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“Affirmations Are B.S.” and Other Things You Shouldn’t Believe

UpwardBy Orion Talmay

“Affirmations? Yeah, whatever… I don’t do that new age B.S.! That’s only good for weak people with no self-confidence! The people I train don’t need that crap!”

I actually heard these words from one of my fitness mentors I look up to. His huge resistance to the idea of affirmations was kind of shocking to me. I, for one, believe in “that stuff”. Does that mean I am weak? Is it all a scam to make us feel better about life? Am I just a hippie dreamer?

In my free-spirited late teens, I read two books that really shaped me. One of them was The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Dr. Joseph Murphy. Murphy spoke about the power of our thoughts and how they influence what we manifest in our lives:

There is a miraculous curative force in your subconscious that can heal the troubled mind and the broken heart. It can open the prison door of the mind and liberate you. It can free you from all kind of physical and material bondage.

The other book was You Can Heal Your Life by the remarkable Louise Hay. Hay’s philosophy is similar to Murphy’s. In the book she described using positive affirmations to eliminate self-defeating thoughts: “What you choose to think about yourself and about life becomes true for you. And we have unlimited choices about what we can think.” According to Hay, an affirmation is anything we say or think, therefore all of our self-talk is a stream of affirmations. In order to change your life, you must pay attention to your thoughts and choose empowering ones. By choosing thoughts that make you feel good and stating a desirable intention as a daily practice, you are retraining your brain how to think and speak and you are reprogramming your beautiful subconscious mind.

Affirmations are the seeds of your dreams that you plant for later harvesting. By writing your dreams down and affirming them in ink, or vocalizing them out loud, you bring them into the physical realm and one step closer to manifesting. If you say a lie over and over again, won’t you start believing it? If telling a lie can affect you like that, why not tell a good “lie” – one that has the potential to change your life for the better?

Many times when I’ve gone back to read what seemed originally to be “impossible” affirmations, I actually found they had manifested in my life. Who cares if it seems weird and too “outside the norm”? Who wants to be normal anyways? Popular thinking usually turns out to be average thinking. Galileo Galilei was sentenced to spend rest of his life in prison for his ideas. He vocally supported the Copernican hypothesis that the earth is not the center of the solar system, but one of many planets revolving around the sun. Three centuries later he was called the “father of modern science” by Einstein.

When researching this subject, you will find that in this day and age, science is backing “new age” thinking more than ever before.

At the dawn of the twentieth century, the tidy, objective, mechanistic view of the world began to fall apart…scientists began looking into the world within the atomic nucleus, and they were shocked to discover that on the subatomic level, the physical world did not behave at all the way Newton said it should. In fact, the “atom” itself turned out to be a sort of illusion: The closer scientists looked, the less it really appeared to be there…And when our vision of the atom fractured, the foundation of classical physics fractured along with it. Our view of how the world works was in for a radical transformation. – John Assaraf & Murray Smith (The Answer)

Quantum physics nowadays include theories like parallel universes. It’s no longer science fiction that the power of our thoughts affect physical objects and create new realities. No longer are we in an age where meditation sounds “funny.” Today’s science backs up the positive sweeping impact of quieting one’s brain waves into lower frequencies. People are opening up to possibilities in the realm of the unknown.

The ancients knew that space is not empty; it is the origin and memory of all things that exist and have ever existed…[This insight] is now being rediscovered at the cutting edge of the sciences [and is emerging] as a main pillar of the scientific world’s picture of the twenty-first century. This will profoundly change our concept of ourselves and of the world. – Dr. Ervin Laszlo (as quoted in The Answer)

When I train my clients, my rule is: no negative self-talk. “It’s too hard”, “no way can I do it” are being thrown out the window in the first session. I know for a fact that the body reacts to what you tell it. What you affirm feeds your future blueprint. One of my favorite clients once said “OMG, I am so bad at lunges”. So I told her: “Let’s change your self-talk about lunges. I think it would serve you better to instead say that I am getting better and better”. She looked at me frazzled and really forced it out uncomfortably, saying: “I am getting better and better.” Guess what? She did get better and better, AS SHE WAS SAYING IT! She started listening to – and modifying – her self-talk outside of our training sessions and consequently improved on achieving other personal goals.

But affirmations are not enough! If you look at your dirty laundry and say all day long “My laundry is getting cleaner and smells great” nothing will happen… You have to take action. Say you can do it, then do it! Just like saying I am getting better and better, while lunging. Affirmations will put you in the mindset to take action. They will keep you focused on your goals and desires. They will keep your unconscious mind open to all great opportunities around you. Previously you may not have noticed your self-talk if you were not attuned to it; but now that you are aware of its power, you will know to leverage it for positive action.

Please comment below and share your questions, stories, and experiences with affirmations. I would love to hear your thoughts; I greatly appreciate the feedback!

