The Power of Forgiveness

By on April 30, 2010 in Relationships

What forgiveness is:

Forgiveness is for giving to yourself.  It is a gift for you on your pathway to everlasting love, one that can help you clear up emotional wounds which may be hampering your success in finding and holding the right partner.  Forgiveness means to free up those hurts inside you.  Then you can breathe that clear, heady, elevated air of emotional freedom.  And that’s when you become open to the partner who is truly right for you.  As a popular spiritual teacher puts it, "forgiveness is necessary in igniting the spark of love." Forgiveness is release.  The word "forgive" literally means "to give up," "to give away." 

Forgiveness is a form of unburdening, removing emotional clutter that can keep you blocked from experiencing everlasting love.  Forgiveness can lead to emotional freedom and that can lead to change.  And it is your life that you want to change. 

Forgiveness is about uncovering hurts rather than denying they are there.  Forgiveness has to do with acknowledging all those creepy crawly feelings that block you from your joy. One simple exercise is to forgive yourself each week for the mistakes you made.  Set aside a few minutes to review what went wrong, and how you might better have handled the situation.  A friend of mine, Jane, has learned to stop wasting her time blaming others for what they have done to her.  Instead, she opens up her weekly forgiveness ritual with something like this: "I forgive myself for going out on a blind date and expecting love-at-first- sight," or "I forgive myself for putting up with a man who belittled me."  By forgiving herself in this manner, she remains focused on her needs rather than what is lacking in the other person.  As Jane says: "When I release my resentments this way each week, it clears me up inside.  I don’t hear that rumble of anger underneath my breath anymore.  And it helps me to stay focused on me and my expectations."

Forgiveness is for giving to yourself what you didn’t get enough of as a child: attention, love, affection, and recognition.  We all missed out on something.  Whoever or whatever denied you your needs in the past can be forgiven — released — to make more room for what you want to experience in a relationship.  Draw yourself out; don’t wait for others to do it for you.  Allow them the pleasure of knowing you better.  Reward yourself by becoming the center of attention at a party; don’t be afraid to stand out.  Notice how other people will love you if you allow them.  If you have a pet, take note of how that little animal loves just being around you.  Permit other people to enjoy your company in the same way; let yourself be flattered by their attention.  Pamper yourself with the affections of others.  If you hug almost any human being, they will generally hug you back.  And that one little hug per day can prove that the love you have to give is very, very worthy.

Forgiveness is daring to become unencumbered by old stale resentments.  Recycled trash is still trash.  Rancor cankers, and it can manifest eventually as body illness and pain.  You wouldn’t dream of eating yesterday’s garbage for dinner tonight, but that’s similar to what you are doing if you keep recycling old hurts through your system.  Forgiveness is daring to feel worthy of the love you seek, giving up what you may have accepted as love in the past, especially if it was wrong for you. 

Forgiveness is having the courage to confront a two-fold roadblock: self- forgiveness and for giving-up the limitations of others.

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  1. heavenly_imaginings May 3, 2010 at 7:39 am #

    Hugs thank you and all very very true

The Power of Forgiveness

By on June 30, 2009 in Relationships

When someone’s actions create pain for us, it is natural to engage in an inner conversation of resentment. The mind replays the offense, repeating the stories over and over. My wife betrayed me. My father destroyed my trust. My partner didn’t come through for me. And so on. The dialogue of blame disturbs the peace of both mind and body. The Buddhist text the Dhammapada reminds us how important it is to free ourselves from the toxic conversations that preoccupy our mind:

Hatred can never put an end to hatred; love alone can. This is the eternal truth.
People forget that their lives will soon end.
For those who remember, quarrels come to an end.

Consider a person in your life whom you associate with painful feelings. It might be an ex-spouse, an offensive boss, an abusive stepparent, or a best friend who betrayed your trust. Contemplate the interactions you’ve had with this person who created pain for you. For the purpose of freeing your heart from the constriction caused by resentment, shift your focus from what happened to you to what was happening in the life of the person who caused your pain.

Accessing what you know about this individual’s life, begin constructing their biography. The goal is to understand how the person who caused you pain could do what they did. Journal the details you are aware of, and then fill in the blanks using your imagination. Here are some questions that can help you with this step:

•  What do you know or imagine about the emotional and physical health of their parents or caregivers?
•  Was the individual who caused you pain planned and wanted by their parents?
•  How was this person treated as a baby and young child?
•  How did their family members and peers relate to them?

