Fear, Sex and the Quest for More

Sex satisfies. But this satisfaction is very short lived, and even when achieved, often leads to guilt, confusion or a craving for more. Sex is an anxiety reliever, but it is also the cause of much anxiety because the satisfaction it gives does not last. When we crave sex, we are often seeking an easy access solution to relieve the craving and to discharge the tensions we keep in ourselves. Yet, this discharge is almost illusory for no sooner than we are relieved are we faced with the need to do this over and over again.

The need for sex often creates shame and guilt — sometimes even with masturbation — oftentimes making us feel badly about the sexual act. And so we swing… from meeting our sexual needs to repressing them-to and fro-until we can’t stand ourselves. Why does this occur and what can we do about this?

 

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Dr. Srini Pillay is the author of "Life Unlocked: 7 Revolutionary Lessons To Overcome Fear. (http://www.amazon.com/Life-Unlocked-Revolutionary-Lessons-Overcome/dp/1605298522)" He is also an internationally recognized executive coach, public speaker, psychiatrist, and brain imaging researcher who is focused on the fields of personal and organizational transformation.  His aim is to help people and corporations achieve their dreams by drawing on his expertise that addresses the intersections of coaching, biology, psychology and spirituality. 

As a “Certified Master Coach”, Srini was on the faculty of the “Behavioral Coaching Institute” where he taught business executives internationally from a variety of different companies, including Fortune 500 companies, the art of coaching, with a special emphasis on using neuroscience to enhance communication, decision-making, and transformation.  

As a “psychiatrist”, Srini trained at Mclean Hospital, Harvard’s largest psychiatric training hospital.  He graduated with the award for the most scholarly work during his residency.  He was also one of the top three award winners nationally.  After graduating, Srini became the “Director of the Mclean Hospital Outpatient Anxiety Disorders Program”, where he gained national and international recognition for his expertise in stress and anxiety.  He is currently an Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and has a clinical practice in Cambridge, MA. 

As a “public speaker”, his knowledge of burnout, layoffs, anxiety and stress has been sought out by the media.  He has made numerous television appearances and he has been quoted in the Boston Globe, Newsweek magazine and Men’s Health magazine on stress and anxiety. ABC.com has featured him as an international expert on their new health internet site.  He is a regular columnist for the living section of the Huffington Post.  

Srini has also been a “brain-imaging researcher” for the past fifteen years.  He has had numerous publications and has been nationally funded.   He continues this work as a consultant to the University of Utah with his former mentors from Harvard. 

Currently, Srini is starting a company called “NeuroBusiness group” that is focused on providing information, assessment tools and software, coaching and consultation services that draws on research grounded in psychology, coaching and the neurosciences to promote personal and organizational transformation.  He is finishing a self-help book based on scientific research to assist people in overcoming fear.  The book is scheduled for release late in 2009 or early 2010. 

In addition to recently writing four original screenplays, Srini is currently completing the making of a documentary movie and composing the music for it.  His passion is in integrating the science and art of life and bringing a realistic, hopeful and transformational message to the people he encounters.  His deepest belief is in the power of love for transformation. 

Contact information: boundariless@mac.com

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