My best friend and I have known each other since the 6th grade. We’ve endured middle school treachery, dramatically intense boarding school, family drama, broken hearts and quarter life crises together – all the things that make a solid friendship. We haven’t always agreed about each other’s decisions, but when it comes down to it we know that the other will always pick up the phone when we need it (even if you are way too drunk and it’s 3am and no one can understand what you’re saying because you’re crying too much).
Her dream to run her own non-profit and mine to write the next indie darling dramedy require us to live on separate coasts though. Maintaining a BFF-ship from that distance can take a lot of work but we’ve come up with a few tricks to make it work. One thing we do is go to the movies together. We pick something we both want to see and find similar movie times (her three hours ahead of mine). We text on the way there and then call to sum up what we saw when it’s finished. It’s almost the same as her sitting right there next to me.
I’ve seen so many movie lists this week – “The Most Romantic Movies of All Time” or “The Best Movies to Watch with Your Valentine.” Since I am on the never ending quest to get a boyfriend, these lists are really just depressing. Since we are celebrating all the different types of love this week on Intent (and today is friend love!) I thought I’d make my own list – The Best Movies to Watch with Your Best Friend. Here are my faves:
I Love You Man – 2009
Say what you will about Judd Apatow, but this is one of my favorites. I don’t think BFF-ship should be limited to girls and this is an excellent movie about dude-bonding. I enjoy movies where multiple characters have to go through “growth” arcs. Paul Rudd stars as the shy, socially awkward Groom-to-be on the hunt for his best man while Jason Segel plays the outgoing unrefined best friend that Paul never knew he needed. They both like Rush and they both have a lot to learn from each other. It goes to show that there is nothing more important than life than finding your best bro, and realizing that Chocolat
The Fox and the Hound – 1988
If I’m going to be listing my favorite buddy movies, I should probably include my best friend’s favorite as well. First of all, animated movies are nostalgic and amazing and thus always a great choice for BFF bonding. Secondly, this is one of the few Disney films where the main tragedy isn’t a parent dying. However, there is still definitely tragedy and any person who does not sob by the end of this movie is heartless. You and your best friend may be completely opposite
people, but that could mean you’re the perfect match. Even if it causes you to go down separate paths, the love of a true friendship is always going to anchor you. It’s always going to come first. So grab a box of tissues and snuggle up, because if Fox and Hound can do it, so can you.
Thelma & Louise – 1991
Is it possible to have a BFF movie list without mentioning Thelma & Louise
? These two literally die for each other (Sorry, spoiler! But you should already know about this…) in one of the most iconic movie endings of all time. This is a great movie about friendship because these two stick together no matter how deep the trouble they get into becomes. It’s the ultimate tale of loyalty. Also, a very young Brad Pitt shows up shirtless with a blow dryer down his pants. Really, you can’t lose.
Beaches – 1988
While we’re on the topic of iconic movies, how could we forget the film that gave us The Wind Beneath My Wings
? This is another movie that drives home that your best friend is your anchor and no matter how far you drift apart you can always be brought back together. This is another one that requires a box of tissues, but it’s worth it if only to belt out the best friend anthem with one of your favorite people on the planet.
Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows – Part 2 – 2011
I am currently wearing a shirt that says “Books turn Muggles into Wizards” and I have made no secret of my love for Harry Potter
on this site. And having known my best friend since I was 11 we traversed through this series and the movies together. There were midnight screenings and intense conversations as we made it through each of the books. Harry Potter was a monumental part of our growing up. The story is about a lot of things – overcoming adversity, the importance of family, belief in magic – but at the core of all of that are three best friends. The three of them, as completely different as they are, have to band together to defeat the Dark Lord and save the world that they hold so dear. Their seventh year puts them in constant danger, and despite Ron’s brief departure, they stick together. If you’re going to celebrate your friendship, do it with a movie that shows the truly remarkable things you can do when you believe in each other and work together.
What are your favorite BFF movies? Or favorite traditions with your best friends? Share in the comments below!