Having gained insight into their behavior, you are now ready for the next step. Sitting comfortably, close your eyes, center your attention in your heart, and ask yourself this question:

What can I do to forgive this person for the pain I’ve experienced as a result of their words or actions?

The emphasis is on what you can do, not on what you want or expect the offender to do. You have no control over the other person’s choices, and therefore your heart’s freedom cannot be dependent upon their actions. To clear the slate, consider what behavior will enable you to let go. Take the energy trapped in the pain and redirect it into a healing and life-supporting action.

Possibilities include writing a letter, burying a memento in the ground, burning a token object that you associate with the person, starting an organization that helps others avoid or recover from similar trespasses, or writing an article or book that documents your experience for the benefit of others. Do something to transform the bad into good, the pain into benefit.

It is not the scale of the action that is important here. The issue is not whether you make a small financial donation or start a new non-profit organization. What is important is that you do something that demonstrates your readiness and willingness to forgive and move forward.

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David Simon, M.D. Co- Founder, CEO and Medical Director of the Chopra Center for Wellbeing David Simon, M.D. is a board-certified neurologist and a true pioneer in the medical field. His personal mission is to facilitate the integration of complementary and conventional medicine in the 21st Century. Since he began his association with Deepak Chopra, M.D. in the 1980's, Dr. Simon has become one of the nation's foremost authorities on effective and appropriate use of holistic health care practices, specifically Ayurveda- the 5000-year-old healing tradition of India. As CEO and Medical Director of The Chopra Center for Wellbeing at La Costa Resort & Spa, Dr. Simon is dedicated to catalyzing the evolution of the prevailing health care system into a "healing system" that encompasses the emotional, spiritual as well as physical health of the individual. Dr. Simon's prolific program development, writing, and research are changing the landscape of health care for professionals and consumers, alike. His far-reaching endeavors have resulted in the training of thousands of physicians, nurses, health care providers as well as educators in holistic healing approaches throughout the world. He is the recipient of a National Institutes of Health grant to study mind body medical approaches on health quality, and has created initiatives to bring integrated mind body medical programs to medical institutions, community health centers, and health resorts. In his role as Medical Director for The Chopra Center, Dr. Simon continues to research and develop clinical programs in mind body medicine. He directs a comprehensive curriculum that includes on-site programs and seminars, in addition to a worldwide educational outreach enterprise. Dr. Simon is the driving force behind The Center's development, training and implementation of Perfect Health, Journey Into Healing, Primordial Sound Meditation, Seduction of Spirit, and Seven Spiritual Laws of Yoga- the flagship programs of The Chopra Center.Dr. Simon began his influential career in private practice in neurology, and with his roles as Chief of Staff and Medical Director of the Neurological Rehabilitation Center and Clinical Neurophysiology Laboratory at Sharp Cabrillo Hospital, an affiliate of the Sharp HealthCare system, the largest in Southern California. He is an assistant clinical professor in the Department of Neurosciences at The University of California and supervises medical students rotating through The Chopra Center on a weekly basis. Visit http://chopra.com to find out more about David's work at the Chopra Center.
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  1. heavenly_imaginings May 3, 2010 at 7:39 am #

    Hugs thank you and all very very true

The Power Of Forgiveness

By on December 12, 2008 in Balance, Health, Inspiration, Love & Sex, Peace

Imagine if tomorrow morning we wake up and find that everyone has forgiven everything there ever was to forgive, and has found the courage to release their pain, and say, "I’m sorry."

Just think… What would happen if population ‘X’ forgave population ‘Y’ for the terrible slaughter of many years ago? And what if ethnic group ‘Z’ forgave ethnic group ‘W,’ which in past centuries had oppressed it, violated its women, exploited its men, mistreated its children, and plundered its possessions?

What if all nations acknowledged each other’s right to exist freely without fear and oppression, forgiving the wrongs both had done and received?

And what would happen if we woke up and discovered that individuals had forgiven one another of every injustice, and instead of recycling the past, could live fully in the now?

What would happen if all the energy poured into blame, hatred, prejudice, and revenge could now circulate freely to feed millions of new projects, ideas, and relationships?

Perhaps we would finally make the quantum leap that humanity has so desperately been crying out for.

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  1. heavenly_imaginings May 3, 2010 at 7:39 am #

    Hugs thank you and all very very true