PMS: A Blessing, Not a Curse

During PMS, most women resist their natural hormonal cycle.  My dream is instead of women dreading their cramps; it could become a compass that navigates ones emotions, needs and desires.  PMS then becomes a gateway to a deeper understanding of one self, which builds empowerment for every women, men and children.

In the land of medical and scientific books there is a big question mark around PMS treatments.  Why? Because the connection between a woman with her hormones, her emotions and intuition have many layers.  Many women experience the height of their PMS a few days before they bleed, which is the time in your cycle when progesterone increases.  The increase in progesterone signals the body and mind that it’s quiet time to turn inward. 

Many women become sad, anxious, and angry at this time and feel there is no reason for these “bad” feelings.  But there are many reasons.  This is a time you naturally begin to evaluate and reflect the difficult aspects of life that were ignored on a daily basis.  Maybe you didn’t speak openly with a friend, or your finances aren’t organized or you have no passion in your career.  The increase of progesterone allows a women to pay attention to her life through a deep connection and self understanding of what she wants.  I feel we are so lucky that our bodies create a monthly opportunity to reflect and brainstorm about our desires.

A women’s body is more intelligent than we can every understand.  To me, it’s remarkable how a hormonal increase can create a deeper connection to oneself and her desires.  Personally, I have grown to love my PMS because it’s a time for me to observe my emotions and see what I really want to change and create in life for the next month.  So, let’s create health, movement, and happiness with ease.  

A few steps to begin or continue your journey:

1.  Journaling can help you create the change you desire during times of PMS.  When you feel angry or have cramps, here are some great questions to guide you through:

              What is your body trying to tell you?

              What is coming up for you at this time?

              If you find yourself breaking down, what’s triggering you?

               What is it your body is trying to reveal to you?

2.  The foods you eat will create more balance or havoc with your hormones.  If I could give just one suggestion it would be- Avoid Sugar! It creates disorder on your insulin, adrenal and liver levels.  This includes all “White Stuff” such as rice, white flour, pasta, cereal, and bread. 

3.  This article is about honoring the wisdom of a women’s menstrual cycle- including her emotions, body, and desires. I try to create a fun and sacred ritual on the first day.  Sometimes I sleep late, light a candle to welcome my deep wisdom or place a warm bottle on my stomach.  Even five minutes of connection will create a deeper inner-peace during this time of your cycle.

Hormonal balance is everything in life- from how you eat to how you relate to yourself and the outside world.  By gaining knowledge, creating balance and finding inner-peace with PMS you’ll connect deeper with being and living as an abundant women.  


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  1. What an insightful way to look at it. Unfortunately it is looked at as the woman becomes a raging monster at this time of the month and with the commercials you begin to think something is wrong with you. Next time I will think about it this way and hopefully have a more positive experience.

  2. Hi Ladies! It's so wonderful this view point brought more clarity around your feminine body and then brought the info to your friends. I think the wisdom and fun we can have with our bodies is amazing. If you have any questions and ideas for more blog postings please email me

    It's wonderful to meet you here!

  3. I loved that article! I feel so strongly about that. My running joke is that if this was a long long time ago, farmers could plant crops by following my calendar. I'm so intune with everything it's almost creepy during that time. I most definitely believe it's a blessing as well.

  4. As someone who deals with anxiety and depression on a regular basis–not just during PMS–I find this article deeply upsetting. For me, menstruation and PMS means worse-than-usual panic attacks and suicidal thoughts (not to mention cramps so painful I vomit). While some strategies of cognitive behavioral therapy (like the journalling exercise noted above) work to lessen these symptoms while also giving insight into one's life, the symptoms themselves do not create a "deeper connection to [oneself] and [one's] desires." It is how we react to the symptoms in an effort to alleviate them that does that. Additionally, assigning a motivation to why we feel anxious or depressed only works some of the time; often even when the "reason" for feeling that way has been dealt with the depression or anxiety lingers on.

    I am also wary of the idea that there is a given time when women should pause and reflect on their lives. To me it seems like this should be a continual process that doesn't start or end with menstruation. Knowing oneself and one's desires is not the result of a hormonal epiphany, but rather the result of looking within–no matter what time of the month it is.

  5. This sounds wonderful, and would love to lovingly embrace PMS. But usually I don't have the luxury of "quiet time to turn inward." My PMS seems to come at the most inopportune times, and this week I'm 5 days late and have been suffering emotionally for 2 weeks. Pregnancy is not a possibility. Although I did have a female house guest that was sleeping in close proximity – I wonder if that has screwed up my cycle. I look forward to bleeding because it is like pushing the reset button to my energy and emotions. Suffering 5 days past my due date is torture. I can't imagine embracing PMS right now.