“How To Stay Married,” is a web series that is actually the delicious appetizer to the book I am writing, “Take My Spouse Please: how the rules of comedy will keep your marriage happy, healthy and thriving!” (Shambhala Press, January 2015).
After one particularly tough night with my husband, huddled up on the bed hugging a pillow, I remembered something people used to say to me all the time when I was a comic, “Stand up comedy? That is the hardest thing in the world to do, I could never do that, that is the hardest thing!”
Wiping my tears with a pillowcase, I didn’t think so. At least a comedy set is over in two hours, max. Being married, now that was something you could really lose sleep over.
I decided to consult a syllabus I used to teach a course in Stand up Comedy at UCLA for almost ten years and see if any of the tools I taught people who wanted to be comics, the other hardest thing to do in the world, would help me persevere in what is genuinely the hardest thing to do, staying married.
Turns out most of the lessons were spot on. Listening, showing up, paying attention to timing, letting go of a bad night, these were all things that could absolutely help me in my marriage.
Then I decided to also go out and talk to long term happily married people to see how they did it. Emphasis on happily. Anyone can stay married, but I was looking for people to learn from and who could inspire me.
“How To Stay Married,” then, is filmed excerpts of some of the couples I interviewed. The show focuses specifically on those key challenges in every marriage of handling money, fighting fairly, having sex, and continuing to surprise each other.
These couples certainly surprised me! They also made me laugh and inspired me. I know you are going to love them. You can watch all four videos, starting with making sex a priority right here.
Tell us what you think of Dani’s web series in the comments below and pass along to the couples you know!