When people talk about visualization strategies it is often in the framework of seeing yourself as you want to be when you are at your goal. This is certainly important as one part of the visualization process since if you don’t know where you are then you won’t know the steps you need to get to that destination. However, there are smaller steps to visualizing success that can help you make the right decisions every day of your life. Instead of just focusing in on the huge mega plan, you also need to spend time seeing yourself being successful in the details as well. Continue reading
Noticing and Choosing What You Want As You Grow Older
A few months ago, I did a panel, and follow-up interview with Prevention Magazine (a magazine which I love, by the way) on aging gracefully. How funny to find myself being a voice for that…
On the panel, as others talked about diet, exercise and how to look young, I found myself getting emotional as I thought about my grandfather, Nana, who had just passed away. I realized, while sitting on the stage, that aging gracefully for me meant living with dignity, being of service, and cherishing the relationships in my life. Continue reading
Lots of people argue about whether or not there is anything special about December 25th.
Maybe it’s Christmas, maybe it’s just Thurdsay.
Whatever today is to you, we encourage you not to miss an opportunity to share love and joy with those around you. Continue reading
For many months I’ve been on an international speaking circuit teaching lessons from my new book, Miracles Now. In each of my talks, my primary message is to Be the Light. In today’s blog I share one of the lectures from this tour when I taught at the Wanderlust Festival in Squaw Valley. Surrounded by mountains, I offer lessons from my own spiritual path and guidance on how to step into the light. Continue reading
Last week the real spiderman passed away quietly in Minnesota as a result of brain cancer.
At least, that is the story according to one self-written obituary for Aaron Purmort. In it he says goodbye to “first wife Gwen Stefani, current wife Nora and their son Ralph” and asks Ralph to avenge his father’s untimely death. In truth, Aaron and his young family shared their life and love story, via Nora’s blog, which included cancer as of 2011: Continue reading
Today it is Thanksgiving here in the United States and for many of us, it comes as a much needed respite from the to-do lists, the preparations for winter, the closing of another year. It’s been said that a thankful heart is a happy heart. We’re inclined to believe that is true. Continue reading
I’m sure most people are grateful when we choose to be patient with them.
We don’t always give ourselves the same consideration.
So here are some thoughts on giving yourself a little breathing room: Continue reading
I’ve been living with my boyfriend for the last 4 years. He keeps saying that he wants to get married, but he also keeps looking at singles sites and he won’t actually propose and make it what we’ve talked about. He also isn’t working and he’s not looking for a job. I’m not sure what I should do? Please help. Continue reading
Today is the Indian festival of “Diwali”, a festival of lights celebrated all over the world but maybe you’ve never participated or heard of the annual holiday.
What is it?
How do you celebrate?
Who celebrates Diwali?
I recently left my husband of 11-years: it has been a battle from the very beginning. It was an abusive relationship including alcohol and drugs. My question is am I making the right choice by leaving and planning on divorcing him? I’m struggling with my decision to do this.
I also recently applied to go back to school. I want to do this and I have everything paid for, but I need a job. I’m struggling to make the decision to go to work or school and I need to get a place so I can move back to a different town where my kids will attend school. I’m afraid I’m making all the wrong choices, but since I have left, so many doors have opened up to me. I’m excited but also afraid that I need to stay with my husband: that he will truly change and be a good husband.
You are indeed on the right path: it’s why it feels so right: and yet so uncomfortable.
Eleven plus years have been spent in torment, anguish, denial and pain.
A decade of hiding the truth just so you could feel the slightest bit normal…sane.
Addicts routinely make promises they never keep: it’s in their DNA. Their need for the next fix, score or drink is so strong, it eviscerates all rational thinking: judgment: responsibility: or accountability.
Substance Abusers and Addicts are illnesses in need of treatment. By second-guessing your decision to remove yourself from this toxic environment by separating and ultimately divorcing, you leave the door wide open for yourself to continue as an enabler.
The only thing you want to enable: is your forward momentum and recovery.
You and your children would be wise to seek counseling in order to truly cleanse your souls. To unburden oneself is to wash away the residue of that which was left behind by lasting impressions.
You never have to stop loving your husband and father of your children. You just have to love your self more: and him enough so as to allow him to fall, so he may yet rise…if he so chooses.
Empower yourself by educating yourself.
Demonstrate to your children the depth and determination of your will, the levity and gaiety of your spirit, and the strength of your convictions.
Open yourself to the many doors and windows that will continue to open for you, as you seek to move and align yourself with your highest purpose and ideals.
Be forgiving of yourself and others, as forgiveness speeds the momentum of your recovery.
Be patient, yet confident, in all your dealings and decisions. Life is not a sprint, but a marathon.
Enjoy the journey, as you will come to discern the destination is fluid, not fixed.
Above all else, believe with all your being that you are doing the true and right thing.
Be steadfast: not steely.
Ultimately, Peace comes to those who willfully believe they are worthy of it.
Be worthy of Peace.
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