“Temperament does not predestine one man to sanctity and another to reprobation. All temperaments can serve as the material for ruin or for salvation…It does not matter how poor or how difficult a temperament we may be endowed with. If we make good use of what we have, if we make it serve our good desires, we can do better than another who merely serves his temperament instead of making it serve him.”
–Thomas Merton, Thoughts in Solitude
This passage from Merton caught my attention, because of my Four Tendencies framework for personality.
In that framework, I divide all of humanity into four types: Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel. (Want to find out what you are? The Quiz is here. Almost 500,000 people have taken it.) Continue reading
“We conceive…a sort of gratitude for those inanimated objects, which have been the causes of great or frequent pleasure to us. The sailor, who, as soon as he got ashore, should mend [build] his fire with the plank upon which he had just escaped from a shipwreck, would seem to be guilty of an unnatural action. We should expect that he would rather preserve it with care and affection, as a monument that was, in some measure, dear to him.”
–Adam Smith, The Theory of Moral Sentiments
I love this passage, but the old-fashioned language may make it difficult to understand Smith’s point: when some object has done us great service, we’re reluctant to get rid of it.
Do you feel this way? I sure do. Continue reading
“One lives in the naïve notion that later there will be more room than in the entire past.”
–Elias Canetti, The Human Province
I continually remind myself of this truth. Too often, I tell myself, “I’ll have time for this when summer comes,” “Things will slow down in the fall, and I’ll be able to tackle this,” “Next year, I’ll do it.”
No. Now is the time to do the things that are important to me.
It’s false to believe that there will be more time in my future than there has in my past.
How about you? Do you promise yourself, “I’ll do this — later?”
Today is International Women’s Day and we honor the bravery and courage of lady thought leaders who have done much to affect culture through science, literature, arts, mathematics, design, parenting and beyond: Continue reading
“Love yourself” is simple to say and sometimes the most difficult thing to do.
It means asking ourselves what love is.
It means asking ourselves what we believe our value to be.
It can mean dismantling a lifetime of false or negative beliefs.
Scientists have taught us for hundreds of years about inertia and a physical object’s “resistance of any physical object to any change in its state of motion”. People are not always unlike that in an emotional or mental sense. Changing direction can be a struggle even when we detect that we’re headed down a road we’ve stopped wanting. It will take force. It will take focus. It will take intent to change, to push yourself to be the best you, to keep pushing when you get tired.
Today we are happy to help with the pushing. We are sharing words of wisdom from brilliant minds who believe that loving yourself is worth the work: Continue reading
There’s a lot of hype around the New Year to make a bold statement or write a list of resolutions for the coming year. We imagine it’s because January 1st is such a clear starting line. You have 365 (366 this year!) to chart progress and you’re in the midst of the whole world launching into new goals and pursuits alongside you.
But changing your life can be daunting.
What if you fail?
What if you forget or lose motivation?
What if it requires more work than originally expected?
The good new is that January 1st isn’t the only day we wake up brand new.
Every 24 hours is an opportunity to do something different, to make a bold choice, to risk.
Everyday is a chance so we’re going to encourage you to go for it.
Whatever that big dream, goal, intent might be, just go for it.
In case you need a little extra support, here are some words from the wise about kicking off a new year: Continue reading
“In the process of letting go you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself.“
– Deepak Chopra
What do you want in the new year?
What will you need to make that happen?
Where do we get what we need?
Today might be Friday the 13th but don’t be afraid. It is also World Kindness Day!
It requires no dollar amount. It requires no prep time. It only requires that you notice where you are and who is around you. There is kindness in connecting and in putting action to your words and feelings so we gathered words on kindness from voices of wisdom in history. What is kindness to you?
Kindness in words creates confidence.
Kindness in thinking creates profoundness.
Kindness in giving creates love.
Truth is a deep kindness that teaches us to be content in our everyday life and share with the people the same happiness.
My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness.
Human kindness has never weakened the stamina
or softened the fiber of a free people.
A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough.
-Franklin D. Roosevelt
Wherever there is a human being,
there is an opportunity for a kindness.
-Lucius Annaeus Seneca
You cannot do a kindness too soon,
for you never know how soon it will be too late.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
The level of our success is limited only by our imagination and no act of kindness, however small,
is ever wasted.
To practice five things under all circumstances constitutes perfect virtue; these five are gravity, generosity of soul, sincerity, earnestness, and kindness.
Yesterday, when my daughters and I came home after school, I put on the live stream of Hillary Clinton testifying before the Benghazi hearings.
I’m not sure if they were 6, 7 or 8 hours into grilling Hillary Clinton yet, but at that particular moment, a Republican congressman was shouting at her. My girls watched, first with horror and then laughing – who is that man? (Actually, my 11 year old daughter asked “Who is that crazy man?”) As he continued to give his own theory on Hillary Clinton’s actions around Benghazi, my 8th grader, who has done mock trials in Elementary and Middle School, asked if that is how a hearing is supposed to go – are you supposed to make up someone else’s story? Or, are you supposed to ask questions, listen, and gather information, facts?
But it was Hillary’s demeanor – calm, collected, in control – that made the most dramatic impression on my daughters and me.
She listened. She reviewed her notes. She didn’t attack.
She smiled as a panel in front of her berated her with nonsensical questions. She acted like a seasoned world leader.
Here are a few life lessons that my girls and I talked about after the debate: Continue reading