Before the day gets away from you, take a minute.
Find a quiet corner.
Shut the door, turn off the lights if you need to.
Give yourself a minute to check in with yourself: Continue reading
Before the day gets away from you, take a minute.
Find a quiet corner.
Shut the door, turn off the lights if you need to.
Give yourself a minute to check in with yourself: Continue reading
Does it ever feel like being a realist is synonymous with being a cynic? You want to stay grounded in your hoping and dreaming, so you end up focusing on the worst case scenario. If you’re aware of the worst case, at least you can’t be disappointed. But there are plenty of books, news articles and bumper stickers that remind us about the power of positive thinking. Continue reading
Everybody has a dream in their heart. They stem from our unique gifts which are part of our higher purpose here on this earth to share with the world. When the life we’re living is not in alignment with this calling, it can result in feeling less than happy and fulfilled.
But, it’s not always easy to muster up the courage to go after your dreams and break status quo. What if you fall short? Where do you even begin?And those who do find the strength to go for it sometimes give up too soon upon realizing it’s more difficult than they imagined. Things aren’t happening as fast as they “should.”
I’m here to tell you – don’t give up on your daydream! What that little voice inside is telling you and the direction your heartstrings are pulling you is some not-so-subtle guidance on how to live your life with intent and purpose. If you want to be ridiculously happy, you have to follow the calling and live and breathe your truth.
But how? It takes time, persistence, flexibility, focus, energy, and a darn good sense of humor doesn’t hurt, either. As an unconventional 7-figure CEO that runs multiple business ventures, I have fallen flat on my face plenty of time. And, yeah, I’ve even felt like throwing in the towel a time or two. It sucks when the Universe punches you in the gut. But, it happens to the best of us. And, there is usual a pretty major lesson and opportunity for growth within … if you stay open to it. In these instances along my journey, I got up, brushed myself off, and kept trying. And, in the process, I learned a thing (or seven) about what really limits our success and learned how to overcome these blocks. They’re not what you typically hear about or learn in business school, either. While business savvy is important, these truths touch more on the spiritual side. They can help elevate your success to a whole new level.
How to Overcome the 7 Biggest Blocks to Success
Of course, business savvy is always a plus when it comes to turning your dreams into reality. You need to bring a unique offering to the table or have the ability to solve problems and a strategic business plan that covers all the business nuts and bolts. But, there is so much more beyond the physical world that also plays a major role. When you combine both the practical and the metaphysical, you become a powerful creative force to be reckoned with, you dream-chaser you! Now go make some magic happen. xo
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As we sit on the heels of a global tragedy, an airplane willed with passengers who have friends and family they’ll never see again lost in the Indian Ocean, it’s hard not to face the fact that, with all the advancements of modern technology, we only have so much control over our lives. We only have so much say over what happens to us. We can only know so much.
“The invariable mark of wisdom is to see the miraculous in the common.”
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
My challenge to you today is to appreciate the here and the now.
Don’t wait for something to make it special.
It is special purely for the reason that you had no clue if the here and now was going to last this long, but it did.
So where do you start? Maybe just with a couple of questions.
What is important to you?
What is running you ragged?
What will you regret as your last moments arrive?
What will you be most proud of as your last moments arrive?
Now sounds like a good time to think about it.
In case you need some encouragement, here were some great intents from the site this week. People are getting focused on what’s important. You can too!
I am an adult with a Best Friends Club.
You read that right.
I remember being a kid and making a list of friends for my birthday.
20 people on the list? Man, I was popular.
But I also remember asking my parents if they had 20 friends.
I’d never seen them hang out with their friends late at night.
They weren’t going to meet friends at Hot Wheels Roller Rink like I was.
Did they not have any friends?
I decided I would never be an adult without friends.
Then I grew up. I’ve realized how difficult it can be to maintain relationships as you get older. People have jobs. They move away to different states. They get married and have kids. They start posting really weird political things on their Facebook pages. Being an adult with friends can be tough.
A really wonderful and wise man I know wrote this blog about Mastermind Groups.
