Focus on it.  Zoom in on it with your mind’s eye.  Now mentally transport yourself to it and stand on it in your very own specially designed space suit.  Look deep into space.  Deeper.  Into the inky black night.   Isolate the darkest spot in the night sky.   

Now let your mind wander through that dark spot to the furthest edge of space you can imagine.  Stand there at that edge and reach out your hand.  What do you feel? Continue reading

Intentionality: Asking For Your Missing Piece

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Mark J. Chironna, c. 2016

The word “intentionality” derives from the Latin ‘intendere’ which means “to point at” or “to aim at”.  What makes you intentional is that your mental states and your consciousness are always directed towards, aimed at, and pointed towards something! Intentionality leads to being intentional! If you are thirsty, you intend to satisfy your thirst by drinking some water or another satisfying beverage.

McIntyre and Smith state: “an action is intentional when done with a certain ‘intention’, which means that you are in a certain mental state of ‘aiming’ toward a certain state of affairs”. Essentially, action and intention are inseparable. There is no passivity in intention. It is fueled by the very spark of intentionality within your mental framework.

Yet if intentionality is the spark of intention, what is the spark of intentionality? Continue reading

Forget New Year, New You! 2016 Intent: Take Small Steps to Make Lasting Change

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It’s January 8 and I am already way behind the New Year.

I have been eating a buttermilk biscuit for breakfast almost daily, and have worked out only once. (I did go for a 5 mile walk with friends.) I’m still tracking down addresses for our holiday (now New Year’s) card. I have an application sitting on my desk that I have had 6 months to complete, and that is due Jan 15th, and I will probably submit Jan 13th. (A day earlier than the deadline, because I have to teach and travel Jan 14th so that’s how long I can procrastinate). It took me a week to find Maria Kondo’s de-cluttering book in my stuffed drawers to lend to my sister-in-law.

I have so much to do for Intent, our company,  … like even posting my first intent for 2016 on our new Iphone app. Those who read my book, Living With Intent: My Somewhat Messy Journey to Purpose, Peace and Joy, may wonder, “oh dear, she still didn’t get her act together.” What a hypocritical writer!

But, I have to admit that this year, I am truly feeling a bit more grounded, more in control, more honest with my intents for 2016. While surfing the net, which I seem to have plenty of time to do, or opening up email newsletters from wellness blogs, headlines like New Year New You keep popping up.

Lose weight, stop eating sugar, find your dream job, feel your best, be the perfect mom.

Come on, who are we kidding!?

I’m not changing who I am this year. And, if I set resolutions (even 2 weeks late), I am only setting myself up for failure and disappointment. Lets admit it now, I will do my best to eat better, to cook more at home, to exercise regularly, to lose weight, to support my friends and family, to spend less money, to make more money, to grow my company, to promote my book, to meditate daily, to read more, etc! And I will make progress on some of these and totally fail at others.

My resolution is to give myself a break, to take one step at a time, to strive for change to lead a healthier, happier, more connected and more purposeful life. (My definition of Living with Intent.) And when I waver from the path – that messy journey – I will take a deep breath, indulge in my messiness for a while, and then reaffirm why I want to make changes.

My intents for 2016 are simple: Continue reading

Boost Your Self-Confidence in 5 Easy Steps

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We aren’t innately born with perfect self-confidence. In fact, I think I was born with the least amount of confidence in myself as was possible and it took me a long time to build it up. I spent years in high school feeling awkward, unbalanced, and just plain out of place despite the fact that nearly every other teenager around me felt the same. My low self-esteem swept me up into a flurry of years of college as a quiet, constantly-apologizing, ball of self-doubt.

Many of us spend our days criticizing or comparing ourselves to everyone, and because of this, you might realize you aren’t very content or comfortable in your own skin. You might become overly anxious because of this, stressed or even depressed. As I began investing more time into understanding how to love me for who I was and also figuring out just how to “gain self-esteem,” I began to realize how common my own journey was.

According to the UT Counseling and Mental Health Center at the University of Texas, low self-esteem can be a big cause of strained relationships, it can impair your performances at school and work, and can “create anxiety, stress, loneliness, and increased likelihood of depression.” On top of this, low self-esteem can even make you more vulnerable to drug and alcohol abuse. No one wants that.

Because of the change that this journey had on my life, I knew I couldn’t just walk merrily along my way and not share. So here are five ways to help you boost your self confidence. And know this: how you love and view yourself won’t change overnight. It will take time, and patience, but it will happen. And these five things aren’t the end-all, you will spend time each week practicing these things to keep your confidence and yourself in a good place. Continue reading

Have a Merry Intentional Holiday – an Intent Gift Guide!

Do they really need another silk tie? Or a generic gift card?
As you are doing your holiday shopping, we are excited to help include intent in your gift giving! Whether it be something for you or those you love, these mindful gifts are something we’d be proud to place under the tree.

If you’re wanting something pretty and personal:

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My Intent creates original jewelry featuring personalized words of intent.

Joy? Gratitude? You choose. We’re also happy to share our Intent discount code ‘INTENT20’ to receive 20% off your purchase!

ORDER HERE!

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We All Get Angry

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By Dr. Michael Levittan
www.michaellevittan.com

Anger is a universal emotion. Every human being gets angry at one time or another.  We all have experienced hurt, disappointment, deceit, rejection, betrayal, and many other slights and mistreatments in our lives. Though all people experience the feeling of anger, there are great differences in how people react to angry feelings. Some of us can respond assertively with thoughtful expressions. 

Problems arise when people respond by yelling, name-calling, using bad language, throwing things, slamming doors, making threats, hitting others, or abruptly ending the relationship. A less obvious problem occurs when people keep feelings to themselves and “stuff” their anger. We are all capable of erupting one day.

The very simple, but difficult first step to manage anger is to acknowledge that you are feeling angry! Most people may admit to feeling frustrated, or annoyed, or irritated, but not angry. It is as if “anger” is such a horrible word that you can’t acknowledge it.  Others may be angry, but not you! Continue reading

Something Called Peace: The Gift of Prayer from a Syrian Refugee

This article is from the January/February 2016 issue of Unity Magazine®.

“There is something called peace.”

Sometimes you hear someone speak and their words ingrain themselves into the creases on your palms and the blood in your veins. They settle into your bones and stay there, rattling around in your thoughts and refusing to let you hear anything else.

“There is something called peace,” the man before me promised, and in that moment, I knew these words would become a part of me—present in the mist of my breath on cold mornings and the salt of my tears when I cried—for the rest of my life.

Miles from the Syrian/Jordanian border on a chilly evening in the fall of 2014, my study abroad classmates and I were huddled together in a dusty patch of dirt between expansive crop fields and a small farmhouse, speaking with a Syrian woman, a Jordanian farmer who was allowing her and her daughters to stay on his land, and a translator who interpreted their words from rapid, tearful Arabic for us. The woman had recently fled war-torn Syria with her two daughters after the Islamic State (ISIS) had taken control  of her neighborhood. The threats had become too stifling, too real, to ignore.

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