Engaged… Now what?


by Desiree Hartsock
So your man finally popped the question in the most romantic way ever… Now what!?!

This is a question asked at least once by a newly engaged bride. Whether you have been planning your wedding since you were a little girl or barely thought about it, you are a new seed in this fast-growing pot known as the wedding industry.

It’s hard to know where to begin or what your first step should be. It’s not everyday that you plan a wedding… So, first things first.

Enjoy your engagement and don’t let the planning put a damper on the joy you should feel with your new fiancé!

Decide on a wedding date that will work for the both of you and stick to it.

Start your venue search (ceremony and reception sites). This will dictate the rest of the details in planning and plays an important role in guest capacity, pictures and the “look” you are going for. Make sure you fall in love with the location.

Finding your dress will be the next important step since it can take up to six months for your dress to come in after being ordered: an important fact that a lot of new brides aren’t aware of until it’s too late.

I would say the guest list is also pretty important since that will make or break your budget. It can also be a compromise with your partner on which friends and family members should be invited.

From your guest list I’m sure you already have a bridal party in mind, so go ahead and let your besties know that you would like them in your wedding. The sooner they know, the sooner they can mentally prepare for the festivities, expenses, and travel (if needed) to attend the wedding.

Once your guest list is complete then you can send out your save-the-dates.

Now that you have those important things figured out, start to fill in all the other pieces of the puzzle such as the flowers, bridesmaid dresses, DJ, invitations, photographer, videographer, musicians, baker, caterer, linens, menu, favors, and officiant.
We don’t want to leave the groom or groomsmen standing there naked, so make sure that their attire is taken care of too. It is best to make an appointment with your man to try on suits and tuxes before bringing all of the other men into the mix.

Last-minute details such as table cards, programs, and seating arrangements should be done at least two weeks prior to your wedding. I have seen too many stressed-out brides a week before their weddings because they still didn’t know where to place their guests and had last-minute DIY programs to do.  You have the time. Use it wisely.

BE BEAUTIFUL and walk down the aisle in ease, knowing that you did all you could do to make your day perfect!


Desiree1 Desiree Hartsock is the voice behind www.DesireeHartsock.com, the ultimate wedding planning, inspirational, and lifestyle blog for every aspect of a woman’s life. Her passion for design, weddings and to help others is shown in everything she creates including the dresses she designed for her ‘Desiree Hartsock for Maggie Sottero’ collection and the bridal jewelry for her ‘Desiree for KV Bijou’