Based on his description, a Mastermind Group is “12 (or less) people meeting once a week, reading books, and sharing life together.” He talks about how starting his own group of 5 guys who were in similar places in their lives pushed ALL of them to levels they never thought imaginable.
So I did it.
I started a secret club with four of my friends (really, there’s no reason for it to be secret. It just made it more fun for all of us and when you’re adults, sometimes you have to make your own fun) and we get together to share scripts and books, work on writing projects together and occasionally eat fancy foods. We check in with each other. We set goals for delivery of new material. We work on writing stuff.
The interesting thing is that our mastermind group kind of overflowed into the rest of our lives. Aside from the really great accountability it provided for us to get pen to paper, there were some other unexpected things we took away from this group:
1. Choose your team well.
When you’re in elementary school, your friends are the 23 other kids that happened to be assigned to the same teacher. The nice thing about being an adult is that you can be active in deciding who does and does not have access to you. So choose your team well! Choose people who allow you to feel like yourself. Choose people that are going to challenge you, not just fill the room with hot air.
2. Spend your time well.
Making time for something in your life that will meet regularly is a quick way to see what fluff is filling your calendar. I say time and time again that if your favorite thing to do is cook but you make no time for cooking, what are you doing instead? If the fruits of your labor with your mastermind group are the things you want most, you’re going to have to find places to cut back elsewhere. And don’t forget that the meeting time isn’t the only time you need space. If you’re writing, you have to have time to write if you’re going to bring anything to the group. Don’t forget that important piece of the puzzle!
3. Communicate well.
When there are 5 people you’re managing, you have to learn to be quick and honest. We don’t have time to waste rambling or not being intentional. So whether it’s in our meetings, where we employ stopwatches when we’re sharing material, or in our email chains, a date for our next meeting is suggested and everyone has until the end of the day to respond , we have learned that dragging out communication means keeping all of us in limbo. A real quick way to have 5 angry people is to keep them all in limbo. So be decisive. If you can’t be somewhere, say it. If you can, say it. You don’t want 4 masterminds turning against you.
So who would be in your group?
And what do you even want accomplished?
Maybe it’s a group that exercises together.
Maybe it’s a group of budding entrepreneurs.
Maybe it’s a group of moms or comedians or people from Washington state.
You get to decide. They’re your friends after all.
I’ve had trouble with social anxiety since I was a kid. For holidays I would hide in the bathroom or some hidden corner of my room just to avoid having to talk to family members we didn’t see on a regular basis. Today I am the most grateful person for Dominoes online ordering service so I don’t have to actually call the store and converse with whoever answers the phone. Initiating conversations in general sounds pretty horrifying as far as I’m concerned (note my job as an internet blog editor). So it is with a great flare of irony that I didn’t find my footing in Los Angeles until I started taking improv classes at Upright Citizens Brigade.
For those not familiar, Upright Citizens Brigade specializes in long-form improv. So you and your scene partner start having a conversation and build a comedic scene around a “game” or a repeatable funny idea. And it’s all made up on the spot. So basically, you spend 3 hours a week for 8 weeks starting random conversations with people you just met. At the end of the course you then try to have one of those conversations (praying it’s funny) in front of every friend and family member you could convince to pay $5 to see it. It’s insanity – the definition of my worst social nightmare – and it’s the best thing I’ve ever gotten myself to do.
Don’t get me wrong, I have to pry myself off the back wall for every initiation I make. I want to throw up before 90% of shows I do and when I see the pros do it I am astounded at their ability to make it look so easy. What I’ve learned through my two years of classes and indie shows though has not only helped me develop as a performer (When I moved here I would rather be hit in the face with a shovel than be accused of being an actor, but now I have head shots. It’s definitely part of the dream) – but the rules of improv have helped me become a better person in life. Don’t believe me? Try a few of these basic principles and see the good it does for your own relationships.
