Grieving a Suicide

By on July 21, 2009 in Relationships

 Question:

I have always been a very spiritually inclined person. For the past three years I have seen very close relatives die of natural causes, murder and now suicide.
 
I have learned the process of grieving, but with this one it has just left me with so many questions, about life in itself. I have always believed in destiny and Karma.
 
My question to you is: How do I make this type of death make sense to my spiritual and emotional grounding? 
It’s just so confusing since it’s completely unnatural. 
 
I would appreciate any input you can give me to start on my spiritual path again.
 
Answer:
 
It sounds like you have found a certain solace through the ideas of destiny and karma to help you come to terms with loss in your past. However, life events can not always be easily understood and made sense of. Being at ease with the uncertainty and mysteriousness of life is one of the greatest gifts of wisdom. This suicide may be an indication that it is time for you  to let go of the need to make sense of this.
 
You can grieve, heal and find peace even if your mind is unable to explain or comprehend why something like this happened. If your healing and growth is dependent upon philosophies and spiritual beliefs, then you are limiting your evolution to your conditioned mind—the very thing you are trying to move beyond.
 
So try to use this situation as a way to accept a truth and reality that is outside the reach of your understanding—and that is okay. From here you should be able to let the natural grieving process begin.
 
Love,
Deepak
 

 

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3 Responses to Grieving a Suicide

  1. rishi July 20, 2009 at 9:16 pm #

    Recently there has been chaos in my mind. I wish I have read these words from Deepak. Thanks Deepak. I wish peace and comfort to the person who asked the question.

  2. mydomainpvt July 21, 2009 at 12:49 am #

    Dear Deepak,

    Your words full of purest wisdom can always put an questioning mind to ease. i too follow your explanations. its not possible to get answers to all our questions (actually most of them) so letting them go is the best path to follow.

    Wish you love, peace and happiness.

    Trisha

  3. Dr. Rev. Heather Meh July 21, 2009 at 10:10 pm #

    I have experienced the aftermath of a friend committing suicide. And although it was quite difficult to understand why someone would make a permanent solution for a temporary problem, I also understand that it was just the final part of that individual's Life Path.

    While some people 'check out' by wishing death upon themselves if they have experienced enough in this particular life cycle, others may take the quicker route and end life intentionally. Even though it is a painful experience for those left behind, it was also a part of those individual's Life Path to have the human experience and emotions from such a tragedy.

    In reality, when we leave the shell our spirit is contained during a lifetime, our individual spirits return to the 'master spirit' or God (whatever name you use) and become unified as one with the Creator again.

    After a while, a piece of Spirit returns to an ego state and decides to break off from Spirit to have another experience in living form on a planet. The 'piece' decides on events to experience this go-round setting the Life Contract. Thus the circle of life begins again with a new Life Path full of various pleasureable and painful events.

    Heather

    "There are no accidents, coincidences or mistakes."