A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. – Mignon McLaughlin
Falling in love at the beginning of a relationship is easy. Staying in love can be easy too, as long as we remember to keep the love alive. Love isn’t just some airy-fairy idea that floats around in our head. It literally must take up residence in our heart, our body, our soul. When Love is inside of us, it’s no longer a question of "falling" in love. Now the task is to notice, appreciate and celebrate the love that we share with our partner.
Couples in great relationships have different ways of keeping love alive. In all cases, though, it is what they DO, not just what they think, or even feel, that matters. In an earlier blog post, I wrote about gardening as a metaphor for relationship, how vital it is to actively nourish that which has been planted.
There are many things that sustain a great relationship. One especially powerful ingredient is, of course, the intimacy that arises during sexual union. Tantra, an ancient spiritual teaching from India, provides a framework for experiencing sexual connection as a sacred ceremony. This, indeed, if practiced on a regular basis, helps us fall in love over and over again.