Question:
I am 27 year old and since childhood have been very lazy. I feel I could have achieved more success in life if I were a bit more active. Please advise how to overcome laziness and procrastination. How do one become active in life?
Also, I tried Vipassana meditation which my brain finds very logical and advises me to practice it regularly but as soon as I sit for meditation a fear grips me and I feel doubtful if this is the right technique to practice. How do one understand which meditation is good for us as we have hundred different gurus and meditation types available in India now?
Answer:
Vipassana meditation is a perfectly good meditation, and there is nothing to be fearful or doubtful about in that practice. There have always been a lot of spiritual practices to choose from in India. Choose a practice that comes from a reliable tradition and can be taught to you by a qualified instructor. You also need to decide whether it is a good fit for your temperament and abilities.
As far as procrastination is concerned, telling you how to overcome it won’t do any good since you can simply procrastinate on following the advice. You already know why you should be more active to be successful, what you need to discover is what is holding you back. If your meditation question is indicative of your overall frame of mind, then you probably make excuses for why you don’t act more boldly because you are afraid of making the wrong decision and being taken advantage of. In that state it is easy to choose not to act or distract yourself so you don’t risk making the wrong decision. That might be what your laziness is really about.
Remind yourself that your decisions don’t have to be right or perfect before you can act. We all have to make choices with imperfect knowledge and uncertainty so there is no way we can ever know if we are making the “right” decision. It’s enough to make sensible decisions that are aligned with your inner values. Once you accept that it is safe to act from uncertainty, knowing that if you need to make adjustments you can, then you are free to let your actions flow effortlessly in response to your desire and the needs of others.
Love,
Deepak
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Its very hard to add anything to what Deepak wrote. I like to share my experience. The book that really helped me tremendously is
7 Habits of Highly successful people by Stephen R. Covey
http://www.amazon.com/gp/offer-listing/0671708635…
Don't sum up any of your efforts with a single sentence like "I was lazy or I was active". Since there is no precise definitions for laziness or activeness, whatever you were able to accomplish is what was required at that time. Just say it yourself, I will increase my effort by a pinch. If there is lot of gap between mental effort and action, then there might be a chance that you are taking yourself seriously. Enjoy.
I always thought that I was lazy, too. In 1st grade, Sr. Carola had declared me so. And, I agreed with her. I would complain to my general practitioner, as an adult, that I thought laziness was a bonafide disease. I knew what to do and why I should. Unfortunately, I could rarely motivate myself to begin and complete the task.
It wasn't until I started taking a particular SSRI that I realized that I was not lazy, simply depressed. My mood disorder had drained my natural proclivity to follow-through. Of course, the SSRI ceased being effective shortly thereafter. However, I now knew that I was not lazy. Instead, my brain chemistry was compromised.
It took me some time to discover a natural remedy. But, after reading "The Mood Cure" by Julia Ross, M.A., I am quite pleased to say that laziness is a thing of the past. Thanks to this life-saving guide, I am happy, healthy, and actively pursuing my dreams…completely naturally and without any medication or talk therapy. I simply consume the proper foods and supplements to unleash my potential.
So, I tell you all of this to encourage you to dig a little deeper to reveal the source of your disinclination to "get 'er done!" Study your diet, as well. Many times, nutrition is the root of disease and imbalance.
Best of luck to you!
Dear Deepak,
Thanks a ton for your time and your response is an answer to not only this question of mine but multiple other questions.
Dear Sreenath and Dionne, Many Thanks for sharing your experience.
Love you a lot.
Chitra.
We fired someone last night at the Ranch of Luv for laziness! damn! shuushh.
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