Loss of any type, rather it be a divorce, a job termination, the end of a friendship that you held dear, or the death of a love one can send you reeling into unchartered territory. For some it means the loss of an identity. You may have found pride in calling yourself a CEO, a partner, a wife and now that this title is removed you don’t know what to do. For others, loss leaves you emotionally gutted with no sense of direction.
I was 33 in 2007 my husband died from advanced adrenal cancer. I spent over three years interviewing widows about their circumstances for my book A Widow’s Guide to Healing, and often the conversation would shift to a widow telling me that she wants to start a new life for herself and her family but isn’t sure where to start.
This widow isn’t alone in not knowing how to begin a new life post-loss. A few months ago, I was at a dinner party and someone asked about my book, and as she began to tell me about her move, new job and starting over, I thought she was a widow. Actually, she had divorced her husband of 20-plus years and felt the loss was similar to a death.
Loss is very painful, and even thinking about it can cause a knot in your stomach, and you immediately feel a lump in your throat. And yet you do desire to shift your energy, mind and heart toward a different direction. In other words, what can you do to begin to create life that you want after your devastating loss?
Here are 10 things you can do, and these items are no particular order of importance. What is key is that you begin somewhere, and these items are here to help you create a new path for yourself. Some of these things may not work for you, while other items you may find to be a better fit. Continue reading →
Erin Spitzberg, MS, RDN, CDE, VIP Nutrition Coach and Author
If you’ve lost weight and gained it back, you’re one of the 95% of people who struggle with weight maintenance. Losing weight, although a challenge, is easy compared to weight maintenance. It has been proven so often, this statistic has become fact. What was your trigger for regaining the weight? Was there an injury so exercising became more of a challenge? Did life get so busy you began eating out more and planning less, or did stress allow emotions to take over? Whatever the reason, take comfort in knowing that setbacks are normal and to be expected. Here are 5 strategies to help you navigate your way around a setback. Continue reading →
For many people, prescribed painkillers can be a lifeline. They allow patients to manage the chronic pain associated with ailments such as dental pain, migraine and post injury/surgery pain thereby giving them the opportunity to go about their daily life relatively normally. However for others, taking these painkillers for a prolonged period of time or misusing them in any way can cause a whole range of other physical and psychological problems.
For some women, yoga pantsare a part of their everyday uniform. These women may have yoga pants for working out, yoga pants for lounging around the house, their best yoga pants for going out and about with friends, and many others. But are yoga pants appropriate for every occasion? Some people think yoga pants are dangerous, but the truth is they are so popular for a reason.
The Downside to Yoga Pants
Not everyone is a fan of yoga pants, and some people believe there are good reasons behind that. Some feel that yoga pants are inappropriate for young people especially as they are tight fitting and can be made from a thin material. If a skirt or long shirt is not worn on top, yoga pants can be quite revealing. Some schools have even banned yoga pants for this very reason on the grounds that yoga pants on girls can be distracting to male students, as detailed here.
Yoga pants are not flattering on every body type, as they tend to cling and reveal body flaws. Some young women are extremely self-conscious in yoga pants. While yoga pants will stretch if you gain weight, they may not look good on you if the pants are ill fitting.
Some people feel that yoga pants are a lazy way to dress. They can become a uniform of sorts for teens and women who like them, and yoga pants are not appropriate for every occasion. Some prominent cultural icons have come out against yoga pants, like Fran Lebowitz. For instance, never wear yoga pants to a formal occasion or job or school interview.
A few weeks ago I had the honor of being a panelist at The Parliament of World Religions conference in Salt Lake City. The Parliament of World Religions held its first conference in 1893, and since this date has attracted such remarkable speakers including: His Holiness The Dalai Lama, former president Jimmy Carter, Dr. Jane Goodall, Dr. Vandana Shiva, and Dr. Eboo Patel.
In September, I was in New York City when a professor asked me in person if I would be willing to join a Parliament panel and talk about my book, A Widow’s Guide to Healing, and immediately my heart was in my throat. It was not one of my finer professional moments as I couldn’t even muster up the words, “Thank you.” I didn’t answer “yes”. I said I had to think about it and this was partly true. I would need to make travel and work arrangements to get coverage at my day job, where I am a clinical social worker. The other part that I did not share was that I was scared. I was intimidated by the nature of such a large conference, attracting 10k people from 80 different nations and 50 different faiths, and the other panelists I knew had doctoral degrees from fancy ivy- league schools. I flew home and thought long and hard about this amazing opportunity and why I was so reluctant to accept it. Deep down I knew that it was my own insecurity because I had never have spoken in a panel format and I didn’t want to disappoint anyone, especially since I realized that the professor was taking a risk in even asking me to participate.
And a few days later, it occurred to me that I needed to revisit my original intent in writing my book. The intent was to be able to share the narratives of other widows so that a widow would be able to find herself in one of these stories and feel less alone.Before writing my book, the words that C.S. Lewis wrote “We read to know that we are not alone” rang true to me.And I know first- hand how lonely and scared grief can leave a person. I was 33 in 2007 when my husband, Roy, died from advanced adrenal cancer nearly eight weeks after being diagnosed with bronchitis at his family doctor’s office. Continue reading →
Oftentimes, there’s a common misconception that introverts are painfully shy, awkward or simply unsocial. However, this is not the case. Many introverts will surprise you with their witty repertoire. It is worth the wait.
Maybe, as an introvert, you don’t feel comfortable around large groups of people, but are the social planner for your small network of friends. Maybe you simply need “me” time to recharge cuddling up with a book, watching Netflix, or coloring that painfully detailed adult coloring book, in lieu of hanging out with others. Or maybe you are one of the shy introverts who prefers to remain to herself.
We are all uniquely ourselves, even if we may have tendencies on one side of the spectrum.
Being stuck on the road can be tough on your body. Sitting in hotel rooms, eating hotel waffles, trying to squeeze a workout in a hotel gym. Thankfully, Tara Stiles shared this video for continuing your yoga practice even while you’re on the go:
“Every two seconds around the world another girl is forced into marriage.”
Upworthy shared this post about child marriage across the globe. Girls as young as 8 years old are being forced into arranged marriages as a result of issues like poverty, culture, and religious pressures. Continue reading →
You’ve decided to take the plunge into parenthood but you are unsure of what measures you can take with your nutrition and lifestyle to make sure your baby is healthy.Often would be parent’s are not given clear directions on proper nutrition before and during conception because, even today, nutrition is often an elective in medical school so your doctor may not be well versed in nutrition. Here are 10 things you can do to ensure you give your baby the best chance to be healthy? Continue reading →
October is a month known for sweaters, pumpkins and fall leaves. It is also Breast Cancer Awareness month, a time when we rally around survivors, family, friends and remember those who lost their battle to the most common form of female cancer. So what do we need to be aware of?