The mind is a wondrous thing and sometimes it’s too busy to do any good. Whether in inspiration mode or survival mode, a key to getting anywhere is being able to keep track of your thoughts, organize your ideas and do something with it all. Rather than staying in the tornado or letting our mind run away from us, we intend to organize our thoughts!
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One of the leading causes of divorce in the United States is finances. It’s easy for a couple to find themselves bitter, angry, and resentful toward the person they once loved more than anyone when finances are a problem. Whether it’s one person spending too much, one not being generous enough with their income, or ample debt, many couples find it difficult to overcome these issues when they don’t prevent them in the first place. Keeping a healthy financial relationship with your partner is the one of the most important aspects of any good marriage, and there are several ways to keep finances healthy. Continue reading
We’re so excited about the potential of the coming year. We’re standing on the edge picturing all it could turn out to be! It could be the year that we step out in courage. It could be the year that we start working on something amazing. It could be the year we finally find the peace that has been eluding us. That is why we want to choose to live big. Our intent is to lean into the big dreams and plans we have. We’re going to live big!
What does that even mean? We’re not talking living expensively. We’re talking about believing and hoping in a brand new realm.
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With the holidays upon us, you might be feeling a lot like us… SUPER DISTRACTED. Unmotivated? Unfocused? Unable to get going? We get it. With all the we have on our plates and everything we’re looking forward to, it can be extra difficult making it through our final obligations. So today our intent is to focus on the task at hand.
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Just make it through the day. Just make it through the day. Just make it through the day.
It’s a sad mantra but a lot of times, it’s the only thing getting us through. We live in an age where everything is coming at us so fast. We are reachable 24 hours a day 7 days a week. We’re already behind when we wake up in the morning. So is something other than survival mode even possible? What is the secret of people who look like they’re always either coming or going from a beach vacation? Today our intent is to learn what it means to thrive instead of just surviving.
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What were we just doing?
We recently read that an office worker is distracted every 3 minutes and will require 23 minutes to get back on task after being distracted. With a notification for everything, the very things that meant to help us get and stay connected can also keep us distracted. Distraction is also a great way to avoid dealing with the tough stuff. We don’t want to talk about a troubled relationship or a struggle at work so we find any way to get distracted. In the end, all of these things result in us spending more and more time away from the people and things we love. This is why today our intent is to focus.
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Today I want to do a little something together. You’re going to need a pen and paper, because we are going to write our action plans for the day (if you’re reading this at night, go ahead and do tomorrow’s).
As a codependent, one of the things I tend to do is procrastinate. Some things don’t seem as important, and they go to the bottom of my list. Something as simple as doing the dishes will be left for days, because I live alone and it doesn’t bother me, so why do them? Beyond that, I forget to do things I had planned, or I plan to do too much, and then berate myself for not getting it all accomplished. Making an action plan has helped me remain accountable to myself for the things I want to do, and it helps me adjust my goals if I find that something stays on my plan for more than a few days. When this happens, I look at the task, and see if I can break it into smaller, more completable goals that won’t discourage me. Continue reading
Today our intent is inspired by our desire NOT to switch into autopilot when we walk in the doors of our offices. We want to be present for every meeting, memo and email that comes in so that we can prioritize and vision be infused in all we do. If we’re going to move with intention, it is going to be because we allow purpose to be part of our working hours.
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We’ve come to the end of the week and before we check out for the weekend, we want to share our newest intent. We intend to evaluate and celebrate! We want to end this week well, review all that happened and proceed into our next Monday. At the same time, we want to acknowledge the good as much as the difficult. Enjoy the successes with some much earned celebration!
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The Roman Stoic Philosophers, Lucius Annaeus Seneca the Younger (4. BCE – 65 ACE), made this observation about human planning gone awry:
Our plans miscarry because they have no aim. When a man does not know what harbor he is making for, no wind is the right wind.
Not knowing what harbor you are making for is what transition feels like. It is that in-between place where you cannot go back to a season in your life where the door has closed, and the new door has yet to open.
We often get stuck in-between the chapters of our lives when one chapter ends and the new one hasn’t begun yet. We tend to look for immediate and quick fixes to alleviate the dis-ease of uncertainty we feel when we are in what William Bridges calls “the neutral zone, the nowhere between two somewheres” in his classic book “Transitions”. Know this, that dis-ease is a form of anxiety. Also realize that you have crossed a threshold, and the anxiety is the sign that you have. You can turn your anxiety into anticipation (because it’s the same chemical reaction in your brain), however the former is fear-based “what if” thinking, whereas if you can shift to thinking and acting “as if” your future is determining your present, you will find new motivation to move forward!
In the space of the neutral zone, the “nowhere” zone, you have to learn to be with your anxiety and not attempt to fight it. Fighting it only gives it power. Being with it allows you to embrace the uncertainty and release your creative energies by learning how to ask new questions that free you from the limitations of the former chapter that came to an end precisely because it took you as far as was possible. You outgrew it! Yet you still have a future, and it is waiting for you! Continue reading