Falling in Love, Over and Over

By on September 21, 2009 in Uncategorized

I make it a habit to fall in love everyday,” a friend once told me. And I nearly swooned, thinking that perhaps I would be the one he would fall in love with that day.

However, we had our signals crossed. He was telling me his philosophy about relationships, and I wanted him to fall in love with me that day, and only me, every day thereafter.

So can one fall in romantic love with one person and stay “in love” with everyone else? Can we evolve toward Oneness, and still reach out and touch just one person with the feelings reserved them alone?

The short answer is yes. And here are three reasons why: daily habits, mentoring, and what I call: “breathing together.”

1.      Daily habits. A relationship is as healthy



as the number of rituals you create to share together. Here’s one: light a candle at the dinner table when you sit down to eat together. Candle light focuses the diners on enjoying the food and each other’s company. Here’s another: Say a prayer at mealtime where you both contribute: “May all be fed.” “May peace prevail on Earth.”


2.      Mentoring. One can fall in love over and over again when they know that they have unlimited freedom to “be all they can be” and their partner’s support in this. Romantic relationships, like a good marriage, are like an on-going seminar. When there are tough times, it means one or both partners is at a growing point. How they mentor one another through tough times can form the basis of deep, lifelong trust and respect.

3.      Breathing together. Does my partner nourish me? Do I nourish them? All humans share the same heart beat, we all share the same miracle of breath. And when we breath together, we are releasing what doesn’t work in our lives and inhaling an openness to love and be loved. In an intimate relationship, breathing together can also draw in our lover’s breath, as they draw in ours. It is deep, and private, and infinitely expansive.

Do you agree? I’d love to hear your comments and feedback.

 

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About Alexia Parks

For more than 30 years, my writing and work has had a focus in the fields of energy, the environment, education, parenting, and communications. Recently, I was given the distinction of being the first accredited blogger at the UN Conference on Climate Change, in Bali. Author of seven books, my latest includes RAPID Evolution, a training manual for accelerated evolution. It is solution oriented: as we self-heal, we heal the world around us..

In my career, I have been a nationally syndicated columnist, New York City magazine publisher, and written for the national desk of The Washington Post. I have also served as Director of Communications for a trade association representing 100 major metropolitan daily newspapers. In 1995, I co-founded Votelink.com – the first electronic democracy website on the Internet - and continue as its president today. At its launch, Newsweek magazine called me “one of 50 people who matter most on the Net.”

You can find my books linked from http://www.rapidevolution.org/ or Amazon.

I live and work at Votelink.com

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10 Responses to Falling in Love, Over and Over

  1. ed.and.deb.shapiro September 21, 2009 at 4:49 pm #

    Alexia you are the world you are the universe you are love

    You are a shining light

    thank you for being my friend

    let's ski

    Ed

  2. yumi September 21, 2009 at 4:55 pm #

    What a wonderful reminder of selfless love. Thank you for this! :)

  3. Alexia Parks September 21, 2009 at 6:14 pm #

    Well it IS snowing in the Colorado mountains today … but too early for skiing, so let's let love warm up the weather, for now. I'm heading off for a 5-day vacation on the Colorado River, Wednesday. Thanks for sending words from the heart! – Alexia

    Alexia Parks is author of OM Money Money, RAPID Evolution, 10 Golden Rules That Guide Loving Families, An American GULAG and more. See http://alexiaparks.com

  4. Alexia Parks September 21, 2009 at 6:15 pm #

    The Intent community reminds each other of this daily … what a joy to be part of this festival of light beings. – Alexia

    Alexia Parks is author of OM Money Money, RAPID Evolution, 10 Golden Rules That Guide Loving Families, An American GULAG and more. See http://alexiaparks.com

  5. Godsintention September 21, 2009 at 7:16 pm #

    Good article :)

    http://godsintention.blogspot.com/

  6. mydomainpvt September 22, 2009 at 12:12 am #

    dear alexia,

    beautiful, true and heart warming.

    Wish you love, peace and happiness.

    Trisha

  7. Alexia Parks September 22, 2009 at 10:34 am #

    Thanks for the complement on the article. I enjoyed writing it. – Alexia

    Alexia Parks is author of OM Money Money, RAPID Evolution, 10 Golden Rules That Guide Loving Families, An American GULAG and more. See http://alexiaparks.com

  8. ed.and.deb.shapiro September 22, 2009 at 4:56 pm #

    hey hey Alexia – this is going to be the snowiest ski season… up in the high country that is

    again great blog from a talented blogger

    a fan

    ed

  9. Alexia Parks September 22, 2009 at 6:36 pm #

    Hi Ed, Welcome to my fan club of one. … You're my favorite ski buddy. – Alexia

    Alexia Parks is author of OM Money Money, RAPID Evolution, 10 Golden Rules That Guide Loving Families, An American GULAG and more. See http://alexiaparks.com

  10. jacquemo September 27, 2009 at 10:56 am #

    Alexia, I read your article a few days ago and immediately wanted to post a "thank you" and comment. Your article filled me with so many thoughts and emotions that I did not know where to begin. A few days has passed and I am still not entirely focused with my thoughts. I am convinced that a loving relationship deserves all the nourishment that it can get. Like healthy foods for the body, healthy acts of love are not always readily available and take some work to attract and carry out. It is absolutely essential that people do not allow complacency to prevail. Acts, such as you have described are a good way to show loved ones just how special they are and can be the force that enriches and enlivens the relationship. I hope many, many people read this article and understand the importance of what you are saying.