The more you want something, the more you need to let it go. This can seem counter-intuitive. I mean, it’s important to feel passionate about something, right?
Well, yes and no. Feeling passionate about something, wanting to make a difference, wanting to make an impact – these are all good things.
Often when we are passionate about something, however, we have a tendency to grasp or cling to a specific outcome. When we do this, our well-being is affected by whether or not we achieve the desired outcome.
When this happens, our well-being becomes dependent on a specific result. And when this happens, we lose site of our true nature, which is already complete, already whole, and already perfect.
Take, for example, the environment. Increasing numbers of people want to help reverse the catastrohpic environmental damage, which is certainly very important, worthwhile, and valuable. Yet it is very easy to become dismayed and discouraged when things don’t seem to be improving, changing, or going the way you might want them to.
The environment is just one example – the same holds true for absolutely anything you desire in your life.
The problem is that when you are attached the results, your sense of well-being becomes compromised. When this happens, you are actually less effective and less able to create the outcomes you desire. Your possibilities are eclipsed by clinging and grasping after a result.
So no matter how much you care about something, practice letting it go. When you are able to let it go, if even just a little bit, you have much more freedom and ability to create the change you want in your life and in the world.
One of the things that makes it very difficult to let go is the feeling of pain. You might feel pain about the state of the environment, or pain about the loss of a loved one. You might have a broken heart because of the chaos in the world, the loss of your financial nest egg, the loss of a dream, or the loss of a loved one.
Whatever the case, in order to create the life you want, in order to make the impact you want, in order to become the person you want to be, you must heal the broken parts of your heart.
As you heal your heart from the disappointment, the grief, the loneliness, the pain, the frustration – whatever – you will discover that you can pursue your dreams with passion, but you have no need to cling and grasp after a particular outcome. You can set an intention, let it go, and live the life you know you are meant to live.
To help you heal your heart and live your dreams, I am going to be teaching a tele-class on May 19th. Mark your calendars and save the date – more information will follow soon!
In the meantime, practice letting go and basking in the presence that you already are. From this place, everything will flow with more ease and less effort.
Peace, Love, Beauty,
Sarah Maria
Hi! Sarah,
Nicely said ' let it go' & basking in the present that you already are.
Fazal Karim,
Sharurah,
Saudi Arabia.
Thats great Sarah, we can enjoy our present, set our intention and work towards it and let it take care of itself.
Blessings & Joy, Catherine
Dear Sara
Namaste
Let Go,is an attitude of carefreeness(not carelessness), with relaxed awareness.
It comes through understanding of human condition at all levels body, mind,spirit and beyond ,i.e living consciously,taking things as it is and letting happnings happen.
Best wishes for Letting things happen.
Yours
@run
Sara,
You are absolutely right.
Wish you love, peace and happiness.
Trisha
Hi Sara and all,
I absolutely love this post. This is about being in the moment.
It is about the power
of passion to create, imagine, explore, celebrate—in the moment. When we are attached to the outcome we have lost sight of the power of the present moment.
If we are in the moment all ego and fear based demands
dissolve and we just are.
Thank you for this post. All of our essences benefit
from the reminder to come out of the fussiness
and into the moment—there is truly no wanting in the moment–it is what itis.
love to all,
Laura-May
Any thoughts on how to let go of a desire to let go?
Pavel Somov, Ph.D., licensed psychologist, author of "Eating the Moment: 141 Mindful Practices to Overcome Overeating One Meal at a Time" (New Harbinger, 2008) http://www.eatingthemoment.com
Thank You Sarah,
While you were publishing this post, I was trying to release my new intent and could not because it required more attention. By Saturday afternoon I was done with the required attention and released. Now I wait to see what a waxing moon does with it. Blessings X 10,
Ed
Beautifully articulated. I loved reading what you wrote particularly this morning. Thank you for sharing!
Letting go is not always as easy as it seems. I am struggling to let go of my 10 year relationship with someone who no longer wants me.
It's hard, but I know I have to let go in order to move forward.
I don't know if we can be friends – maybe in time. It's been 6 months and I still want a chance for us, but he is dating someone else and wants to be friends.
I just don't know how to get to the point of truly letting go. This is someone I spent my life with for 10 years. Someone I still love.
What are you holding on to? World outside is an illusion, inside is momentary and you hands hold briefly…But this takes an awful lot of conditioning to prove you exist and nothing else does. It took me 52 years to do so as I will be 55 soon..Once you have corralled whatever you are holding on to life, then letting go it becomes transforming and a greater feeling and awareness comes. I learned after the movie The Secret by Rhonda Byrnes with the Laws of Attraction which stemmed to Abraham with Esther Hicks as the channeler and throwing away my oars forever and go downstream because life is pointing you in that direction anyways, if resist you go the other way which is not to satisfying. My letting go was by going to a pond in the beginning of fall in 2007 and seen how everything lets go and gets better as days go by as to Spring comes with New and Great Hope.
If you are still holding on it is only because of the laws of attraction and convincing something in your subcon(subconscious) that you want to be real even though you don't.
To me one day I will die but when I was holding on I was dying quicker…keep the gap further away and let go, you will see things and hear things you never knew existed but did because you were paying attention to something outside yourself and not inside.
I am only an expert with my experience and that is all…This is just an opinion.
Peace and Good Luck(+)
Dom 777
WOW.. I have a girlfriend in the EXACT same situation.. was with this "boy" for 10 years… just wants to be friends , already has another…
She too is having a hard time…especially as his family had become her family so it is not just the loss of their relationship.
am wondering, if she was willing could I connect the two of you via email just to have another who knows just how you feel????