The path through life brings many challenges to all of us. One of the most common challenges we face is the need to give and receive forgiveness. It’s something that bonds us all, regardless of our background or place in life.
The new movie The Shack illustrates this concept beautifully. In this movie, the main character loses his child in a horribly brutal way. The pain from this ordeal leads him to question everything about his life. Often it is through pain and tragedy that we are all forced to step back and examine our lives.
The character, Mack, goes through four stages of forgiveness that represent what we all need to go through at one time or another. Through his experience, we can all learn a great deal about hope, love, forgiveness and the divine power that is always available to us if we simply are willing to receive it.Continue reading →
Patience and perseverance
have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish.
-John Quincy Adams
These are tough times. It is hard to know the difference between what is real and what is propaganda, what requires our full attention and what is just distracting noise, what is truth and what is the fear of what-if. So what will disarm this fear? What is the best way to combat the anger? Will we fight fire with fire and will anything be left standing after the fire storm? Today our intent is to address conflict with patience.
2016 was a particularly stressful year for many of us. Families and friends were divided politically, socially, geographically and that can force us to reconsider all we took for granted and expected from our relationships. What if we don’t agree? What does that mean for all of us? While this can feel scary, we want to consider a different and more empowering question. What will love look like when it’s full of intent?
We are excited about the opportunity to take an active role in deciding what love will look like for us. We are excited to be purposeful when it comes to loving those around us and beyond. To love with intent is to give our best effort at making a difference. Today our intent is to decide what love will look like for us.
You too? Consider what it’ll look like to love these 3 groups of people in your life: Continue reading →
Today in the US polling places are filled with people who are going to make history with their votes. We’ve been inundated for months with opinions of every person with a computer, phone or video camera. Who should win this election? What are the issues that matter most? Which issues are being underrepresented? Everyone has an opinion and sadly, it seems like it has brought out the worst in so many. It happens when people feel violated. It happens when people feel unseen and unheard. It happens when people are scared. Regardless of what happens, the sun will still come up in the morning. The hands on the clock will move forward. Your neighbor will still be your neighbor. So today our intent is to speak kindly.
You too? Here are some things to help:
Not every thought we have needs to be spoken out loud. We know that may be hard to believe. But words, like the feathers of the proverbial pillow, have a hard time being gathered back up and replaced once they’ve been set free. Before rushing to say everything that pops into your mind, make sure you’ve heard clearly and correctly. Consider whether your opinion helps or hurts the situation at hand in this very moment. Not sharing something doesn’t make you less right. Sharing something doesn’t mean you are right at all. Today, choose to think twice before speaking. Think of the bad day.
There are roughly 7.5 billion people on this planet right now. That is 7.5 billion people with 7.5 different upbringings, different day jobs, different routes they traveled to work today, different hours of sleep they got the night before. Before being harsh or seeing someone as a speed bump in your day, consider the possibility that this my be the worst day of their life. Imagine what you would want from a friend, family member or even a stranger on the worst day of your life. There is significant power in being able to empathize and maybe kind words are the unexpected solution to a bad situation. (We love this commencement speech by David Foster Wallace where he encourages us to see the people who frustrate us as complete humans with experiences we don’t fully understand, instead of roadblocks or hindrances.) Think of what you’re making.
The words we speak are making something. They are building things up or tearing things down. They are strengthening and affirming or they are weakening and destroying. Some things in our lives need to be torn down and some need to be built up so, you decide your intents and the future you are trying to create. If it’s a world that’s a little more peaceful, a little kinder, a little softer, then do you part in your tiny corner of this earth to create that. Create that by choosing kindness when you speak. Choose it by letting your words matter every time they come out of your mouth. Because those words have weight and they give life to things that you may never fully grasp. Words of encouragement have encouraged the underdogs of our world to achieve amazing things. Words of discouragement have torn down many a brave and hopeful human. What are you making?
To be considering forgiveness means you have something to forgive. It means you’ve been hurt, betrayed, upset, done wrong. It is the story of us as people: helping and harming, sometimes in the same breath, and so many of us walk through our days with battle wounds amassed over the years. From strangers. From friends. From family. From our spouses.
