Please do not say anything about ’mirror’as lot has been said about it!
Please give practical tips!
Please do not say anything about soul as lot has been said about it!
Please do not say anything about "Why the wrong choice was made initially" as wrong choice is made, now what!
Please do not say anything about divorce ‘as it is out of question / picture’!
Please do not say anything about love, compassion as lot has been said about it!
Everybody knows about counselor so no need to say anyting about it!
Please do not say anything about changing self as lot has been said about it!
Please do not say anything about planning or writing down on paper or about time table or economics or organising!
Blessings are already there!
Love and compassion is already there!
Only goals and thinking is opposite!
Good question and you left no option for answering but before even I looked at the options which you dont want to hear I had a different thing coming to my mind ….Consider/Imagine a partner who was a mirror Image of you and Completely same goals and thinking , It would be such a boring relationship and its said opposites attract . Since love/compassion/Blessings are already there maybe change in lifestyle is needed . Am I sounding like DC (ha ha ) ??- Goodluck
Acceptance of, or loving what is, can be the way.
We cannot change another. We live our own lives true to our being. We cannot expect that another will live exactly as we do. We must accept, we must anticipate, we must welcome the notion that another will NOT do what we want them to, but do what they want to, true to THEIR being. This is reality. To expect otherwise is to argue with reality, and from this we suffer. Accept and anticipate these differences and rejoice in this presentation that has been made for you. You have expected only to see what you wish to see and failed to identify the unique qualities of this 'other'. Those qualities are there but exist only if you choose to see them.
Rajesh, One of the things I'm doing lately is saying 'thankyou' to the universe, whenever an undesirable thing happens. Saying 'thankyou' removes the resistance or attachment I feel to the situation. It gets me closer to my indentity vis-a-vis the universe which we forget when we are too close to someone or something. It allows us to be the space for the situation (now a blessing
to happen. If you say 'thankyou' to the universe before you deal with a situation, you may end up not having to deal with it at all!
Then I'm guessing there may be the common but profound challenge of not being able to share with someone all that we want to. I by no means have the solution except for taking a step back, finding our better space and then stepping ahead or away as the case may be. It gets better each time we keep doing it and we get a better appreciation of the person without the expectation. Sometimes we just need breathing space.
All the best to you.
Diverse partners is a gr8 blessing and should be cherished fully ( and there is no sprituality only practical observations about it ) , its a great catalyst for love and funfilled 'real life' .
Thank you Care, you are saying may be change of lifestyle is needed.
Good point.
I would like to know and learn more about it if possible!
What are lifestyle changes, any suggestions?
Here again there is a twist, only one person is ready to make any and every change possible. The person who is ready to change everything to improve life is man
Other does not want to change anything, and is quite adamant is female.
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Thank you Phillip.
Well explained.
We need to see good quality.
For example USA Military should see good qualities in Taliban
and Taliban should see good qualities in USA Military.
Or USA Military should see positive of what Saddam did and Saddam should have seen the positives of what USA military did.
Am I correct. You mean to say this please!
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Rekha, as you have no photo or your bio does not have any detail about you, you remind me of Indian Super star Rekha.
Good suggestions to say thank you.
When the twin tower in USA fell, everybody should have said thank you whole USA was not destroyed.
If someone's hand or leg is cut in accident we should say thank you eyes and nose are safe.
If some one kills another, we should say thank you, you did not kill everybody?
Does it mean this?
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Rajesh
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Care good point, If diverse partners are blessings, than why are there so many wars all over the world. Why USA wants to kill people in Afghanistan, and Iraq?
Why do countries go for election, all diverse views should be accepted and cherished,
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Rajesh
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Normally when a person have no answer they start speaking about soul, and love, and mirror which are abstract things.
When we have common cold or cough or cancer, the soul, love, mirror do not come near the person suffering!
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Rajesh
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perhaps the goals of life partners do not need to be aligned with each other if our hearts are aligned with each other's mind. goals may be different but love never is. so many contradictions, yet chemistry on all levels is what keeps us close. can't we like different things and experiences and have different goals? so long as goals are not destructive to the relationship or to others, can't it be ok to not have the same ones?
Rajesh, I'm not The Rekha
She's wayyy too talented.
I was speaking in terms of relationships, but yes, when it comes to death and handicaps it would still be possible to say 'thankyou'. This may sound ludicrous, but much of spirituality is ludicrous to the ego. I think Gandhi actually said to this effect to his murderer as he was dying. He wasn't saying thankyou for not killing others. But he was blessing his murderer with love, not hate.
When the twin towers fell there was an outpouring of love and support that must have elicited a thankyou from those who passed away. Ofcourse the US response of war was of the ego. Countries cannot be entirely spiritual or they may lose independence like Taiwan. But I agree a country like the US should be constructive and not just destructive. I believe the efforts are getting on track to becoming constructive now.
You are absolutely correct Rosanne.
And as you said "so long a goals are not destructive to he relationship", yes this is what I wish to talk about.
Eyes and ear are different in a body, but they are compatible.
If the goals are not compatible and they are different and destructive then what.
I should have added the word destructive. Thank you Rosanne!
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Thank you Rekha!
You have explained beautifully!
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