Welcome to my tent in Intent!

I’m a teacher of The Path, honoring the FOUR YOGAS of knowledge/wisdom, love/devotion, self-control/meditation, and action/service.

I’m
especially fond of finding and sharing The Path in the stories around
us: literature, films, history, and the true-life experiences of
everyday people. To this end, I’m blogging on my homepage and creating free and low-cost E-Courses at my Ning site.

I have been a teacher for nearly 30 years, over 10 of those in Asia. I have been on pilgrimage in Japan, lived in a temple in China, and married a Filipina Vaishnava (the most spiritual experience of all).

Have a Nice Day?

Everyday I leave the house I battle with myself on what I am going to say when I leave my kids. Do I say, "Enjoy your day" "Have a good day" "Make it a great day"? I think those statements put so much unnecessary pressure on a child. Which adult really always has a "good" or "great" day? Why do we measure ourselves in terms of when the sun rises and sets?

Yesterday, I had a great day between when I woke up to around 3:30, then could have gone back to sleep. Today, I turned the question onto myself and thought would it would be like if my parents told me to "have a good day" today?

Today, I decided to choose a different exit with my children. I kissed them both on the head, told them I loved them and said, "I hope you have a good day." I think the word "hope" really says it all. It communicates that the game isn’t dependent upon one player, my kid(s). It says that the whole day doesn’t rest on one person’s shoulders, and that it is a combination of many people and things that will or will not effectively decide whether or not someone thinks she/he has had a good day or not.

Also, it says that if one does not have a good or great day, then there is always room for growth, and in most cases that way is up – in a positive direction. Hope also communicates support, that my children are not alone in their quest for a good day. After all, they’re only children, and are limited to what they can and can not do, emotionally and physically.

Sometimes as adults we forget that our child inside needs to feel the hope that we didn’t get in our youth. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves that there are things (and people) which we can not change, yet have the courage to change the things (and ourselves) in the way we can, and have the wisdom to know the difference.

Some of us choose to find that hope in God. Some of us choose to find that hope in ourselves. Others choose to find that hope in others. And, some of us just get through the day.

Today, I am going to make "hope" my deliberate choice, and accept that in my travels from sunrise to sunset, no matter what I face or who faces me, I will take one moment at a time, and accept any "hardship as the pathway to peace."

A Child’s Take on Love

I’m a firm believer that it’s the little things that make you happy. It’s not the major events — even having a child or getting married — they come with so much stress that the happiness part kind of gets overwhelmed in the enormity of it all.

I was just reading this wonderful post on Happy Healthy Hip Parenting featuring one of those sappy emails our relatives send us all the time. We all get them. Most of the time we smile, we delete, we move on. But sometimes just a few make us pause, reflect, and take a moment out of the day’s craziness.

Here’s a sampler….

What love means to a 4- to 8-year-old:

A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4- to 8-year-olds, “What does love mean?”

Here are some of the responses that really made me smile.

“When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.” Billy, Age 4

“Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is okay.”
Danny, Age 7

“Love is what’s in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.”
Bobby, Age 7

Thanks to Sondra at Happy Hip Healthy Parenting for this gem!

Please step slowly away from your computer…

Can you identify?
You are working hard; it is nearly the end of the day and you are rushing to finish a project, meet a deadline or just want to clear the "stuff" off your desk for the day. Your stomach is turning and your jaw is tight. Ultimately, you end up working an extra hour or even two and leave the office feeling drained and uptight. When you get home, you collapse in front of the tv for the night only to wake up the next day and repeat the process again.
OR
You are in between jobs and are conducting a job search and hour after hour you sit in front of your computer scanning jobboards and company profiles trying to generate a job lead. You are frustrated and feeling hopeless then you realize that you haven’t eaten lunch and now it is 3 o’clock and you even showered yet!
OR
You are at home with your young children. You wake up early, throw on your comfy clothes and dive into the busy routine of maintaining the house, cooking, cleaning, driving, listening, solving, responding… you move quickly from one task to another. You are efficient with a capital E! All of a sudden it is 10pm and you are in bed drifting in and out of sleep with the tv on.
If you can identify and want change, what can you do?
We all know the many positive ways to create balance in life and they will help – exercise, healthy diet, meditation, positive relationships, hobbies, volunteering… yet still we continue to search for something else.
There are many things we say to ourselves directly or that subconsciously drive our behaviour during the day like:
  • If I don’t do it, who will?
  • I need to get it done now, it will only take five minutes…
  • I want to do it the right way the first time.
  • I have to work hard or it won’t get finished or done properly.
If we believe that we "have to", "need to" or "want to"… at some level, we believe we have to "make things happen", that we have to "control" something that is going on in our lives rather than letting it unfold naturally. Learning to "LET GO" can be a complex and challenging process but the first step in any transition process is gaining awareness.
So step away from your work, your routine, listen and be aware of your thoughts and try to let go a little at a time.
Things will get done, you will work again, the house/business will not fall apart and you will be much more relaxed and able to enjoy your life!
For specific techniques to letting go to apply in your personal situation contact me anytime!
Enjoy your day!
Kelly McIntyre M.Sc.