1. Listen – This is the first and most important rule of creating any scene – but it should be the first rule of any interaction you have. Get out of your head and stop thinking of what you’re going to say next and actually take a second to hear the words someone else is saying. Watch their body language. Take notice of the intonation of their voice and make sure you understand what it is they are trying to tell you. For better or worse, everything said at the top of your scene if your foundation but it is only through listening that you can lay down bricks next to each other in a coherent fashion. Listen first, and you’ll be shocked how much easier it is to talk second.
2. “Yes and…” – Tina Fey has a similar list to this in her book Bossypants (which everyone should read) and she talks a lot about the “Yes and..” rule. This is actually the first thing you learn in improv. Your job as a performer is to agree. What does this mean? Don’t deny anything your scene partner says. You do not have to agree with it, but you’re not allowed to negate it or say that it isn’t true. It’s disrespectful and ruins the progress their contribution made. In real life terms, saying yes being means staying open to someone else’s ideas. It goes hand-in-hand with listening, really. The truth of the matter is that we’re all on this planet together and no one gets anything done alone. Honestly, it’s a lot more fun when you’re contributing together and a lot less stressful than trying to build an empire by yourself.
That brings us to “and..” This is the hardest part. You have to agree, and then add to the conversation. You have to participate. Otherwise you leave your scene partner doing all the heavy lifting and often times a scene will stall. It’s the same in life when you just plod through saying yes without actually getting involved. You become an inactive observer and before you know it you’ve watched so much go by without ever being part of it. So be open and jump in.
3. Be honest – When you’re building a scene it only works when everyone agrees that what you’ve built is real. If halfway through someone says “Ha, but I lied!” then it negates all the work up until that point. If you tell one lie then it’s impossible to be sure if anything that you’ve said has been the truth – on stage or off. An extension of this is don’t be coy. A lot of beginner improvisers will pretend to have a secret or delay saying their full idea because they think it will prolong the scene but really all it does is prolong the frustration. When you’re direct with what you’re thinking then it can be dealt with and built into the universe. When you’re dealing with real life relationships being direct may cause more confrontation initially, but the problems can be dealt with immediately and you learn only to make issues out of things that you really care about. When you purposefully try to be sneaky you waste scene time on stage, and you waste time in your relationships, for what? Something you’re going to have to deal with eventually, so just do it now so you can move on to better things.
4. Be a human – My favorite improv coach started our first class by saying the most popular critique he would give us would be “Be humans to each other.” It sounds like common sense, right? I mean, how would we not be human to each other? What he meant was to combine all of the aforementioned rules and react to our partners like real people. We may be making things up but comedy comes from truth and you create a richer scene when you play it real. Being a human means you have to listen to what your scene partner says and be affected. If they insult you then you need to be honest and show that you’re insulted. If you’re not insulted then you better “yes and…” with the reason why. Sometimes in the real world we don’t take the time to be affected by the things around us. We’re moving too quickly in our own bubbles to absorb the events in our lives. When you take a second and process how something makes you feel and you react honestly to it you make progress. You learn. You grow. You’re more empathetic to others and you’ll find that it’s much less stress for you.
Improv hasn’t changed who I am, but it has given me several tools to be a better version of it. I will probably always choose the online option over calling it in, but at least I know I can get off the wall if I want to. I know that not all the pressure is on me, and if I can listen and react honestly then there’s the potential to create something out of nothing. Isn’t that the magic we’re all looking for?
How do you try to be a better human? Share in the comments below!
“If everyone is moving forward together,
then success takes care of itself.”
There’s something unstoppable about a group of people dreaming big in conjunction.
It’s like one truly passionate person creates this open door for more and more people to dream big and join the party. It just takes that one to be bold, to have the audacity to believe that they could be the one who sees the vision in their head become a reality. It’s that one who gives you permission to be audacious along with them.
So, it’s Monday. If you were waiting for the one, here are three.
Three images to click on leading to projects that are in the dream phase.
Three people who are saying “this is where I’m headed because I believe in this.”
Read their stories. Share you’re own.
You could be one!
Share your dream.
Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.“
– Oprah Winfrey
When I first moved to California my aunt and uncle were kind enough to let me live in their guest room rent-free until I was able to find a job. The arrangement was not supposed to last more than three months. Instead, it lasted nine.
