Over and over we’ve found ourselves in the same place. Maybe that place is one of positivity and abundance. We’re surrounded by wise and kind people who lift us up and support us. Perhaps it’s the opposite. We continue to find ourselves in the same mess. We’re repeating patterns that have existed longer than we can remember and the hard part is imagining a life where they aren’t a part of us.
Are some of us just lucky? And does it mean there is no hope if we’re one of the unfortunate folks who pulled the short straw of struggle?
We believe that with focus, intent and genuine desire, a pattern is something that can be overcome if it is destructive. We believe that sometimes, before you can move forward, you have to deal with the past accurately and honestly. This can mean seeking or offering forgiveness. This can mean shining a light on dark corners we had long accepted as forgotten. This can mean voicing feelings and truth we didn’t even know existed.
Tomorrow is election day in the US and many are nervous about what the future will hold. Will it be the end of the world at the strike of midnight? Will it be the answers to all our hopes and dreams? The bigger question is what do you hope the future will be like and what are you doing to build that future? Our intent is to picture the future we want to live in. It is with intention that we plan to build something we’re proud of.
Healing comes in many forms. In medication. In nature. With time and space. Today we explore the healing that comes from the words we receive and speak. As a culture, we’ve come to understand that words can harm. Telling a child that they’ll never grow up to be anything can have lasting implications and we can understand that correlation. But we don’t alway think about using our words with intention for positivity and healing. We don’t always consider how much we say that has no real nutritional value.
Do you know there is evidence of sunlight and whole foods being able to send breast cancer into remission? That is crazy amount of healing! As we explore eating and aligning our bodies, we naturally find ourselves learning more and more about what this earth has to offer in the way of remedies and preventative care. Whether it’s sunlight, essential oils, food, stretching, and everything in between, there is so much to learn about restoring and repairing the human body and much of it can be done naturally! So our intent is to do just that- to heal naturally.
Our intent today is inspired by the many times we’ve ended the day feeling dissatisfied, unproductive and not enough. What do you do when you feel like you don’t measure up? Our intent is to instead accept what we CAN do. Maybe it was one huge task, a bunch of small tasks or that you just got out of bed today. Accept the progress you’ve made. Celebrate the ways you showed up today and the strength you gained since the day before. Today is the building block for tomorrow!
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I’m not famous, nor do I have a recognizable last name and I’m not related to any powerful individual, so when Deepak Chopra, MD, FACP replied to my tweet I assumed it was a member of his staff. This was in the fall of 2013. We exchanged emails for a few weeks before I discovered it was actually Deepak himself writing me. Then in January of 2014, he generously agreed to meet me in his New York office. Since this time, I’ve had the good fortune of having Deepak as my mentor and friend.
Here are ten things I’ve learned from having Deepak Chopra as a mentor:
Suck it up. Deal with it. No crying in baseball.
If you grew up like me, sharing those feelings was for someone who couldn’t control themselves. You became adept at stuffing it all down, explaining it all away and then finding yourself in the same place over and over with no explanation in sight. Maybe it’s time to honor those feelings instead of bottling them up. Here are 3 things that might help:
This quote from Mitch Albom.
We wonder why we get stuck in pattens but we don’t always hesitate to react to scenarios the same way without considering their impact. Conflict ensues and we shut down. Or we feel powerless. We grow enraged. If we don’t start to notice what is arising, we stand very little chance of changing a negative pattern. Instead, allow yourself to see what comes up. Again, you don’t have to let a feeling dictate the choices you make, but nothing is gained by ignoring that you are hurt when the same family member leaves you out of holiday planning or that you are at wits end about a roommate or partner’s cleaning habits. Notice. Acknowledge. Know what needs to be let go and what needs to be discussed so that you really can move forward.
This video from Spirit Junkie Gabby Bernstein who encourage us to honor our feelings. Gabby says it so simply. Sometimes bottling comes from an unwillingness to be in the present. Do you feel like you deserve the thing that makes you mad or sad? Do you feel like you have a voice? Do you feel like your opinions are worth listening to? There are so many reasons and past baggage that can stop us from honoring how we feel in the moment. Perhaps changing that one pattern, deciding to honor your feelings, is a key waiting to unlock a new view of yourself and your life.