Holding on to the anger and sadness has been a heavy burden, so today our intent is to forgive. We understand that forgiveness can be complicated and take a long time. It can feel unfair and it can feel weak, but we hope to change our minds on that. Are you creating an intent to forgive as well? Here are 3 resources that helped us: Continue reading →
Our intent is to be at peace with the unknown. That might be health. That might be timing. That might be your job or a relationship. The unknown can arrive at any time and rather than be scared of it, we intent to embrace it and walk forward in confidence.
This video from Mallika Chopra about pursuing purpose, peace and joy no matter what the circumstance.
Whether you’re in sickness or health, good times or bad, richer or poorer, living a life of purpose, peace and joy is possible and so important. How to do you get there when so much is unknown? Mallika Chopra shares 6 ways from her book Living with Intent. to tune your mind and actions.
Many of us know that experiencing the loss of someone in our life can be devastating.Each one of us processes death differently and in our own time.Finding tools to assist us in this process can be a miraculous thing.Music can be an amazing catalyst to assist us in processing challenging emotions such as anger, sadness, guilt and anxiety that may occur in the bereavement process.Songs can be amazing messengers in these challenging times that provide comfort and allow us to bring our feelings to the surface. As we begin to deal with our emotions, the healing process can begin.Here are a few suggestions to utilize music as a coping mechanism during bereavement.Continue reading →
We are familiar with the feelings of stress and anxiety.
We recognize the pounding heart, the tension in your forehead, the narrowed scope when it comes to listening and even seeing what’s going on around you.
As negative as those things can be, it can be easy to fall into what is familiar and culture can tell us that being stressed is standard. If stress is familiar, we can end up there over and over again. We can forget that it isn’t a healthy place to stay.
Do you know what peace feels like? It can feel more foreign than we realize because peace will require you to intentionally slow down to experience it, and the world is not always supportive of slowing down.
What does peace feel like? Does it feel like a lowered heartbeat? Does it feel like an unclouded mind? Does it feel like the weight has been removed from your shoulders?
What does peace sound like? Look like? Smell like?
If we don’t make space to experience peace, are we ever going to be in a mindset where we can make clear decisions, feel the fullness of now or really see people?
Not sure if you know what peace feels like? Here are some resources that might help: Continue reading →
Today our intent is to end the day the same way we began, in peace. We’ve found that when we start in a tornado, it’s more likely that we’ll end that way. At the same time, we can be intentional about our morning and then let that intentionality dwindle as the day drags on. Mindfully, we want to start and end the day in peace and working from that posture in between.
Do you share this intent? We want to share these resources to help!
A morning meditation to start the day off right
Begin your day by setting your intent and clearing your mind of the noise that comes from schedules, anxiety, traffic and that alarm on your phone. Decide what matters to you and how you want to enter this day. Peace? Joy? Confidence?
Bedtime yoga to help you sleep
If your daily routine involves just collapsing into your bed every night, this is a great place to start a new routine- one where you mindfully prepare for rest. Let peace be included in your unwinding from the day, mindfully releasing anger, stress, fear and anything else that may keep you tossing and turning.
40 Ways to Create Peace of Mind
Does it feel like peace is easy to lose once you get into the swing of things? We loved this article of 40 ways to create peace of mind. If we are willing to put in the effort, we can bring ourselves back to a starting point of peace in the most hectic of situations.
Hello all! Today I want to talk about the topic of perfection. As codependents and love addicts, we have striven for perfection constantly, only to be disappointed when our expectations were not met. Whether it was someone else we were trying to impress or just ourselves, we were hard on ourselves for not executing it perfectly.
We don’t have to be hard on ourselves. Nobody in this world is perfect! We seem to hear that from people all the time, but the struggle is in understanding and really believing it.
We look at other peoples’ lives, especially with social media, and they seem to have it all – jobs, families, houses, vacations, and happiness. But there is so much of peoples’ lives that we do not see, and each person has their struggles. Truly, nobody is perfect. Continue reading →