Quest for Love

By on November 19, 2009 in Love & Sex, Relationships

Question:

Over the past number of years I have been on a quest to find love in my life, a life partner! I have had many relationships which have failed for all sorts of reasons. I had one major relationship that I thought was "the one" but he broke my heart. This took me a significant amount of time to get over & I still have feelings for this person 3years on. I did have another relationship and thought I was in love but this also ended as I realized I was not! I really want to have a loving relationship and have been practising positive thinking and synchrodestiny! I’m just feeling disillusioned and want to remain open to receiving love in my life. Can you offer your guidance?

Answer:

It might help if you can recast your perspective on your quest for love in a life partner, to see it more as a journey of the deepening and maturation of love in your own heart. Just as a little girl who wants to be a  grown woman, doesn’t attain that in any one single event, but rather through a series of  life experiences and knowledge. In the same way, finding love in your life is not a matter of finding the right guy, but instead letting your relationship experiences  reveal more mature and wiser love in your heart. Learning that what you thought was love for someone was not love is a valuable insight into finding real love. Even going through the process of having your heart broken teaches you something profound about yourself and love. So even if you haven’t found your life partner yet, you are well on your way to finding your loving heart, and that is what truly matters.

Love,

Deepak

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3 Responses to Quest for Love

  1. VIDYA November 24, 2009 at 9:30 pm #

    Love always comes when you don't wait for him, so live your life and don't wait for him! I wish you great love and happiness

  2. Annelize December 21, 2009 at 4:35 am #

    I agree with Deepak and Jocelyn but sometimes a person feels that they need just a little bit more advice and steps on how to go about doing it.

    I understand what you are going through and I have been there and done. The only way to make it work is yourself and no one else. You are going to have to take that first step. Try making a list of all the qualities that your significant other should. As crazy as it sounds, I promise it works. Then make a list of all the qualities that he should not have. Take it and put it in a safe place. Be happy, single and meet new people. When you least expect it he will be knocking on your heart's door and it is usually someone that you did not expect it would be. Not even's in your wildest dreams!!!

    Love is a funny thing and it amazes me sometimes in how it works all you have to do is open up your heart and allow it and don't be too focused on that what if's and maybe's. He is out there, you are just looking in the wrong places. I hope that this helps you…

  3. evamarianova December 21, 2009 at 5:24 am #

    We are very often victims of desperate search for the love of our lives and it's a little bit confusing fact because we must say the truth in front of ourselves…we depend on love…we need to love and we

    need to be loved as well. For me the fundamental point is to define love!

    Is it passion,or fear of being alone,or we depend on someone because we feel more secure……………

    there are many aspects so we must clarify to ourselves what is that all about and is there something

    we can do about it.

    For me,loving someone is not looking for an ideal person that we can put in a frame as an icon but it

    can be someone that we can accept with all the positive and not that positive characteristics which

    are going to look even funny in certain moments because there is love in between which is real and

    undeniable.

    Personally,I always start from myself,deeply analyzing my condition which provokes different and very

    mixed feelings sometimes but however helps me realize if I'm ready to give my unconditional love to somebody and try to respect his emotional integrity as well as he should respect mine without

    suffocating each other in that certain relation.

    For confirming everything I said above it's almost 30 years I'm with the love of my life and it is all

    based on mutual respect,tolerance and love which is stronger each living day and we are both

    not so very perfect from whatever point of view.

    Much Love,Eva