Suck it up. Deal with it. No crying in baseball.
If you grew up like me, sharing those feelings was for someone who couldn’t control themselves. You became adept at stuffing it all down, explaining it all away and then finding yourself in the same place over and over with no explanation in sight. Maybe it’s time to honor those feelings instead of bottling them up. Here are 3 things that might help:
- This article sharing 7 steps to deal with extreme emotions from Deepak Chopra
So you have the feelings. What do you do with them? Deepak walks us through tangible ways to experience and process those feelings. They do not need to steer the ship, but there is value to acknowledging what is making you sad or frustrated or elated. Let these be tools in your toolbox of emotions.
- This quote from Mitch Albom.
We wonder why we get stuck in pattens but we don’t always hesitate to react to scenarios the same way without considering their impact. Conflict ensues and we shut down. Or we feel powerless. We grow enraged. If we don’t start to notice what is arising, we stand very little chance of changing a negative pattern. Instead, allow yourself to see what comes up. Again, you don’t have to let a feeling dictate the choices you make, but nothing is gained by ignoring that you are hurt when the same family member leaves you out of holiday planning or that you are at wits end about a roommate or partner’s cleaning habits. Notice. Acknowledge. Know what needs to be let go and what needs to be discussed so that you really can move forward.
- This video from Spirit Junkie Gabby Bernstein who encourage us to honor our feelings.
Gabby says it so simply. Sometimes bottling comes from an unwillingness to be in the present. Do you feel like you deserve the thing that makes you mad or sad? Do you feel like you have a voice? Do you feel like your opinions are worth listening to? There are so many reasons and past baggage that can stop us from honoring how we feel in the moment. Perhaps changing that one pattern, deciding to honor your feelings, is a key waiting to unlock a new view of yourself and your life.