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Intent of the Day: Decide What We Want First


It was the millionth time in a row of feeling frustrated because plans weren’t settled or what you hoped they would be. It was the millionth time you felt under appreciated and forgotten in the midst of decision making. In the name of team work and collaboration we can find ourselves waiting to know our own feelings or make a decision until everyone else has decided and declared their own. Without realizing, we can find ourselves complicit in the act of not giving ourselves a voice. How does that happen?

Sometimes it feels rude or bossy to know what we want. But who decided that “rude” or “bossy” would be synonymous with know your feelings and intent? How often do we give others the opportunity to decide without judgement? Then why should we not give ourselves the same opportunity? It is far easier to adapt when you know where you stand to begin with, so today our intent is to decide what we want first. Before we’ve heard from the crowd. Before we let someone else decide for us. Before re resent people who have decided.

You ready to do the same? Here are 3 things to consider: Continue reading

A Dynamic Choice-Maker: Accepting Yourself

There is no such thing as a good person or a bad person; simply choices and actions that lead us in different directions.

There is no such thing as a good person or a bad person. There are choices and actions that lead us in different directions, and it is through those choices and actions that we create our realities. Sometimes we choose or do something that takes us in the opposite direction of the reality we want to create for ourselves. When we do this, we feel bad—uneasy, unhappy, unsure. We might go so far as to label ourselves “bad” when a situation like this arises. Instead of labeling ourselves, though, we could simply acknowledge that we made a choice that lead us down a particular path, and then let it go, forgiving ourselves and preparing for our next opportunity to choose, and act, in ways that support our best intentions.

Many of us experienced childhoods in which the words good and bad were used as weapons to control us—you were good if you did what you were told and bad if you didn’t. This kind of discipline undermines a person’s ability to find their own moral center and to trust and be guided by their own inner self. If you were raised this way, you may find yourself feeling shockwaves of badness when you do something you were taught was wrong, even if now you don’t agree that it’s bad. Conversely, you may feel good when you do what you learned was right. Notice how this puts you in something of a straitjacket. An important part of our spiritual unfolding requires that we grow beyond what we learned and take responsibility for our own liberation in our own terms.

You are a human being with every right to be here, learning and exploring. To label yourself good or bad is to think too small. What you are is a decision-maker and every moment provides you the opportunity to move in the direction of your higher self or in the direction of stagnation or degradation. In the end, only you know the difference. If you find yourself going into self-judgment, try to stop yourself as soon as you can and come back to center. Know that you are not good or bad, you are simply you.

Taking Too Long to Decide

I saw something in a book I read, a quote by George Bernard Shaw stating,
If you take too long to decide what to do with your life,
you’ll find you’ve done it

I believe ‘taking too long to decide’ what I was giong to with my life
was exact the mistake I’ve been making for the last five to six years.
A mistake I’ve been making for five years, until now.

I believe that I’ve finally found something to keep my life going.
Something great. Something real, something astounding.
That could revolutionize my life.


The Real You

As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live."                       Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Above is one of many thoughtful quotes included throughout the book I just read by Julia Cameron, author of "Finding Water, The Art of Perserverance."  If you are blocked in any way from doing what is your passion, there are many forms of support in this 2006 release that is the third installment in "The Artist Way" series by Julia Cameron. 

Julia always seems to inspire with her down to earth voice and offers many ideas for finding ways to keep the artist alive.  Her writing reveals how much she struggles like everyone else to be authentic and do what she feels she was put on earth to do.  It’s not just the creative arts, but anything that requires believing in yourself and what you are passionate about doing.

With that in mind, I started thinking about the phrase that people use when they say someone is "living their dream."  I understand it means they are living the actual life they have dreamed about living.  On the other hand, dreams are fantasies and not reality.  What if the work that people do, which is not what they really "want to do" represents fantasy and thus, a dream?