They lived 45 minutes north of Los Angeles, which was a lot more convenient than my parents’ house 3,000 miles away, but it still felt like a world away from where I wanted to be. Every day I spent the morning sending in job applications, trolling the internet for more places to apply to, nagging every contact I had to see if they had heard of any openings. There were a couple of interviews but they were weeks apart and it was becoming obvious that none of them were going to work out. I started applying for local retail part time jobs as well, just to get some cash coming in but with the unemployment market the way it was they knew better than to hire a recent college graduate who was trying everything they could to get their “dream job.”
Needless to say, it wasn’t long before the depression set in. My aunt and uncle were amazing and so generous during this time, but I still felt separated from all of my friends back home and I knew no one in the place I wanted to be. There were one or two people from college living in LA but if I was being honest, their success while I was struggling to figure out exactly what I wanted to do just made everything more frustrating. I felt so alone.
Then I made the most important decision that I’ve made since moving to the west coast. I decided to take an intro-level improv class at the Upright Citizens Brigade Theater. At first I naively thought I could take one class, prove to be an improv messiah and be hired as Amy Poehler’s assistant before the whole thing was over, or at least get a hook up for a page job at NBC – not to mention it’d force me out of the house and into the city for three hours a week. Of course, I’m still waiting for my call from Amy but what I did find will be more instrumental in my success than any job interview or fancy contact will ever be. I found my tribe.
Suddenly I was surrounded by people exactly like me. They were all at varying points on the road to being able to pay rent by entertaining people, but we were all traveling together. They were people who cared about being funny. About performing. About writing. And as we learned to “Yes, and…” and listen together, we began to care about each other. Improv is entirely about support, after all. It’d still be another two months before I found employment, but taking that class and making those friends gave me a whole new outlook on my journey in Los Angeles. I felt a renewed energy and motivation. I listened to their stories and soaked up their wisdom. I went to their shows and clapped the loudest. For the first time in almost a year since I uprooted my life to go after this ridiculous dream, I felt like I belonged here.
Last summer when comedian/writer Katie Dippold released her first written feature length movie The Heat, her old friend and fellow comedian Chris Gethard wrote an essay about it, and how Katie had been a fundamental part of finding his own tribe.
Now maybe you think you have a shot at being a creative person who pays their rent by being creative. Maybe you’re scared to go for it, like I once was. Maybe you have something you want to do and you don’t know if you can really do it. My suggestion, based on experience, is to find someone else who might be uncertain of themselves, and be brave enough to tell them what you see in them. Be brave enough to hear about the belief they have in you. Be the lighter fluid for someone else, and let them fan your flames too. Find your tribe.“
Finding your tribe is not at all about finding the people who are the best connections to get you to the next level. No, those are contacts and you should keep them separate. Your tribe are the first people you call when you land the big job because they were the people you cried to all the times you didn’t. Your tribe are the people who tell you that you’re being an idiot and you need to focus when you blow off a writing a deadline. They are the people that pick you up and take you to the movies the morning after you’ve had your heart broken to give you something else to think about. Your tribe are the people that hold your hand when things are messy and they are the ones that clap the loudest when all of it becomes clear.
After that first class I started taking more and over the past year I’ve been steadily adding more and more people to the tribe. This advice isn’t just for creative people because it’s not just creative people that need support. Everyone participating in life needs a tribe. So do yourself a favor and look at the people you spend the majority of your time with. If any of them make you feel less than deserving of all the things you want, tell them to beat it. Make the conscious effort to surround yourself with people that not only support you, but have the strength and integrity to call you out when you’re being ridiculous. As Oprah said, you need the people who will ride the bus before they’ll ride the limo. These people are your magic potion, your cheat sheet, they’re the key thing you need to get you to where you want to go.
