We put plenty of focus on how to find and stay happy. We celebrate happiness and it’s understandable that we would want to stay in a place of joy and goodness, but that isn’t the only emotion that will come across our place over the course of a lifetime. Part of the gift of being alive is the gift of being able to feel both the highs and the lows- to know disappointment means that we at one time hoped so big. To feel loss means we first had. To struggle means we know what it means to feel content and ease, and while we do not wish to spend any more time than we have to at the bottom of despair, we want to honor those feelings just as much as we would the ones that feel positive. Those emotions are real and indicate important information about what matters to us.
You too? Here are 3 things to help:
- These 4 steps to dealing with disappointment, from Tiny Buddha
Notice the words “dealing with”. This means that the goal is not for you to ignore disappointment. It’s not for you to beat yourself up for feeling disappointed. Disappointment is an emotion that is real and deserves to be acknowledged just as much as happiness or any other emotion. If you haven’t before, here are 4 ways to deal.
- This reminder from Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith: that which is for you will come to you
It is easy to become disappointed when we feel like we missed our one chance but Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith reminds us that in the seeking you won’t miss the thing that is for you. The thing that feels like a missed opportunity or your last shot simply isn’t. Need more info about “not blocking your own blessing”? Check out the interview here!
- These do’s and don’ts for handling disappointment in the midst of difficulty
Disappointment is part of the deal. It’s going to happen and who knows how often it might appear but it doesn’t mean it has to stop you completely. Handling disappointment is a muscle you can work and grow with help from do’s and don’ts like these to use when it does happen to set in.