If you are "living the real you" instead of "living the dream" it seems like that is the ulitimate goal in life.  Many people go around living in a dream world that is not who they really are, in jobs that don’t connect with their passion.  Some of the more determined ones manage to break through what they think they "have to do" and find ways to do what they "want to do." 

It takes being honest with yourself and recognizing what gives you the most pleasure in life.  When that becomes an awareness and you accept it and then act on it, you’re not "living the dream"…you’re "living the reality" that has always been YOU!

In that case…"What we call fate does not come into us from the outside, but emerges from us."  Rainer Maria  Rilke

Blessings, Kaye                                                                                                                    www.moreblessedthanstressed.com

The Meaningful Choice, The Meaningful Decision – It is a Meaningful Privilege


The Meaningful Choice
The Meaningful Decision
It is a Meaningful Privilege
The Meaningful Choice
Opens up a world of meaningful and infinite possibilities
The Meaningful Decision
Opens up a world of intelligent probabilities incessantly
The Meaningful Privilege
Opens up a word of opportunities to select and decide meaningfully
Emphasis – Meaningfulness
The gist of the above is accentuated to emphasize the immense value of “meaningfulness” to any aspect of Life
Every aspect becomes more purposeful; more objective; more logical since it takes into consideration the various aspects facing one and providing the clear cut pathways; to decide – to choose from
Life is a Matter of Meaningful Choices and Decisions
All of us are fortunately empowered / equipped with the privilege to make the meaningful choice; to make the meaningful decision, wonderful indeed.
What Happens
However what happens to those
*This pertains with particular reference to People / Families caught in the midst of coflicts
> that are *unable to avail of making a choice
  • (Let alone meaningful; they are those who are not able to choose – they are subjugated to take what comes and make the best / maximum use on the minimal / stringent of resources provided to them)
 *This pertains with particular reference to People / Families caught in the midst of coflicts
> that are *unable to make any decision, since they are constrained to accept what is meted out to them
  • (Pursuant to the above; it is clear that this is referring to those that are helpless since they are completely ignored from any choice or decision making processes – alas for them there is no indication of what is ahead, their agendas are decided by others who they never know)
 *This pertains with particular reference to People / Families caught in the midst of coflicts
> that are *unable to enjoy any privileges whatsoever
  • (Further yet, this is clearly specifying that those that are unable to make neither a choice / or decide are obviously beyond enjoying any privilege; since the very mention of privilege is considered amongst the most wealthiest of virtues/assets beyond their approachability)
How about those who have none of the above?
The realization of this makes one think that indeed how fortunate each and every one is indeed.
This article is seeking to remind us that we are so very fortunate that we have the choices; we have the power to decide; we have the privilege to distinguish and pursue the results thereof; and then yet complain? How come?
– (it is understandable to complain but to keep on complaining and focusing upon the lack brings only more lack and is not able to fill any void – it only creates a large vacuum)
Disciplined Approach / Meticulous Precision
Any aspect will need to be appreciated, understood for what potential it holds and then the necessary/essential/meaningful and responsible actions to ensure its appropriate set of results would have to be meaningfully taken
The Meaningful Choice, The Meaningful Decision – It is a Meaningful Privilege
Think Again; Be Appreciative & Thankful at the opportunities of being able to make the meaningful choice; take the meaningful decision and enjoy the meaningful privileges
Every Aspect
Each and Every aspect is intended to be meaningfully intentional, purposeful and value oriented, what is required is the conscious, mindful, attentive, responsible, wise and diligent approach consistently with meaningful consistency.
Sarve Bhavantu Sukhina; Sarve Bhavantu Sukhina
May One and All be Happy and Peaceful;
May One and All have well-being and live peacefully together
May Happiness be showered on all;
May One and All be Healthy
O Lord Protect us
O Lord Guide us
O Lord Grant us Wisdom
O Lord Lead us from darkness to Light (From ignorance to Knowledge)
O Lord May there be Universal Peace, Love, Hope, Wisdom, Welfare, Happiness, Prosperity and Progress
Best Wishes,
Vashi Ram Chandi


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