Be Careful What You Wish For

I got something that I really, really wanted today. I was hoping for it, waiting for it, scheming to get it for nearly a year now — and today I finally got it. And I felt pretty bad about it.

This “something” is a garage attached to my house. It had been converted into a separate studio and rented out to someone else before my husband and I moved into the house. We really wanted the garage, we really needed the additional space for Christopher’s office, we really got increasingly crowded working together in one, none-too-large, room.

I couldn’t do anything to get it, it was the landlord’s decision, and I didn’t want to do anything behind the back of the person who was renting it, a very nice person. But I sure did a lot in my head. I was scheming and plotting and imagining all kinds of stuff.

Finally it came to be. The guy moved out, we started to move in… and I felt bad, uncomfortable, a bit guilty and definitely not as happy as I expected to be. There really wasn’t a reason for me to feel that way, I didn’t DO anything, I just wanted it to happen. And yet the feeling persisted.

As I opened to what I felt, trying to find out where it was coming from, I realized that it was a leftover, a hangover of sorts, of collapsing into my mind, of focusing and narrowing my vision. This is the mind’s way. It is in the mind’s nature to orient outside, to control what it perceives as an outside reality, to “make things happen,” to get what it wants. It is also the mind’s way to believe that controlling the outside reality is vital to it’s survival, that it will make it happy, fulfilled, whole — that there is something out there that is needed, that is missing, and it needs to be obtained.

I realized that I spent a lot of time indulging my mind, allowing it to control how I felt about the garage situation.

As I continued to look, regaining my presence, opening to who I am that has nothing to do with mind, I realized that all I could have done was remain present. All there is to do is to remain present.

I realized that it is the mind’s way to separate from, and to control, reality. It is God’s way to hold space so that reality will open, for things to happen.

When I am present to who I am, to who I am as God — I am the reality. There is nothing to control, nothing to organize, nothing to deal with, because it is all me. In a very real, very literal sense.

Why would I try to constrict myself? Why would I try to force myself? Why would I try to manipulate myself — when all I need is to choose? There is an absolute peace and an endless space when I open fully to who I am. No need to do anything.

To do anything would be to separate and constrict. To want something would be to separate and collapse

I realized that when I want something, when I want one thing, I might get it. But when I am present as myself, when I am the reality, I have everything. I have the universe.

When I try to control reality from my mind, I may force things to happen a certain way. When I remain present, when I am God, all I have to do is to allow things to open, to allow an unlimited amount of wonders and miracles to happen, to allow the universe to shower me with abundance beyond anything that my mind could even imagine it could want.

Just like the kid in Matrix said, “Don’t try to bend the spoon. Instead try to realize the truth — there is no spoon.”

A start somewhere…

Ok so here I am on this intent website writing my first blog. I guess there is no wrong or right way to do this, honestly at this point there is definitely no wrong way to write this blog for me since I have no friends at the moment….tee hee. I did have a conversation via chat today with a friend of mine. I have a tendency to ramble on about the soul, as if I am an expert :P I know I am not but it feels good to pretend that you think you know what you are talking about. Ya see when it comes to the spirit I feel that I am quite evolved in a general sense, I understand that life is imperament, and unfortunately though it is not always easy to see suffering truly is everywhere. If we can truly see this and understand this truth that to me makes all the sense in the world. Once one can see that life truly is suffering, in a sense you are free from it because when something unfortunate happens it is easy to accept. Accpeting anything makes any situation easy to deal with, so you are not so caught up and holding onto situations that will only cause you more saddness be it any situation. I hope I am making sense here? My point is this is my frist attempt at a blog :P

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