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Intent of the Day: Believe in Better


It’s wild. 54 years since it’s original publication, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr’s words spoken in his famous “I Have A Dream” speech are not only reminders of a rocky past, but also a reminder not to repeat the same mistakes in the future. We wish that 54 years later, racism was a concept taught to our children only as a part of history, but they unfortunately learn about it from our headlines, from their own lives, from actions taking place in every country including this one.

Our intent today is to, like Dr. King Jr, believe in better. Our hope is that you will too and that your believe will spark you to action. Our hope is that you would believe in kindness and in gentleness, that you would believe in forgiveness and grace. Our hope is that you would believe in your fellow human, that you would see them as a whole person and that you would seek to lift others up rather than tear them down.

We have no better words to express our intent than the following: Continue reading

The Most Basic Guide to Affirmations


There are infinite schools of thought as to how good things happen in a person’s life.
Maybe that person is just extra good.
Maybe they believe it, so it happened.
They made a deal with the Devil.
They made a deal with God.
They were lucky.
The sun lined up with Jupiter just right and the full moon was in retrograde.

I’m not a scientist, so I can neither confirm nor deny the power of the moon in retrograde, but I do know that the practice of positive affirmation isn’t a wasted one. There is something to having hope, faith and love. Believing for the best has the power to rewire your brain and help you finally put a stop to the things we are usually eager to leave behind.

Dr. Arlene Taylor specializes in speaking on brain function and she had some very interesting things to say about the best way to get your brain to respond:

According to the dictionary, the word affirm means to validate and to state positively. Practically, this defines a nurturing communications style; one in which you talk to yourself and to others in a positive manner. In general, “positives” are more powerful than “negatives.” Positives are a one-step process that creates a picture that you want the brain to follow. Negatives, on the other hand, require a two-step process. Words such as don’t are meant to convey do the opposite of the picture that was just created in the brain. This is often difficult for a mature brain to figure out and may be virtually impossible for the immature brain to compute.It might feel silly at first, but let me encourage you to speak affirmations out loud.

-Dr. Arlene Taylor, “What Does Affirmation Mean?”

Much like we do, our brains respond best to a positive environment with clear, direct communication.

What do you want?
Say them. Audibly.
It doesn’t have to be for an audience but it’s important that you AND your brain gets the message about what you’re going for.

There isn’t a right or wrong way to the words you choose, no magic spell.
So again, what do you want?
Put those desires together in a clear and direct sentence.

I am awake and alive. I have all the energy I need for today.

I am capable and strong enough to face the challenges that come my way.

I can form habits that are beneficial and long-lasting.

Choosing happiness is something I can and will do everyday.

Where are you in your life right now?
What would you like to see come into your life or change?
That’s a great place to start.
Speak what you would like to see.
Speak what you would like your brain to agree with instead of agreeing with things that aren’t necessarily any more true-

That you aren’t smart enough, likeable, pretty, strong, able.
That good things will never happen for you.
That you aren’t good enough.
That you just aren’t the kind of person who gets what they dream of.

Stop agreeing with those things consciously or subconsciously.
You are able and you are enough.
So say it.

You Have the Power To Change Your Life

 “You have the power to change your life. You have the power to change the world. 


You can take action, you can make a difference, and you can respond in a positive, creative way to any situation. You can do whatever must be done to live the life of your dreams.


Yet in order to do so you must first believe that you can.


In order to do so you must let go of the limiting beliefs you use to hold yourself back.


Each limiting belief you have is nothing more than a thought that lives in your mind. It is a thought that has power only as long as you continue to hold on to it.


What do you believe you cannot do? Though it may be a comfortable and familiar part of your life, that belief is constantly working against you.


Just as you have chosen to hold that limiting belief, you can choose to let it go. One by one, let go of your limiting beliefs, and free yourself to make the very most of every moment.”


Steve Farrell

Humanity’s Team World Wide Coordinating Director





For me obstacles do not exist.  What do I mean?  How can I say that obstacles do not exist? 

We all experience them at some time.  I set a goal and it usually has a time line and then suddenly the time line is moved on me for reasons that are beyond my control.  At this point you may very well say:  well that reason that was beyond your control is an obstacle.  But that is not how I interpret it.  

For me, everything happens in the perfect time.  The universe knows what I want.  It has taken the order, my goal, just as meticulously as the most vigilant waiter in a Michelin restaurant.  But the difference between me and you may be that I have released my expectations of the details of the outcome.

know that my order will be filled in the same way that I know my exquisitely delicious meal will arrive at my table.  However, while in the restaurant, I am not hovering over the cooks in the kitchen to see that all preparations are happening in the correct manner.