If you’re in need of finding the right people for your tribe, take a risk and put yourself out there. You can follow my footsteps and take a class. Or you could join a book club. Peruse MeetUps.com for people that follow your interests. Put yourself in a room with people you don’t know but who have a common interest or goal and see what happens. And don’t disqualify the internet as a great place for meeting those people. Message boards and social media sites are great ways to meet people you otherwise wouldn’t have who share your passions and can be a great resource as you start to figure yourself out.
Find your tribe. Find your happiness. Find you.
Say it again, “I AM a powerful creator!!!” Yes, you are. The super cool thing about this new year, is that we are also starting off with a new moon on January 1t! The last time this happened was 19 years ago. New moons bring powerful energy for change and fresh starts. Combine that with the energy of a new calendar year turning over, and you have super manifesting powers!
With that in mind, here are 10 tips to help you make 2014 your most amazing year yet!
Ditch the resolutions and create real change that lasts by writing goals with soul! Instead of the typical, boring goal list that you feel obligated to write because everybody else is, dig really deep and listen to the calling of your soul. What is your big intention for the new year? How do you want to feel? What impact do you want to have in the world? By aligning with the feelings you desire, your deep-rooted intentions, and the impact you want to have in the world, there is a much greater likelihood of you staying interested, motivated, and totally engaged. For example, instead of saying, “I want to lose 10 pounds (and this year I’m really going to do it), a goal with soul would sound more like this: “I want to feel more alive and more energized! I want to feel divinely feminine and sexy in my own skin. I want the sense of accomplishment and rush of self-confidence knowing I finally did it. I want tons of energy to enjoy chasing after my kids and still have enough left over to start that really amazing project.” See the difference? Which do you think has more staying power?
Follow your bliss. Whatever you have going on in your life, make sure you are doing something that makes you happy every single day! Passion is the internal fire that lights us up and keep us going through the tough times. Don’t put yours on the back burner. Instead, make sure your flame is kept healthy and strong by spending time nourishing it each day.
Show up! Often, the most difficult part of creating a new habit or practice is having the discipline to show up each day. But, on the flip side of that, if you can just commit to showing up for it, the rest will happen naturally. In other words, get your booty to the gym, the classroom, the meeting, in front of the computer typing feverishly, or wherever else it needs to be to make good things happen in your life! In doing so, you’ve already covered the tough part. Next, make sure you are showing up mindfully and without distractions so that you can be fully engaged in the activity. Stay committed and you are pretty much guaranteed to see progress and success over time. So, no excuses or compromise. Show up!
Make self-care a priority. If you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of anybody else very well either. And, the world needs you! So, make sure you are loving and nurturing yourself regularly. This includes your physical fitness, health, mental well-being, spirituality, relationships, finances, career, personal goals, and anything else that needs attention to ensure you are healthy, happy, peaceful and fulfilled in your life.
Say “no” to anything that doesn’t totally excite your soul. Our most valuable resource is our time. We only have so many hours in each day and we can never go backwards to get it back. Spend yours wisely! Often, this means saying no, and possibly even disappointing others along this way. But, this is your life and these are your dreams. If your time is filled up doing stuff that you don’t absolutely love, than there isn’t going to be enough space for your true love and calling to seep in. So, before saying ‘yes’ to something, ask yourself if it lines up with your vision and your goals with soul. Sit on it for at least 24 hours. If the answer is not an excited “Hell yes!!” than consider taking a pass on it.
Help others. When your goals and dreams include more than just helping yourself, they seem to come alive that much quicker and more vibrantly. It’s just one of those unexplained laws of the Universe. Bonus: it feels good. Whether it’s sharing knowledge and wisdom, your time, or allocating a percentage of sales or income to giving back, consider some ways you can help impact the world with your gifts in a positive way. It all comes back around.
Practice humility and grace. When you achieve some amount of success in your life, always remember where you came from and how hard you worked to get there. Also, be mindful that there is an ebb and flow to these sorts of things. Be grateful and enjoy your achievements in the moment, but be ready and willing to continue to work hard to keep them up. Success also has a way of sometimes bringing up adversity. Make it your policy to embrace the positive, disregard the negative (with the exception of any valuable lessons you can extract), and handle any difficult situations or people with dignity and grace. You will go far if you can master the art of this!
