Tomorrow, July 24, is my birthday. I will officially, technically, be in my mid-40s.
At 43, I completed and released my 3rd book, Living With Intent: My Somewhat Messy Journey to Purpose, Peace and Joy. In the process I made some significant steps to bring more balance and joy into my life – all of which can be read in my book! And if you want to give me a birthday present go ahead and buy it for yourself or a friend – Ha Ha!
Many people ask me if I am in a better place after writing the book. I can categorically say yes! I am happy and healthy and feeling fulfilled – a good place to be. I made some major changes in my lifestyle that, while still inconsistent at times, have become part of my daily habits. Meditation has been more regular. Exercise and sugar, well, lets say the journey remains messy.
This morning, my last day of being 43, I had to go to the DMV to renew my license. In my sleep last night, I remembered that I had got a notice two months ago that I had to go before July 24th when it expired, and take an eye test, give my fingerprints, and take a new photo. I had an hour waiting with nothing to do so started scribbling notes for my intents this year.
Here they are: Continue reading
Despite the fact that today we pride ourselves on being a culture of multi-taskers, I myself am anything but. For me, multitasking is the art of messing up several things at once. But we all know – and perhaps secretly despise – the woman who can seemingly do it all. And seamlessly, at that! Yes, she’s the one who gets up at 5 a.m., sprints to the gym, then showers, answers all her e-mails, fixes her family a breakfast of steel cut oatmeal with flaxseeds and warm organic maple syrup and is ready to go to the office as soon as she drives her two equally perfect children to school. Her male counterpart is just as Type A and accomplished. Not only does he hold down a high-powered day job, but he is a nationally ranked squash player and on weekends writes poetry when not competing in an Ironman Triathlon. In a pinch, he can re-shingle his roof.
One morning, many moons ago, I decided that I, too, could do it all. On that particular day, I also made my family oatmeal for breakfast and carefully chose my husband’s suit and tie. And as soon as I rushed my older sons off to the bus and took my little girl to nursery school, I hopped in the car and gave him door-to-door service to his office.
An hour later, all missions accomplished, I returned to my office and started to write my column with still plenty of time left to meet my deadline. I sat back in the chair and let out a large self-satisfied sigh, thinking to myself, Who said you can’t do it all? Just then the phone rang. Continue reading
If you want to give your kids an edge in life, teach them to perform under pressure. Doing so will be more helpful than giving them an SAT tutor, tennis lessons, or sending them to Europe to broaden their cultural awareness.
The fact is, most kids crumble under pressure —they perform below their capabilities when they want to do their best. I learned this truth while researching my latest NY Times Best Seller, Performing Under Pressure.
Whether it’s taking the SATs, auditioning for a school play, trying out for the tennis team, or having to play their guitar at a family gathering, pressure is apt to worsen your kid’s performance. Memory, attention, judgment, decision making, psychomotor skills are all downgraded when they are in a pressure moment—a situation in which they have something at stake and the outcome is dependent on their performance. Continue reading
The days roll by and sometimes you might wonder, “What did I do today? Did I get any closer to my goals and dreams?” Life gets busy and you get focused on what has to be done, not what you want to do. Your goals could be anything from finally losing those last 5 pounds to changing your career or moving to a new location.
Maybe every January you make the resolution that “this year will be THE year” but then before you know it, December rolls around and you are making the same resolution for next year. For many people, the rut just gets bigger and the opportunity to escape it seems less and less likely.
There are many very legitimate reasons why people get stuck in a rut. Life really is demanding at times. There can be health issues, family issues, and financial concerns, and sometimes the focus has to be on the emergency at hand, not on the dreams to come. But no one wants to feel unfulfilled and as if life is one big unrealized dream. What can you do, even in the midst of your daily life, to get unstuck and start to take those steps forward to the long-held dream?
Here are the five key steps to getting unstuck and moving toward where you want to go: Continue reading
On calendars in the United States, today is a day dedicated to remembering, Memorial Day. We remember those service men and women who sacrificed everything for the sake of others and that is an important practice because it feels easier to forget difficult things. It makes sense to forget everything aside from the happy endings and the good news but there is something very important to remembering the journey as a whole.
Acknowledging the journey allows us to be gracious. It reminds us not to take our steps forward for granted and that time is limited. How we choose to spend it, whether it be in vain pursuit or for the betterment of ourselves will ultimately affect everyone. Remembering is important because it allows us to be informed as we start a new page today. Continue reading
May 14, 2015 will be a day known for the loss of blues legend BB King.
He shall be known as a man who overcame great obstacles to be known the world around for his moving lyrics and his even more moving guitar playing. Born on a cotton plantation in Mississippi in 1925, King was just 4 years old when his parents split resulted in his being raised by his grandmother. It was under the care of his grandmother, however, that he first picked up the guitar as a teenager. Continue reading
In April we were excited to launch the brand new Intent.com app!
After building a family online, we were excited to take that family out into the world and allow you to share your intents as they happen. It has been wonderful to see the marriage of words and images, your feelings paired with that what you are seeing.
Some of those intent are… Continue reading
There are lists for everything.
FBI’s Most Wanted.
But we are truly excited to see Fast Company’s list of the 100 Most Creative People in Business in 2015 where even the “bottom” of the list includes amazing innovators in science, technology, family and global health. It is a beautiful diverse group of men and women alike who have lived lives of intent, followed their passion, and in turn, are currently impacting the world for the better. Continue reading
In the whirlwind since releasing Living with Intent on April 7th, the conversation about what it means to live with intent has been active and thriving. People share what it means to be parents, to be working, to be themselves while pursuing dreams and striving to be the healthiest, happiest versions of who they are.
This is why we love to share interviews and stories with you! Hear Mallika’s story, hear stories from others and then share your own with us by emailing Mallika@MallikaChopra.com.
This interview is the first of a 4-part series with Helene Lerner of Women Working who sat down to ask questions about what it means to live a life of purpose:
I absolutely hated running. My legs aren’t very long. I was never very athletic. Anyone I ever saw running looked like they were ready to collapse. I just knew I hated it, which is interesting because I’d never really done it.
This year, as a resolution, I started getting ready to run a 5K mostly because I was tired of saying I couldn’t do something. The surprising thing? I actually love running! I’m still not very fast and my legs have yet to grow any longer, but it turns out I don’t hate it at all. Just the other day I purchased my first pair of real running shoes and I could not be more ecstatic. Continue reading