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picOrion Talmay is a fitness expert and life coach who helps her clients transform their bodies and their lives. Her fitness skills include yoga, weight training, kick boxing, Aikido, MMA (mixed martial arts) and Krav Maga. Orion completed the Tough Mudder, a 12-mile extreme obstacle course with an ice pool, electric wires, buttered monkey bars, and more. She’s not all hard-core though; she is also a woman of the arts — loves to dance and sing, went to acting school, and speaks three languages. She is a graduate of the American Academy of Personal Training and is AAFA, AAPT, KBA, and Zumba certified. She is currently working on an online coaching program for weight loss and self development, designed to empower people across all aspects of their lives: physical, mental, social and spiritual. Orion is also working on her first book, about transformational change. Originally from Israel, she currently lives in sunny Santa Monica, California.

I Prayed and Nothing Happened

I love to visit the website www.sriaurobindosociety.org.in         For guidance, there is a link on the home page.  Click on this link and you will come to the guidance page, where you can ask a question in your mind, and then click for an answer.  The answers that come to me are always so relevant. 

This morning when I went to the site I asked, "What quote do I need to share with readers of my blog,"  and this quote by the Mother, one of the founders of the Sri Aurobindo Ashram, came up:

"Aspiration in everyone, no matter who it is, has the same power. But the effect of this aspiration is different. For aspiration is aspiration: if you have aspiration, in itself it has a power. Only, this aspiration calls down an answer, and this answer, the effect, which is the result of the aspiration, depends upon each one, for it depends upon his receptivity. I know many people of this kind: they say, "Oh! but I aspire all the time and still I receive nothing." It is impossible that they should receive nothing, in the sense that the answer is sure to come. But it is they who do not receive. The answer comes but they are not receptive, so they receive nothing.. . .

When you have an aspiration, a very active aspiration, your aspiration is going to do its work. It is going to call down the answer to what you aspire for. But if, later, you begin to think of something else or are not attentive or receptive, you do not even notice that your aspiration has received an answer. This happens very frequently. So people tell you: "I aspire and I don’t receive anything, I get no answer!" Yes, you do have an answer but you are not aware of it, because you continue to be active in this way, like a mill turning all the time."

– The Mother [CWMCE, 6:115]
 As I read these words, I am reminded to listen for guidance.  Just praying and asking for help does no good, if I do not do my part, by listening for guidance from the Divine. Each day I am learning to trust my inner guidance.
Psychic Medium and Inspirational Author Carole Lynne

Are You Doomed By Your Circumstances?

Last week, I wrote about ways to find your source of inspiration and asked you to write with questions and comments. Many of you did, often referring to my hypothetical question, "Am I doomed by my circumstances?"

As I said last week, that’s a really important question. So many people complain about the hand life has dealt them, especially in these challenging economic times. In my coaching work, I often find people who feel somewhere between helpless and hopeless.

The biggest challenge I see in all of this is that each of us gets to be right, regardless of our point of view. Henry Ford often said something to the effect: it does not matter whether you believe you can or you cannot – you are probably right. The logic? If you believe you can, you will probably keep on trying until you do; if you believe you cannot, you may well give up before even starting.

There are hundreds of clichés on this subject. Where there’s a will there’s a way. Or, if at first you don’t succeed, keep on trying until you do succeed. And many more. Here’s what Courtney had to say, and my response:

I’ve had this feeling so many times but you have to pick yourself physically and emotionally out of that thinking quickly, when it happens. In the last 5 years, two siblings and 6 friends have passed away. I was in grief counseling for a year and a half. Then this past fall, my work visa in the UK was denied on a technical error (which is still in the appeals process after 7 months) and I had to quit a perfectly good job and move back to the States. I am glad to be home but now have been unemployed since moving back. It has been the hardest and best few years of my life. I have countless times asked, "Why is this happening to me?" I think the saving elements, for me, has been to focus on what many blessings I have been given in life. Simple pleasures are where it is at for me: hearing a beautiful piece of music, the electric red sunsets in Texas, getting kisses from my puppy, and remembering sweet memories of those who have passed away. I have so much to be grateful for…my health, good friends, a great Mom, etc. What I am trying to say, very inarticulately, is I think the key is getting outside of your own head without denying your own feelings. What I mean is, accept and embrace your own emotions and allow yourself to express them but also, go outside, do something nice for others, try learning something new like a new language. Don’t let yourself dwell in a rut. The rut will get deeper and harder to escape.

So, there is just my two cents.

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3 Keys To Finding Your Source Of Inspiration

Two weeks ago, we started exploring the notion of living an inspired life. The overarching question focused on what you want out of life. Not just what you want, but what you really want. We also introduced the notion of leading an aspirational life, one where your goals and directions are inspired from, or with, a higher sense of purpose.

