Integrated Speech

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Hope you are doing well.

Integrated Speech

Speech is something we use everyday and it has great potential for transforming our lives. Yoga scriptures suggests “integrated speech” (Vak Tapas in Sanskrit) as a spiritual practice. Integrated speech is something that is true, beneficial and valuable to oneself and others; speech that is used at the right time, right place and right context. Integrated speech is something that brings unity, peace, harmony and joy in everyone who listens. Integrated speech means to be deliberate in content of the speech and the words we use in our communication.

We are constantly having internal dialogues within ourselves. The kind of inner dialogue we have, reflects in our choices, speech and outlook of our life. Integrated speech asks for mindfulness. By being mindful of our thoughts/inner dialogues, we can transform our speech. There is a part of our mind that is constantly judging, criticizing, comparing, evaluating, interpreting,resisting. These thoughts in our mind result in speech that is sarcastic, blaming, gossiping, backbiting, criticism, verbal attack and sometime straight lies.

Though I have not been able to practice integrated speech all the time, whenever I have paid attention to my speech, I have been able to notice how much lie I tell to myself or lie to others. I have been able to realize how sometimes my speech can be hurting. Sometimes I even notice myself engaging in idle chatter or gossiping.

Integrated speech as spiritual practice seems to be simple on the surface, yet if you practice right speech, you can realize how powerful approach this can be, to transform your life. Regular practice of yoga and meditation helps to reduce the inner dialogue and increases our ability to be mindful of our thoughts and speech. Our speech brings us a great opportunity to transform our lives. When we are not sure, it is better to be in silence than to speak for the sake of speaking. Reclaim the power of your speech right away.

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On My 3rd Week Raw Food Choices I Gnaw!

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All photos by Meady’s Musings Production, Copyright 2006-2008

As I head into my 3rd week raw I’m in a much different place than I envisioned myself being…I thought I’d be just waiting to cross the finish line of the 3rd week and probably planning to have something like a big chocolate cake or pizza waiting for me at the end! But instead here I am 2nd week raw and I’m actually thinking I could be like this for much longer? Also I don’t always feel hungry…can fruits which I mostly eat all day be this filling? But certainly I’d want to eat cooked foods again and carbs but maybe not as much? Or maybe I can not make it a rule and so live raw but when I really wanted to eat something or there is this event or family gathering I can have some cooked things? Cause I hate having to turn down people when they’ve cooked for me. Like my mum is itching to feed me dhalpuris!

Hmm…so many choices that are about to open up soon after I complete my 3rd week raw…hmm…I know for sure I’d want to have chocolates…although to be honest I don’t care for the sugar in them so much although I can’t eat more than 60% dark too cause then it gets too bitter so I must want some sweetness in them. A self proclaimed chocolate connoisseur myself I’ve found that the European chocs are the fine ones and the American ones are the really sugar crazed ones…I once had this box of French Chocolate Truffles and it tasted almost like cocoa…in fact the truffles were each garnished with a touch of cocoa a top each…mmmm…mmmm…So anyway I think cocoa can be the way to go perhaps in the future…perhaps cocoa instead of coffee…although this would not be new for me cause I’ve often had a cup of Cadbury’s cocoa at night. I make it sinfully delicious if I do say so myself by using lots of heaped teaspoons of cocoa and Nestle’s sweetened condensed milk. So it’s sweet but maybe better than chocolates? But seriously could I ever live with out those decadent treats? I’m so crazy bout chocolates I even love that game on Yahoo! games called Chocolatier and I wanted to eat the chocs I created in the game so badly! I also loved that it represented a time when cocoa was still exported from my homeland of Trinidad…cool game! But back to the food choices…

I can see myself perhaps giving up coffee but to all my group members on the Hong Wing Coffee group on Facebook don’t worry I’ve not left you and whenever I do have coffee I assure you it will be Hong Wing or at least I’ll still think it’s made in TT and the best! But I think I’m missing my tea…the herbal tea experience was cool and at least now I know I can do it…but I’m a tea lover…I love tea especially with all the seasonings that is now called chai in the west although it really just means tea in hindi…but yep the last thing I had that was to be not on my raw list was Twinings Voyage Indian Chai (tea)…I had that just minutes before I became raw and I soooo long for it. I also love Dilmah tea. Maybe I can try going to green tea to start with though but we will see…And maybe I’ll toss my Splenda and start using sugar again but just minimize my use of it. I know some friends will hug me for that!

So let’s see…let’s see…I’ve learned that I can actually live without cheese and so many things taste so much better even without it. But I do miss my milk. I’ve learned that one big plate of vegetables can be enough to fill me for dinner. I’ve learned…I’ve learned…I’ve learned so much! So here we go one more week until my rawism is complete but then the question will remain what should Babita Dubay really eat? Veges for sure and fruits galore, less cheese and pasta and no more Splenda…

Overcoming Apathy

This is my question: I am a 24-year-old woman born and raised in Sweden, never felt I belong there so I left for New York when I was 19 to study photography. Since then I have traveled and lived in places like Ethiopia, Peru, Sri Lanka, Brazil and Ghana. With the motivation to pursue various photography projects but also trying to find a place where I felt like I belonged.

The last four years of my life I have felt this reoccurring state of apathy. I don’t feel happy nor severely sad, I don’t really get that attached to people nor places. I also feel this impacting my photography even though I am able to produce an image with certain sensitivity; I can feel it going through me but it doesn’t stay with me. This is really stopping me in going further with my career because I don’t know what direction to take because I don’t go to deeply into subjects even though I yearn for it.

