We’ve all said it. "I didn’t have time to…" Did you really not have time? What did fill your day? Was it frivolous things or meaningful things? What didn’t get done because you were too busy or didn’t have time?
When my son, Eli was born, I had NO IDEA how life would change. As a FTM (first time mom), I quickly became overwhelmed. I didn’t realize at the time just how overwhelmed I was. Looking back, it seems as though being overwhelmed was paralyzing. The house was a wreck, I didn’t shower for days, I didn’t get out of the house much because it was such an ordeal to do so. I easily fell into saying "oh, I didn’t have time." Now, I won’t be too hard on myself. Having a baby IS life changing. There is an adjustment period. It is overwhelming. What used to take me a day to do now took me a week! BUT, the excuse "I didn’t have time" was just that, an excuse. I was getting frustrated because there were things that really NEEDED to get done, but I wasn’t able to even start, like the piles of laundry, or marketing/website stuff for our business. My husband was, and still is amazing. He helps a lot around the house, but he also works outside of the home and I needed to get my responsibilities in order. Then, one day, I had my light bulb moment. Instead of saying "I didn’t have time", I started to hold myself accountable and started to say "it wasn’t a priority for me today." WOW!! All of a sudden, I realized just how much time I spent on facebook, or in the on-line mommy groups I belong to. I realized I was filling my time with mindless things (facebook and on-line groups are great, in moderation). By holding myself accountable, my priorities changed. Instead of saying "I didn’t have time to fix a healthy meal", I said "it wasn’t a priority for me today to fix a healthy meal." For me, this little change in what I said made a HUGE impact in how I experience my world. Now, I do understand that days get filled quickly, things don’t always go according to plan and the to-do list can get thrown off by unexpected complications. What I am encouraging is to look at your goals and compare those to your daily activities. When you didn’t have time for something, why was that? You had time for something, what was it? Are you trying to do too much in one day? Cut the to do list in half, enjoy what you’re doing, hold yourself accountable by making time for your priorities and see what a difference it may make in your daily experience. I know it made a huge difference in mine!
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