Readers sent in all kinds of questions and thoughts. A common question: how do you find your source of inspiration given that not all of us will be "lucky" enough to have a tear gas canister awaken us. Great question, to be sure.

So how do you find your inspiration? Does it only come in earthshaking events? Does it only come knocking once and you’re out of luck if you don’t open the door?

My experience, both personally and with the many people I have worked with over the years, is that inspiration comes frequently but rarely with a grand pronouncement. It often comes with a small voice, nearly a whisper, and it requires a certain degree of awareness to even notice the initial signals.

If you’re looking for your source of inspiration, the first place to start is right where you are. Notice where you are in your life, right now – what seems to be working, what you like, what could work better, what you might like to experience differently. Don’t judge any of it, just notice.

Given that every journey begins with a starting point, if you don’t know where you are right now, how can you move toward what you might prefer or where you are being lead? That, of course, leads to another favorite of mine:

if you don’t know where you are going, any road will do. So, where are you now and where are you heading? If someone were looking in on your life from the outside, how might they describe where you are and where you appear to be heading? Based on the choices you are making day to day, what would they see?

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Three “A” Prayers for Spiritual Help

When life is dragging you down, remember the three “A” prayers and you will be able to find the strength within to cope with your difficulty. With Divine guidance and practical actions, we can all cope with whatever we are presented with in life.

The ACCEPT Prayer

Let me accept life as it comes, knowing that life is filled with many ups and downs.  Let me accept other people as they are, knowing that while I do not have to go along with their actions, I can respect their individual rights.  Let me accept the natural passages in life of birth and death. Knowing that life is eternal, I can live with the knowledge that when my loved ones leave their physical bodies, their consciousness lives on in the eternal spiritual world.


Let me during times of stress alleviate all tasks that are not absolutely necessary.  Unless it gives me total satisfaction to clean out the garage, let me avoid taking on huge projects at this time.  Let me alleviate all social obligations unless my attendance is absolutely required, or attending such an event would be helpful to me at this time.  Let me remove all items from my diet that are likely to aggravate my digestion and my sleep, and let me do whatever exercise is acceptable for my physical condition, in order to reduce the current stress I am feeling.

The ASPIRE Prayer

Let me aspire to connect with that part of myself I call my Higher Self or Greater Self, knowing that it is this part of me that connects to Divine Consciousness.  As I aspire to be in touch with the spark of Divinity that is within me, and within each one of us, I will receive the blessings of the Divine through the cosmic connection that is my birthright.

Psychic Medium and Inspirational Author Carole Lynne



Beyond Your To-Do List: How To Aspire To An Inspired Life

Changing gears ever so slightly (that’s code in my family for completely and utterly), let’s turn our attention to something that matters a bit more than your to-do list. Of course, your to-do list might matter quite a bit in any of several different contexts.

One form of value associated with a to-do list could be as an indicator that you are still employed. In today’s economy, that might mean quite a bit.

A layer up from at-least-I-have-a-job, a to-do list could mean that you are focused on activities that mean something to people who mean something to you. That could be anywhere from the proverbial honey-do list to things you want to do for your honey.

Moving up from there, you might have a series of to-do’s tied to meaningful goals. A meaningful goal could range from something relevant to your job, business or career, over to something you are trying to accomplish in your family, relationships, or personal health.

And then there’s the question of how much any of this matters in the first place.

So what’s the first place, anyway? And who cares? And why?

The Inspiration Behind Aspiration

A personal perspective here: I have a spiritual reference point toward life – my life, your life, life in general. I won’t belabor you with any particular dogma, other than to say that my way of walking through each day starts with the presumption that all things come from God (substitute any name you might prefer here), that God loves all of Its creation, and that not one soul will be lost.

Now, if you followed me around each day, and especially if you could not only hear me out loud, but also hear my inner voice, you would know that what I just said about my approach to life is a lot more about my aspiration in life than it is about my actual experience of day-to-day reality.

I do aspire to a life where I can see the good in all things, where I can approach all people and all situations with loving, caring, peace and acceptance.

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Look Forward, My Friend! – A Poem

 Look Forward, My Friend!

Not backward,
Not in the past,
Not in agony,
And not in regret,
Look forward, my friend!

In a world full of cynics,
Individuals regretful of the past and fearful of the future,
Where will you find optimism, hope and peace?
Nowhere but in the present,
And in the present, by looking forward, my friend!

Past is history,
Put it in a dictionary,
Look for a hopeful today and promising tomorrow,
By forgetting all that already happened,
And by waiting to find out what will next happen,
By looking forward, my friend!

Say no to negativity,
Say no to agitated mind and worrisome thoughts,
Accept uncertainty,
Do so by non-resistance, acceptance and surrender,
He who brought you here will sustain you,
Have this firm faith in you,
And live by looking forward, my friend!

-Bijay Raut


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