Yesterday, my brother, Gotham, and I were at a meeting when his phone started ringing. When he checked his email, he had a flood of inquiries:
Was it true that Demi Moore was with my father seeking treatment?
Would he (Gotham) come on a show to talk about our dad’s relationship with Demi?
Luckily, I am not on the media list to chat about celebs, but even my email was flooded with FYIs and inquiries. (Gotham is on the media list because of his close relationship with Michael Jackson, and his desire to speak with the media after Michael’s death about remembering the good times for Michael’s legacy).
In fact, I have to admit that after the onslaught of email, I too was curious if my dad was in touch with Demi. Gotham and I had no idea if it was true or not…
Which got me thinking about why I wanted to know. Demi has asked for privacy, but yet we (and I include myself) as a society feel the need to know about where she is, who she is talking to, etc. On one level, I yearn that she finds the space to heal, but how will she do that if we are all complicit in not giving her that space. Despite being a celebrity, who has led such a public life, doesn’t she deserve that privacy when she is in pain?
The truth is if my dad was in touch with Demi, that’s between him and her. He would not tell my brother and I — it’s none of our business. In a world where Syrians are scared to leave their homes, where some children don’t feel safe at school or have to fight for an equal education, where equality for everyone is still not a reality, why are the most popular stories on HuffingtonPost are ones like Khloe Responds to OJ Simpson Rumors?
And despite my wanting to be the role model of integrity and goodness, I still couldn’t help but text my dad to see if the rumors were true…
(For the record, and for those who feel the need to know, she is not at the Chopra Center or with my dad.)
I feel that one if we were to follow up on what is happening with another human being's misery we are creating more sorrow for ourselves more karma for ourselves, there is a bliss in the "dont give sorrow and don't take sorrow" part. Two, we are being judgmental if we say that Demi Moore's weaknesses be on public display. We are all human, what exists in her, exists in all of us too, we are also capable of making the same kinds of mistakes, who are we to judge her. She should have complete privacy to heal herself wholly. The loving, kind, compassionate, merciful thing to do is to pray for her healing that she heals completely so that she can enjoy the true inner happiness and bliss that every human being deserves. Best Wishes to her, will pray for her.
The truth is, Mallika, most people keep up with celebrities' business to enhance their own self-esteem, or measure themselves in some way. As difficult as Demi's situation might be, for Demi, others' wanting to know her disposition is all about their own sense of self. There probably is also some 'curiosity'. We, the public, accept celebrities into our homes and feel a connection…and want to know more.
Vicki
But on the other side of the coin, what an amazing reputation your father has! To seek him out in time of pain and hurting, and find guidance is how many of us have come to know him.
Thank you for your blog…and for your update on Deepak and Demi….