We’ve got a lot to do today and slowing down doesn’t appear anywhere on the list. The frustrating thing is that there are other people on this planet! People in their cars. People on the sidewalk going slower than we want. People in aisles. People we’re waiting to answer phone calls or emails or texts or give us a green light. People are slowing us down!
In reality, we hope to never live on an island unto ourselves. People can make an experience frustrating, but when we choose to be patient and take a moment, we increase the likelihood that we gain a partner or an advocate versus a speed bump. In other people we find wisdom, we pass on wisdom and we find the support we need to make these to-do lists a thing of the past, so today our intent is to be patient with those who aren’t going our speed.
You too? Here are 3 reasons why you should:
- Slowing down helps us empathize with others by seeing from their perspective.
Not everyone will have the same fire lit under you and there are an infinite number of reasons why. If someone is going a different speed, it doesn’t mean they’re unmotivated or distracted. It could mean their perspective is different and they won’t be the only person you encounter who sees things differently, so take a moment to consider where they’re coming from and what they’re seeing. Perhaps their mindset is vital to the development of your plans. YOU think XYZ is a priority for mankind, but does everyone? And for those who do not, what are their priorities? Are those priorities adaptable? There are plenty of good questions and answers in the differences we find amongst others. Rather than seeing a wrong pair of shoes, take a moment to step into them and gain some perspective.
- If they’re here, they’re willing to learn so be patient.
Not everyone is open to learning. We can get frustrated with the pace people are taking and that causes us to forget that not everyone is open to being taught new things at all. Rather than being discouraged by a person’s inability to keep up with your desired pace, remember that a person who is showing up is better than a person who isn’t, so take the time they need to catch up.
- Beating someone up won’t help them catch up.
Being upset with a person who won’t or can’t keep up with you isn’t helped by discounting or discrediting them. It’s scary to try new things! It’s scary to leap onto a vision that belongs to someone else. If someone has shown up to learn or be partnered with you, they have already done a very brave thing. Admonishing them for not keeping your speed right away is a harder way to expect them to shift gears. If giving them a speed boost is really your desire, consider ways to empower and encourage them rather than tear them down. What reward systems work? They’re different for everyone. What motivates your team? You may think your vivid disappointment will push someone to try harder, but it may convince them that they are a hopeless member of this team and shut down entirely. Now, not only are they not going you’re speed, they’re not going any speed. Find a way to encourage those around you to rise to the occasion with positivity rather than belittlement.