Sleeping together is an important way for couples to feel connected to one another. While many partners can live happily together; they just can’t sleep well side by side. Research from the Better Sleep Council (BSC) found that on average, one in three Americans report that their partner’s sleep problems negatively impact their own quality of sleep. If your partner’s sleep style has you headed for a separate room, relationship expert Lissa Coffey and the Better Sleep Council have some tips that just might bring harmony back to the bedroom and into your relationship.
1. Problem: Your partner kicks in his or her sleep, waking you up.
Solution: Make sure your bed gives each person adequate sleep surface. If you are sharing a double (full–size) mattress, that only gives each person as much room as sleeping in a crib! Couples should share a mattress no smaller than queen-size.
2. Problem: Your partner likes it hot, but you like it cool.
Solution: Temperature is a major issue in many relationships. Ideally, your bedroom should be a cool 60–65 degrees Fahrenheit. But a few simple adjustments can make it possible for a person who craves heat and a person who craves cool to sleep side by side comfortably.
• Double fold the blankets so there is more coverage on one side.
• Invest in a dual-control electric blanket or a twin-size electric blanket for one side.
3. Problem: Your partner snores, keeping you up at night.
Solution: Snoring can be a serious health concern, so make sure to consult your physician. If your partner’s snoring is not a serious health condition, try alternative treatments like investing in anti-snore pillows, sprays or nasal strips that are designed to help people breathe more easily. If your partner’s snoring persists, try foam earplugs before you try a different room.
4. Problem: Your partner tosses and turns.
Solution: It may be your mattress. If your mattress is uncomfortable, it can lead to restless sleep. Mattresses should be evaluated every five to seven years for comfort and support.
5. Problem: Your partner loves to cuddle, but you like your space while you sleep.
Solution: Compromise. Before falling asleep spend some time snuggling together and then agree to sleep apart.
6. Problem: Your sleep schedules don’t match.
Solution: Try finding a bedtime that works for both of you. If your partner turns in early and you’re a night owl, try reading a book with a personal book lamp until you’re ready to nod off. If you’re an early riser compared to your sleep partner, be considerate in the early morning. Keep overhead lights off and use minimal lighting while your partner is sleeping.
7. Problem: Your bedroom feels more like an office than a place to sleep.
Solution: Your bedroom should only be used for sleep and sex. Keep work, laptops, PDAs and televisions out of the bedroom. This creates a much more relaxing and romantic atmosphere, and will give you both a better night’s sleep.
I have simpler solution.
Get two single beds 2 feet apart. Make love on one bed and then peacefully sleep on your beds with your blanket or no blanket.
Plug your partners nose if he or she snores.
Sounds sad Anurag so so sad…
Lissa,
While every effort is reasonably and meaningfully taken towards promoting Harmony;
It would be appreciated if Mutual Respect and Observance of the Happiness etiquette and protocol are meaningfully and purposefully practiced
The reason I mention the above is because, what if; what if one were experiencing a certain aspect which is inherent and one is doing one's best to resolve – manage the complexity
It is fairly easy to understand the short comings of others; but what if one is virtually going through a similar aspect that the other is experiencing
It is only then that we tend to realize how truly challenging it feels; it might come easily to the aspect of pin pointing another's short comings and not one's own
Since the title has bliss referenced; and obviously bliss is intended to connote – denote – mean a state of happiness and joy; hence, seeking the aspect of identifying a mutually cordial and amicable approach would also be greatly appreciated if considered
In others happiness lies our true happiness; by belittling others, our greatness shrinks; it is gratefully appreciating others; seeking to understand what are the aspects; carefully accommodating certain aspects from a mutually considerate standpoint of view
There are obviously various other related aspects which are conventionally known from amongst which time and again one of them will prominently be the salient; such as being considerate; being considerate and being considerate
When one is another's situation – position, one will know – how exactly it is; what exactly it means; the awareness will profound dawn then and then one will wish;
- had one been able to understand – comprehend the most simplest of factors in a more meaningful way
- method; how much more different and wonderful it could have been after all; yet it can still be wonderful and meaningful; it is a matter of perspective;
- a matter of consideration; a matter of observing and considering a meaningful approach please
God Bless,
Vashi
http://thesoulspeaks.wordpress.com/
That was a problem that me and my wife would face, we earlier used a small double bed and at first it was nice when we'd cuddle into each other and doze of to sleep but a little latter we wanted some leg room to sleep with stretched legs and arms after a long day to relax the muscles so we decide to change the mattress and the bed too and opted for a super King Bed.
You bet know that we have extra space we still cuddle a lot more rendering the expensive bed with extra space useless most of the times
only when we are not the usual buddies we sleep in the corners.
Do you have trouble falling asleep, or toss and turn in the middle of the night? Awaken too early, or find yourself not feeling refreshed in the morning? You are not alone: millions of people struggle with falling and staying asleep.
Unless you
It is normal to wake up in the middle of the night. Most people do. The great advantage of waking up in the middle of the night next to someone you love is to be able to make love in the middle of the night and again in the morning. Most people love morning sex because of the brain's release of growth hormone in the early am before awakening. If we live in harmony with our body's own harmony , we will find ourselves happy and blissful.
love and light,
Stuart
http://stuartmarkberlin.com
Anurag, kindly tell me how one goes about plugging one's partner's nose. I don't think my husband would appreciate that. Although, single beds make good sense to me. My husband punches, kicks and thrashes, sometimes violently, due to a sleep disorder. I have to protect myself from being pummeled, kicked and thrashed by sleeping on the extreme edge our queen bed. I am literally on edge every night in my own bed. Fortunately, I am not a person who tosses and turns and usually wake up in the same position I fall asleep in, on my side, so I don't worry about falling onto the floor. Actually, I would prefer that to being beaten, albeit without intent or malice, by a man whose brain doesn't work properly while he is in a state of REM. I don't think our situation would improve much even with a king sized bed. His movements are powerful and far reaching like a martial artist. I may have to sleep in a bag on the floor.