Sometimes I feel like a dead person, it’s almost like a part of me doesn’t want to be here. I have few friends that I love a lot, but I kind of avoid people in general. It might seem arrogant, but I don’t feel like I get that much out people, and I have a tendency to brush people off as boring and plain. I know it sounds horrible, but that is just the way I feel. I have never been in love and I am wondering if I might be too arrogant for it. I will say, though, when I am interested in someone or something I become borderline obsessive. Everything becomes about that one thing or that one person, but that is a state I haven’t been in for a while because I realized it’s not that healthy, but I do miss the high of it.

I also feel it affecting my body, even though I exercise a lot, my energy is very low, I have trouble sleeping and when I wake up I don’t feel rested. At the moment I am very frustrated because I don’t know what direction to take. The best way I can explain it is like you want to run in the race like everyone else but everything is dark and I can’t see the road in front of me, and I am just sitting there waiting and waiting for light so I can see the road.

What scares me the most is myself and my reactions. I have a habit to isolate myself and to go so deeply into myself that I can’t find my way out again. I have to push myself to leave the house sometimes.

I want to feel connected, alive and joyful. And I guess my question is — do you have some advice how to achieve that?


You are still quite young and are likely to grow out of this sense of isolation, but you should also be able to help yourself overcome this isolation by cultivating self-intimacy. The sense of numbness and distance you feel around others, and your feeling of a lack of belonging to a place or with others, suggests that there is a barrier within you that is also keeping you from connecting with yourself.

If you can learn to remove that wall and accept, acknowledge and love yourself completely, you will find that sense of home and belonging that has thus far eluded you. This self-intimacy will also create the basis for a meaningful and rewarding emotional connection with a partner. And because it will engage you with your core energy, it will also bring back your vitality, passion and joy.

Reestablishing this connection inside you is not difficult, but because you have developed a habit of avoiding yourself, it will require some discipline and commitment to overcome the old patterns and establish new patterns. Begin by writing in a journal at the end of every day all your feelings, judgments and sensations. Pour it all out on the page without worrying about organization or whether it is worth writing down or not. Do this for nine days with the intention of being as complete as you can be each day. At the end of this period you will have noted certain themes that have developed. For example, maybe one theme is that you have written down a lot is that you feel bored by people.

Now during the day, when you notice one of these themes, like boredom, be aware of what you are feeling. Enter into the experience without judgment and allow yourself to feel how your body responds to it. Notice your breathing, your body language, your tone of voice, muscle tension, where you mind moves to distract you-notice everything you can with loving indifference. You are neither approving nor disapproving of your behavior, neither trying to change it nor keep it the same.

Maintain this gentle self-awareness on those behaviors that are walling you off from yourself for two weeks. Without trying to change your habits, you will find that just by being fully present and aware, the grip of the old habits will fade and new fresh and spontaneous responses will take their place. Listen and notice the new growth of what is starting to emerge in you.

You will start to release a lot of physical and emotional tension at this point, so you will need channels to release it through. In addition to the exercise that you do, you may want to do yoga asanas, swimming, massage, dancing, and singing. Let your heart guide you to any music, movies or natural surroundings that can also support your release process. When you feel you are ready, and if you feel you have a friend that can understand what you are doing, tell them that you are working on getting past your control defenses so that you can open up and feel life more completely. Ask for their support and understanding during this transition.

When you wake up parts of you that have been anesthetized for years, the first things that you feel again are not usually pleasant and happy, but these difficult sensations are what you need to go through to reclaim your full feeling and functioning. So if you go through periods of dark despair and self-loathing, know that it is the toxicity of the repression that is being cleared out and that after that is released, the genuine expression of your self will shine through.

Even though I have laid this out as a linear program lasting a few weeks, you will likely find that it takes longer. You will also probably need to adjust it somewhat and mix-and-match the suggestions to what works best for you. Remember that the rewards of freedom and joy are worth the effort.



Stay Calm in the Chaos

"I like what you’re saying but I have a question, what does awareness even mean?"

This is the question I got from a sweet young college girl this weekend during the Yoga Month Festival where we had our own 1800 square foot tent. After a few moments, I responded with "Awareness means being willing to look at yourself, at your life, and at the world. But instead of seeing only what you want, you see what is, and instead of reacting like you have, you respond in a new way that supports and lifts up
everyone and everything."

As though she had been in this conversation a thousand times before, she immediately responded with: "But it doesn’t feel good when I look at those things. Everything I see scares me. How do I become aware when I feel so scared?"

Look deeper.

Our (external) world is in a scary place right now. The political battlefield is raging out of control, the economy has filed for workers compensation, and people’s stress levels are rising by the minute.

Take a deep breath with me: Inhale. Exhale. Repeat.

With the world in chaos, NOW is the time to dive deeper into your self. Regardless of what’s happening outside of you, there is a place inside of you that is calm, cool, and connected, aka selfcentered. It’s always there. It’s always okay. It’s always safe.

Going inside during these troubled times helps. Why? Because it puts things in perspective. Though the outside world is spinning out of control, the world inside is peaceful. While our actions from the past might have been the catalyst for our troubled times today, you see that new creative choices are immediately available as you quiet the mind chatter and open up to what’s possible.

Marianne Williamson once said: "You can’t solve the problems of the world from the same state of consciousness that created them." I wholeheartedly agree, and with that in mind, this is my challenge to you:

Meditate every single day without fail.

Do it for you, do it for your friends, do it for the world. If you don’t meditate every day, contact us and we’ll get you on-track. If you have a practice, stay strong with it. If you see people struggling, send them our way. If there is one thing the world needs right now, it’s to stay calm and centered within
the midst of chaos.

Much love,

Max Simon


The meaning of life in 700 words

What if you could go back to the time before you incarnated this life time and know what you were thinking and what you were aware of ?


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