Likewise with my goal.  It is not carved in granite.   I would not be surprised if the preparation of my meal in the kitchen also requires some tweaking,  I do not care abouthow it will manifest.  I simply trust and know that it will arrive and be absolutely delicious.  So when there is a glitch in my plans, in my "goal-setting plan" I do not interpret it as an obstacle and therefore something to overcome.  That would be like paddling my boat up a river with a very strong current.

I see it as the universe re-aligning my desires so as to deliver my order in the most timely, expansive and efficient manner.  And sometimes the meal that finally arrives is above and beyond any of my expectations.  For the skeptics reading this post I will now demonstrate how this works.

A dear friend of mine, my dearest friend, started to write her memoirs exactly two years ago.  She was South Africa’s first female commercial airline pilot.  She had set down goals for the completion of this book.  Along the way, life presented several obstacles, matters that needed her attention; matters that were beyond her control, forcing her to put her manuscript to one side.  

Now you may call those interferences as obstacles but not my dear friend.  She simply accepted them because she knew that the universe had her order.  Furthermore, she knew that the universe had her best interest at heart and that the end result would be as good as she desired – or even better.

Enter the magic.  The book was almost at completion.  It had been copyrighted, the lay-out had taken place etc. etc.  About two weeks ago, her brother, who lives in Johannesburg, received an e-mail.  He has no idea where it came from nor why he would have been the recipient but the content was about a conference in Johannesburg titledAfrican Women in Aviation.

Since my friend’s brother is in constant contact with her, he was privy to her project: writing her memoirs.  He marched down to the office in charge of this conference with a draft of her book in hand and stated that they needed to have his sister as a speaker.  Even though the speakers had been organized, within three days my dear buddy was on their program, her flight booked and everything in place for her presentation at the conference during the third week of May.  Not only that but her book will be published and she will have copies available while in South Africa.

Now I ask you, could she have done a better job in lining everything up on her own?  Is there a better manager or events organizer in your life than the one that is on the staff of the universe? Place your order by all means and engage actively to achieve it.  However, do it in a relaxed, trusting manner.  Accept any challenges, or obstacles as many would call them,  knowing that your goal, or something better will manifest.  That is exactly what happened to Kucki.  She believed.  No, she knew that it would all turn out for the best so when her initial deadlines came and went she did not lose heart.  She did not become discouraged.  She accepted "the obstacles" and what did she do in the face of the delays?  She stayed happy!  And now look at the magical synchronicity that has been created for her!  The best part of this story is that it is there for you as well.


You are more than what you think you are

 It’s never productive to look outside of yourself for validation of who you really are.  You stand with your own courage and see the greater picture to achieve greater consciousness; otherwise, when you accept what others think of you, it locks you into victimhood.  You are enough to love yourself unconditionally to have the self respect that you command. 

There are no perpetrators and there are no victims, only great masters that illuminate the path for us to turn our experiences, (whether they be pain and /or challenges)  into sources of power, knowledge and wisdom.

How empowering is that?  You are empowered beyond belief and you have a choice;

1.   To stand here and tell yourself that you choose to believe what you believe they are thinking about you.


2.   Or to move forward with your chin up, shoulders back, deep breath and release the heaviness that you have been caring all along when you thought that you needed to be validated by outside forces (people).

You are brilliant, it comes from your heart, not your mind! 

-Rosalba Fontanez


Watch Your Language!

The other day I was supposed to be meeting a friend for lunch and she called to tell me she was running late and probably wouldn’t be able to make it after all.  Not really a big deal, but the problem is she does this all the time.  And this time I noticed that I started saying to myself, “Ohmigosh, why does this keep happening to me?  This always happens to me!”  I caught myself and noticed how my language was boxing me in.

On the surface this doesn’t seem like such a big deal.  My friend was running late and I was getting frustrated, which is a pretty normal reaction.  However, by saying to myself that this always happens and that my friend is always late, I am in fact locking myself into this scenario and assuring that it will repeat itself in the future.  Remember that your beliefs create your reality, and your language is just an extension of your beliefs.

For example, if I tell myself that my friend will always be late then I will come to expect that.  But let’s say we make plans and she actually shows up on time, or even early!  If I have already convinced myself that she is always late, maybe I start showing up fifteen minutes late myself because I assume my friend will be late!  Or maybe we both show up on-time, but it merely just doesn’t even register with me because she’s “always” late.