To keep up with the news these days is to be heartbroken. Families grieve the loss of fathers that should’ve come home that day. Politicians speak words of hate about ethnicities who live and thrive in this country and will vote in November. Women suffer assault and the perpetrators of those crimes will have their athletic accolades included in backstory of their act. It can make you wonder if anyone is fighting for peace, kindness, gentleness.
Today our intent is to be those people. You can be one of those people.
You can make your intent to be a person who furthers love and patience instead anger and hatred. You can choose to grow and change into a human who accepts and pursues good instead of a person who is self-seeking and narrow-minded.
How? There are lots of ways to dig in. Here are a few things that might help with today’s climate:
This video from ACLU deputy legal director Jeff Robinson calling for policing reform.
In the wake of two more police shootings, we revisit this video shared after the deaths of Alton Sterling and Philando Castile. Robinson calls us to find a better way.
In choosing to be a peace-maker, it also means dealing with the resentment and anger in your heart. There is much to be upset about. There is much change that awaits us. This does not mean a root of bitterness should be fostered in the process. Choose to pursue change because you desire a better future, not because you wish to remain trapped in the past. Forgiveness does not mean you have to forget where you’ve come from. It can mean accepting the freedom to take a different path.
Since one of us (Deepak) began advocating the mind-body connection thirty years ago, a time of great opposition among physicians to the very notion that thoughts have physical consequences, the trend has been entirely against the physicalist position, i.e., that the human body is a machine that needs fixing when it gets broken. One research after another has validated what should have been obvious in the first place: mind and body are too intimately related to be seen as separate entities.
Several principles can be listed that are backed by the best science, and yet which have had minimal impact in a doctor’s daily practice.
Every cell is in some form of communication with the brain, either directly or indirectly, is receiving messages triggered by all of our thoughts, feelings, moods, expectations, and beliefs.
Experience gets transformed and metabolized, exactly as food, toxins, pollutants, air, and water get metabolized. In a word, if you want to see what your experiences were like yesterday, look at your body today. If you want to see what your body will be like tomorrow, look at your experiences today.
The body is a verb, not a noun. In other words, it’s a continuous unbroken process.
Cells are born and die; atoms and molecules fly in and out of each cell constantly. Yet despite this constant flux, the blueprint of the cell remains intact. This blueprint is invisible, intelligent, dynamic, and self-organizing.
Lifestyle choices make the dominant difference between wellness and chronic illness. Years, sometimes decades before symptoms appear, cells can be gaining negative input that lead to the onset of disease.
Our genes are dynamic and respond to everyday experiences and lifestyle choices. Habits lead to longer term changes in the programming of our gene expression via “epigenetics”, as explained in our book “Super Genes”.
If we knew the pivot point that creates positive cellular activity out of positive experiences, a state of radical well-being is possible.
Purely mental practices, especially meditation, have been shown over and over to improve various physical functions, and these improvements are now known to extend all the way down to gene activity.
A little over two years ago, I began sharing a bit about my writing journey. I embarked on an entirely different career while maintain my day job as a clinical social worker. I wasn’t sure how to write anything for a national platform. I didn’t have a literary agent, a publishing contract, any type of media connections or a marketing background. I simply wanted to share my story and that of other widows in the hopes that they would feel less alone. I did one blind entry about gratitude to the Huffington Post and to my surprise, they published it. They were not the only major company to open their arms to me.
What followed in the past two-and-a-half years is nothing short of phenomenal. I became friends with Dr. Deepak Chopra, who did the cover blurb for my book, “A Widow’s Guide to Healing”, and I began to contribute to Maria Shriver’s platform, and she also did a cover blurb. In addition, I was interviewed by Katie Couric, American Greetings, my story was on the USA Today website, and I found myself at ABC’s headquarters doing a live hour long tweet chat. Most recently, I was at the United Nations.By the way, Deepak did not introduce me to any of these individuals, nor, did a publicity team garner this support.
The question I am most asked is this- How did I manage this on my own?
Many of the practices I developed evolved as my own writing / publishing process evolved. However, I can share with you that I know that because I practiced what I call I.L.L.U.M.I.N.A.T.E. this ten- step program which I developed over time, my world is richer and brighter. These practices aren’t exclusive to the publishing world. Anyone who is interested in creating more abundance can integrate these steps.Continue reading →