Savor and celebrate. Sometimes in our day-to-day routines, we don’t realize how far we’ve come. Any progress is good progress! Check in with your goals often and be sure to celebrate all of the big and small accomplishments along the way. You deserve it! It feels good to treat yourself and also serves as a reminder of the hard work you’ve put in to make steps in the direction of your dreams. Life is about the journey more so than the destination. So, enjoy the ride!
Don’t give up! When the going gets tough, so many people want to throw in the towel. This is when you’re passion and devotion is put to the test as you will need to dig even deeper to keep pushing along. You wouldn’t train for a marathon and give up a mile before the finish line because you are tired. No way! You push through it. A spectator sign that I’ve seen in a couple marathons that I’ve ran is “Pain is temporary. Quitting lasts forever.” So true! Change out a couple of words and apply it to chasing your dreams, and keep trying.
Have fun!!! Don’t take life so serious. Nobody gets out alive, anyway. Laugh. Be silly. Dance. Forgive. Let go. Embrace. Smile. Enjoy. With two businesses, two young children, and a beautifully chaotic life of my own, embracing an abundance of unbridled joy is one of my biggest intentions for next year. I hope you will join me, let loose a little, and let the corners of your mouth turn up more too! Let’s change the world with smiles on our faces.
I hope these 10 tips will leave you feeling inspired at the start of this new year! Revisit them any time you need a little extra boost.
If you are looking for a little more help, visit the Dawnsense.com page and sign up for the email list to learn about the upcoming group coaching programs that will help you dig in and make 2014 your best year yet. And, please also join us on the inspiring Dawnsense Facebook page. I’ll be cheering for you!
So the month of December is officially the month of “Why Wait” here at Intent.
In our newsletter last week, we wrote that there is nothing special about January 1.
Nothing magical will happen to you at the stroke of midnight of 2014 that will magically give you the empowerment or will power you never felt like you had in 2013. If you want to make a change, if you want to take a step out courageously, then there’s no need to wait for January 1. You can and should do that today!
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So here are some questions to ask yourself-
1. If you could have any life, no limits, what would it look like?
In the brainstorming process for ANYTHING, it’s important to let yourself imagine everything as a possibility- large or small. Don’t try and edit yourself while in the brainstorming process. It only slows you down. Instead let yourself think outlandishly. Imagine yourself as an astronaut. Imagine yourself only needing to sleep 3 hours a day. Whatever life you could dream of, give yourself unlimited freedom for a short amount of time to really push the limits in picturing it.
2. What has to come? What has to go?
After you decide whether or not it’s practical (ie- “I want to be Harry Potter. Like, real Harry Potter. I want a magic wand and an archnemesis with no nose), then ask yourself what things would have to enter your life to make it a reality. Are you willing to make the sacrifices necessary to make some of those things realities? If so, move forward. If not, cross those things off the list. The things you’re passionate about are going to be worth your time and energy. By the same token, some things are going to have to go. You’ve always wanted to paint, but your evening are filled up with every activity but that. If you love those other activities, that is one thing. That might require you use a little bit of calendar rotation. But, if your calendar is filled up with things that you are less than jazzed about, start taking steps to pull back and slowly phase out of them. How do you know which things you don’t love? They’re normally the things that make you say “Tonight I have [insert activity]. UGH.”
3. Set some big goals.
In the past I’ve talked about how we give ourselves small goals so we don’t fail. You want to get in shape so you set a goal of going to the gym once a week. That’s not bad, right? You’re currently going to the gym zero times a week, so that’s 100% improvement, right? Wrong. What happens when the day you picked gets slammed with a last minute meeting? What happens if you get sick that day? I say, with life changing goals, aim high. Say you’re going to the gym 5 times a week. If you end up missing one or two or three of those days, you’re still getting greater motivation to get up and out the door. You’re still going to see results of 3 days working out versus just 1. And I say that’s worth the effort.
So what are you waiting on?
What is the life you’re dreaming of?