Many couples can live happily together; they just can’t sleep well side by side. Research from the BSC found that on average, one in three Americans reports that their partner negatively impacts their own quality of sleep. But sleeping together is an important way for couples to feel connected and integrated with each other.
If your partner’s sleep style has you headed for separate rooms, try of some of these ideas that just might bring harmony back to the bedroom and into your relationship.
1. Problem: Your partner kicks in their sleep, waking you up!
Solution: Make sure your bed gives each sleeper enough sleep surface to move around comfortably. If you are sharing a double (full) size mattress, that only gives each sleeper as much room as sleeping in a crib! Couples should share no smaller than a queen-sized mattress .
2. Problem: Your partners likes it hot, you like it cool!
Solution: Temperature is a major issue in many relationships. Ideally, your bedroom should be a cool 60 – 65 degrees Fahrenheit . But there are adjustments you can make so that a person who craves heat and a person who craves cool can sleep side by side.
- Try double folding the blankets so that there are more on one side.
- Invest in a dual control electric blanket or a twin sized electric blanket on one side.
- Use a ceiling fan, so it is more naturally cool and comfortable.
3. Problem: Your partner snores, keeping you up at night.
Solution: Invest in pillows that are designed to tilt the head properly so that you can breathe more easily and are less likely to snore. Or, try foam ear plugs before you try a different room. If your partner’s snoring persist, consult a physician.
4. Problem: Your partner tosses and turns.
Solution: It may be your mattress. Mattresses should be evaluated for optimum comfort and support every five to seven years.
5. Problem: Your partner loves to cuddle, you want your space.
Solution: Compromise – before falling asleep spend some time snuggling together and then agree to sleep apart.
6. Problem: Different sleep schedules.
Solution: Find a bedtime schedule that works for both of you. If you work different schedules, be considerate of your sleep partner and use minimal light from a flashlight or a nightlight.
7. Problem: The bedroom feels more like an office.
Solution: Your bedroom should only be used for sleep and sex. Keep work, laptops, PDAs and televisions out of the bedroom. This makes for a much more relaxing and romantic atmosphere and will give you both a better night’s sleep.
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