This example is obviously not a life or death situation, but your language can have a large impact on more important issues in your life.  If you constantly say to yourself (even without your conscious awareness) that you are destined to be in a low-level job and will never get promoted, then guess what happens?  Even if your bosses are considering you for a higher-level position that has just opened up, chances are you won’t take the necessary action to go for the higher-level position.  You have already convinced yourself deep down that you will never get promoted, and repeat that to yourself often, so perhaps you don’t volunteer to help out with special projects that would get you noticed by the higher-ups.  You tell yourself, “Why? Nothing I do matters.  I’ll never get promoted anyway!”

If you constantly say to yourself, “I’ll never meet my soulmate because he/she just doesn’t exist”, then chances are very strong that you will never meet him or her!  Say a friend invites you to a party and tells you there will be several single people at the party that you will get along well with.  But you have already convinced yourself that your soulmate is not out there, so instead you decide to stay home by yourself, convinced you will be alone forever because your perfect match simply does not exist.  Or you may actually put yourself out there and go on several dates with various people, but you notice that all the people you go out with keep coming up short in terms of what you’re looking for.  This is because you have told yourself your ideal partner does not exist.  Therefore, even if you did manage to stumble across him or her you would probably end up pushing them away and not ending up with them in the long run.  This is because you just don’t believe deep down that someone could possibly have all the qualities you are looking for, because you have told yourself over and over again that this is so.

Luckily, changing your language can be as simple as 1, 2, 3… really!  Simply notice where you have boxed yourself in, and change that language.  Some clues are when you notice yourself saying things like, “never, always, have to, should, must, can’t,”, etc.  To quickly change your language, force yourself to come up with three examples (or more!) that illustrate that whatever your language is describing is not set in stone.  For example, with my friend example from above, I could go from saying, “She is always late” to “She is often late, but she has arrived on-time one or two times and for that I am thankful.”  For the example about getting a promotion you could say to yourself, “People in my position have been promoted before, so there’s no reason why it can’t happen to me.”  For the soulmate example, instead of telling yourself that he/she doesn’t exist, try saying to yourself something along the lines of, “Hundreds of people meet their soulmate every single day, so mine must be right around the corner!”  Try it and let me know how it goes!  I think you’ll notice some very powerful results.

The Power of Prayer, Quote – I believe that God only gives three answers to prayer – Yes-Not yet – I have something better in


I believe that God only gives three answers to prayer:
1. ‘Yes!’
2. ‘Not yet.’
3. ‘I have something better in mind.’


Dear Friends,

I have received the following Inspiring e-mail from my Friend and hope that it will Inspire you as much it inspired me.

