For many years I have heard from others (teacher and friends) "STOP COMPLAINING". I have taken many workshops that made a big deal about this practice and said, "if you do it for a week your life will change". They had me at the line my life will change as I am always wanting to be better and really let go of what holds me back from transformation. I tried to stop many times and then justified it when I did complain. I didn’t even realize how it weighed me down and even had an effect on my health. Complaing is stressful and keeps us away from your wholeness and trust in our perfect universe. If you pay attention to nature then you will apreciate this example. Trees don’t complain that is doesn’t rain they keep rooted and go through the seasonal change. Now that is a great lesson for us all to keep rooted in our dreams what we belive and allow the seasons to change knowing that the sun will always shine. Time is needed for all things to grow so why do we forget this and get stuck in the complain cycle? Media thrives on this and so do we without even being aware that we subscibed to a habit so disempoweing. (quick tip stop watching TV or read the newspaper for a month notice the change) How do we get rid of complaining once and for all? You probably are sating well I don’t even do it – watch yourself and see.
What has made the shift real for me was I showed up for a speaking gig and was ready to do my talk and little did I know that there were no attendees for the first speaker or any of the talks. There was a lot of press and energy to make it a "success" but it was not what I thought would happen. For the entire time, I was holding my goal that I set in excitement and knew that I was doing my work of being there and holding space – like abookmark so the universe could arrange itself for my goal. I knew that it was ok and really could trust this. I have before in the past made mention that they did this or that and it was gone – just like that as I stayed focused with joy on my goal. I was steadfast and not wavering. Time flew by I met great people and was thanked for being there and asked to come back again. Cool huh? If you can allow yourself the time and know that your goal is unfolding holding to that and never giving up – never!!!
Now if you are ready and willing it’s your turn for transformation. Let’s do this!
1. Think of a goal you have set for yourself keep it simple and fall in love with it. Perhaps it’s relationship related, job related, or health related. Are you set on the results you want and have you defined it?
2. Now write it down clearly in the words that you connect with including all details.
3. Make a commitment to read it aloud once in the morning (before you brush your teeth), two times in the afternoon (before lunch) and once before you go to bed. Fill this goal with every bit of your body and know it’s unfolding as the universe forms itself around your desire.
Are you still with me cause this is really important to keep this in mind carry it with you and become a diciple to your desired outcome. Now when you are wating in line or for the phone call or any other step to take place allow where you are to be perfect. Okay it sounds silly but I have done this and it works. When a situation does not turn out as you "want it" keep joyusly focused on your personal goal.
Try it and see that when you are waiting, in traffic or thinking you were supposed to get that job, have that meeting or loose those pounds it is happening (even if you cannot see it yet) becuase you are focused on your goal. Nature is patient and as the acorn takes time to break through there are years of growth that take place in order for it to become the oak tree. Try it and don’t waver from what you want – no matter what as you are not alone and deserve all you dream of because you are part of this amazing gift of life.
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Hillary Rubin has been a motivated leader in the health and wellness industry for years, teaching yoga and lecturing on a range of topics dealing with empowering modalities for optimal health. She has been featured on Fit TV, Lime.com, YogaJournal.com, LA Yoga, Yoga Mates, Conscious Choice Magazine, Yoga Peeps, iyogalife.com. Her commitment to helping others is fueled by compassion and founded on the breakthroughs of her own personal experience.
In 1996, she was diagnosed with MS. Today she is symptom-free, medication-free and inspiring people around the world with her uplifting personal story and a progressive paradigm for wellness empowerment. She changed her life by repositioning her diagnosis as a platform for transformation and growth. Now she is teaching others how to turn their deepest challenges into opportunities to achieve optimal health and happiness.
Hillary- You have NO idea what perfect timing your post was for me- it's all I'm sayin'
Peace, Lynn
I grew up in a family of complainers. I'm Jewish. Maybe it's a cultural thing. People used to tell me to stop complaining too, and I lost a friend over it. That I will never forget. Over the years I have tried to stop complaining, then realized maybe what I was doing wasn't complaining at all. Maybe I was reflecting on my feelings, out loud. So, I found people who did the same, and we complained together. Then I realized how draining complaining could be. I told the other people to STOP COMPLAINING. And, I did the same. Rather than focus on what I wasn't getting, I did as you noted, set goals and worked hard to achieve what I wanted. I won't say that I got everything that I wanted, but I won't complain either.
David