Spiritually Lonely: Transforming Your Internal Landscape

By on March 31, 2009 in Spirituality

 Question:

I have changed my life  and every day I am learning and growing spiritually, I have notice that the friends I have do not interest me anymore, even my family seems to be taking second place and this makes me feel so alone I feel like I have no one, my spiritual life comes first before anything else I am so happy to be able to embrace this part of me, and it have taken full control of me, all I can think about is how I can be of service to others, I do my meditations and breathing exercises every day, I feel happy and relax and contended my life is just Blissful, can you tell me why I don’t find my friends interesting anymore and why I feel fearful at times, that maybe I am doing something wrong, I am single as well and I don’t seem to be able to attract a relationship, before my life change this was not a problem, now I am happy and found my self and working to get to know me, I am feel I am standing all alone I am 47 yrs old how should I deal with this?
 
Answer:
 
You are in the midst of changing the internal landscape of your mind, interests and priorities. It is natural that there will be a reorientation of your social habits and where you look for happiness. Right now you report that you are very happy looking inward for your fulfillment. As that happiness matures you will look to develop or reestablish relationships that now reflect a contentment that comes primarily from  inside. This will be a much more rewarding basis for your social interaction than before. Instead of coming from a place of lack or need that you try to fill by validation from others, you will now be able to offer love to others from your own fullness within.
 
Love,
Deepak
 

 

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6 Responses to Spiritually Lonely: Transforming Your Internal Landscape

  1. LilyS March 30, 2009 at 7:42 pm #

    I believe many of us have walked the path of exclusion as we continued growing Spiritually towards the light. As your Spiritual growth continues, your soul family, those whom you are supposed to connect with, will begin to magically appear in your life, your life will be filled with everlasting friendships and wonderful memories.

    Lily S.
    http://www.thechopracommunity.org http://www.messagesfromarchangelmichael.ning.com

  2. rajeshmsharma March 31, 2009 at 1:08 am #

    Absolute truth! I agree with Deepak!

    Love

    Rajesh
    http://rajeshmsharma.blogspot.com

  3. mydomainpvt March 31, 2009 at 1:15 am #

    Dear Deepak,

    I completely, absolutely agree with you, but it happened the other way round with me, my regular meditation filled up the empty spaces within me.

    thanks a lot again,

    sharmishtha

  4. Anurag March 31, 2009 at 5:34 am #

    Referring to Ques

    As you spiritually mature, you will find lot of connections with nature.

    You have not told if you love the people around you or not? If you are still looking for someone special then you may have a reason to get lonely. That also means that you may have some more path to travel on spiritual maturity.

    When you understand that your old friends, your family ..all of them has a unique spirit and you can touch them now and always, aloneness will not exist.

    Solution is already present with the problem. Please try to change the perspectives.

    Best wishes

  5. mydomainpvt April 1, 2009 at 1:08 am #

    dear anurag,

    you have touched the question very well, in my case i observed that now i love human beings a lot more than i earlier did, because once you create a bonding with the nurturer, her affection flows through you. i personally believe that.

    we all have to change the perspective,

    sharmishtha

  6. ardverk April 1, 2009 at 2:01 am #

    "Solution is already present with the problem"

    Too true, Anurag, wise comment all round and, ultimately, one will be stripped bare of the slightest relationship preference. All will become a perfect flow of being and Love will quicken beyond the fences of our fearful and self-protecting separations to the perfect healing of Love's inner Pain.

    Amen,

    ed