Best Wishes,

Vashi Ram Chandi

Quote, transcript of the e-mail?
In September 1960,
I woke up one morning with six hungry babies and just 75 cents in my pocket.
Their father was gone.
The boys ranged from three months to seven years; their sister was two.
Their Dad had never been much more than a presence they feared.
Whenever they heard his tires crunch on the gravel driveway they would scramble to hide under their beds.He did manage to leave $15 a week to buy groceries.
Now that he had decided to leave, there would be no more beatings, but no food either.
If there was a welfare system in effect in southern at that time, I certainly knew nothing about it. I scrubbed the kids until they looked brand new and then put on my best homemade dress, loaded them into the rusty old 51 Chevy and drove off to find a job.
The seven of us went to every factory, store and restaurant in our small town. No luck.
The kids stayed crammed into the car and tried to be quiet while I tried to convince who ever would listen that I was willing to learn or do anything.
I had to have a job.Still no luck.
The last place we went to, just a few miles out of town, was an old Root Beer Barrel drive-in
that had been converted to a truck stop.
It was called the Big Wheel.An old lady named Granny owned the place and she peeked out of the window from time to time at all those kids.
She needed someone on the graveyard shift, 11 at night until seven in the morning.She paid 65 cents an hour, and I could start that night.
I raced home and called the teenager down the street that baby-sat for people. I bargained with her to come and sleep on my sofa for a dollar a night
She could arrive with her pajamas on and the kids would already be asleep. This seemed like a good arrangement to her, so we made a deal.
That night when the little ones and I knelt to say our prayers, we all thanked God for finding Mommy a job. And so I started at the Big Wheel.
When I got home in the mornings I woke the baby-sitter up and sent her home with one dollar of my tip money fully half of what I averaged every night.
As the weeks went by, heating bills added a strain to my meager wage.
The tires on the old Chevy had the consistency of penny balloons and began to leak. I had to fill them with air on the way to work and again every morning before I could go home.
One bleak fall morning, I dragged myself to the car to go home and found four tires in the back seat. New tires!
There was no note, no nothing, just those beautiful brand new tires.
Had angels taken up residence in ?
I wondered.I made a deal with the local service station. In exchange for his mounting
the new tires, I would clean up his office.
I remember it took me a lot longer to scrub his floor than it did for him to do the tires.
I was now working six nights instead of five and it still wasn’t enough.
Christmas was coming and I knew there would be no money for toys for the kids.
I found a can of red paint and started repairing and painting some old toys.
Then I hid them in the basement so there would be something for Santa to deliver on Christmas morning. Clothes were a worry too.
I was sewing patches on top of patches on the boys pants and soon, they would be too far gone to repair.
On Christmas Eve the usual customers were drinking coffee in the Big Wheel. There were the truckers, Les, Frank , and Jim ,… and a state trooper named Joe .
A few musicians were hanging around after a gig at the Legion and were dropping nickels in the pinball machine.
The regulars all just sat around and talked through the wee hours of the morning and then left to get home before the sun came up.
When it was time for me to go home at seven o’clock on Christmas morning, to my amazement, my old battered Chevy was filled full to the top with boxes of all shapes and sizes.
I quickly opened the driver’s side door, crawled inside and kneeled in the front facing the back seat.
Reaching back, I pulled off the lid of the top box. Inside was whole case of little blue jeans, sizes 2-10!
I looked inside another box: It was full of shirts to go with the jeans.
Then I peeked inside some of the other boxes. There was candy and nuts and bananas and bags of groceries.
There was an enormous ham for baking, and canned vegetables and potatoes. There was pudding and Jell-O and cookies, pie filling and flour. There was whole bag of laundry supplies and cleaning items.
And there were five toy trucks and one beautiful little doll.
As I drove back through empty streets as the sun slowly rose on the most amazing Christmas Day of my life, I was sobbing with gratitude.
And I will never forget the joy on the faces of my little ones that precious morning.
Yes, there were angels in that long-ago December.
And they all hung out at the Big Wheel truck stop….
I believe that God only gives three answers to prayer:
1. ‘Yes!’
2. ‘Not yet.’
3. ‘I have something better in mind.’
God still sits on the throne, the devil is a liar.
You may be going through a tough time right now but God is getting ready to bless you in a way that you cannot imagine.
My instructions were to pick four people that I wanted God to bless,and I
picked you.
Please pass this to at least four people you want to be blessed and a copy back to me.
This prayer is powerful, and prayer is one of the best gifts we receive.
There is no cost but a lot of rewards
Let’s continue to pray for one another. Here is the prayer:….
Father, I ask You to bless my friends, relatives and email buddies reading this right now.
Show them a new revelation of Your love and power.
I know I picked more than four, so can you.


Standing Outside The Fire!

Many of us have heard the phrase, “You need to have a burning desire to accomplish anything great!”  Great, however, is a relative term.  Great in terms of what the world refers to as great is so variable.  Great is something that is best defined by ourselves.  Whenever we compete we should be competing against ourselves, striving to improve with each effort.


One of my favorite songs is “Standing Outside The Fire” by Garth Brooks, especially the line “Life is not tried, it is merely survived if you’re standing outside the fire.”  (with thanks to Garth and fellow lyricist, Jenny Yates)


Take a moment and think about that.  Have you ever felt so strongly about something that you were willing to do whatever it takes to achieve it?  Developing a burning desire to achieve it can’t come from anyone else … it has to come from within you – your mind, your heart, your dreams, your goals, your passions!


As we’re all about to start a brand new year I’m challenging you to shake off the past, take what was good about it and leave what wasn’t so good behind, and then step into the fire.  Take a chance that you haven’t been willing to take before, believe in yourself, and surround yourself with others that believe in you, too.


Where do you want to be two years from now?  Step into the fire and achieve it this year!  What’s one goal you’ve already set for yourself to accomplish in 2009?  Step into the fire and do it before summer!  Do you have something you’d planned on achieving by next summer?  Step into the fire and do it in January!  You CAN do it … with a burning desire!


“Life is not tried, it is merely survived if you’re standing outside the fire.”


The challenge is on!  Join me … in the FIRE!


Jace Carlton


Advent Calendar:Tue 16 Dec-It’s A Wonderful Life!

You can read the strategy behind my Advent Calender to you on my parent blog Meady’s Musingson this post here.Apart from being my Advent calendar gift for you today I think this scene here form the classic film ‘It’s A Wonderful Life’ shows us how as corny as it sounds sometimes our brightest moments really do come just after some of our darkest! 🙂

from The Books and Films Corner


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