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Are Our Choices Predetermined For Us to Know Ourselves Better?

Screen shot 2013-12-06 at 9.46.49 AMMaking choices or decisions is not always as easy as it seems especially if there is more than one good choice option to choose from. What if you like a couple of things but don’t necessarily feel strongly towards any of them, does that make you indecisive? What if you feel like there are too many choices which feel like it overwhelms you and causes you to make no decision?

What if you believe that the option you choose is wrong or is there ever a wrong choice? Do we see this as an opportunity to grow and learn? Surely there are no wrong choices but always only a lesson learned? I was talking to a friend just the other day about exactly this point she was telling me how she didn’t really know what she wanted to study when she finished school and stumbled upon a degree in accounting because she had heard other people say they were doing it. She didn’t know if it was good or if she would like it but she did it anyway. She hated the course but felt obligated to do it because her parents were paying for it and she had already studied for 3 years towards this degree. At the end of her third year she decided to “come clean” and tell her parents how much she really wanted to study architecture.

“They were not happy with my decision but agreed to let me try architecture. During the first two years I felt guilty, what if I had made the wrong decision?  What if I was wasting my parents’ money? The guilt ate at me so much that I often wondered why I felt so depressed after choosing what I wanted”. So, she began asking herself what was my lesson? That question brought insight into what she felt and she realized that her lesson was to be true to herself and become who she wanted to be and not what was expected of her this encouraged her to stick with her passion which was architecture!  Obligation was a toxic emotion and one she didn’t want to be shackled to anymore. So she listened to the lesson learned which was to be true to herself. Steve Maraboli sums it up beautifully in his quote “We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.”

When it comes to liking more than one thing and being unsure of which to choose, well I believe that I won’t know if I like it or not until I try it. If I don’t like it I can always change my choice.

Elbert Hubbard said, “The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.” Fear is the one thing that can have the power to hold me back from making choices. So I need to feel the fear, acknowledge it and do it anyway. I often ask so what’s the worst thing that can happen? Regret? At that point I need to look at the blessing in the choice I have made and be at peace with it.

What if I make the wrong choice? All choices are lessons in disguise some are more obvious and others less so but they are not wrong just lessons we need to learn to help us be stronger or more aware or more in tune with ourselves. When we are faced with choices that overwhelm us then we need to approach it practically. What are the pros, what are the cons, we need to list these and work through them and then TRUST the decision we choose. It is always a choice and we have the ability to accept or deny ourselves the choices. Louise. L. Hay says “everything I do is by choice” I also like her affirmation “ I am good enough, I am not restricted by old, limiting beliefs from my family or from society”. I often share affirmations that I make up with my clients or use some affirmations from Louise L. Hay. I find that they are powerful tools that help us believe those positive thoughts and thus make them real.

So I would like to leave you with this affirmation, “Everything I choose is part of the Divine plan to help me to know myself better”

Why Not You?

magnificent-sunset-79998“Oh, I could never do that, be that, win that…”

That is what you say. You watch people on the X-factor, the Voice or game shows and say how amazing, talented or smart they are. You are convinced that greatness is given to only a few, and those few are now doing amazing things in life. Not you.

Well, why not you? You are born with the same possibility for greatness that everyone else is. You are born with unique talents, strengths and passions – all just for you. These unique abilities provide your roadmap in how to show up great to your world. So it could be you – not in everything but the things that you have great abilities and interests in.

Greatness isn’t unique – it is actually common – because we all have it and are it. Most of us treat our greatness like a wrapped gift that we hide and never open. Either we fear our greatness or we doubt it. Neither however, allows us to connect with it to show up big to our world. We have to claim it and that is part of asking, ‘why not you?’

Today’s world is built by those who are right here, right now. If you choose to show up to your life disconnected from what makes you great, then the world does not benefit from you. You may be just the person to end the conflict in the Middle East, find a solution to terrorism, develop a way to end poverty, change how the world views and treats women, or any other thing that troubles us today. You could also be just the one to be an amazing teacher, parent, writer, singer or brother. Why not you? There is greatness in all of this – you just have to see that it could be you to help, fix, improve, change or solve.

I regularly share what I think to be the rhodium rule – more important than the golden or platinum rules – “Know yourself. Be yourself. Let others be themselves.” This is the key to acknowledging and living our greatness – know your (great) self – self-knowledge. And with this knowledge comes information about ourselves and our world. We then have the ability to be our (great) selves – meaning we find the places in our world that need what we do best. Or as my favorite quote by Frederick Buechner says, “Our vocation in life (I read it to say our role or purpose) is where our greatest joy meets the world’s greatest need.”

When we see our impact, we then see the power of supporting all of us in discovering and living our greatness. Why not you? Why not him? Why not her? Well, it can’t be if we don’t encourage others to discover and live their greatness. It can’t be if we don’t openly support people to find their fit, make their difference and show up large to life.

Many times we think it isn’t us is because we have let the world tell us how small and incapable we are. We allow the voices of others to keep us doubting and from developing our true abilities – our personal definition of greatness. Until we trust in our own voice and in our own greatness, we will continue to believe that greatness is for others, not for us, not for you. But you know differently. You know it could be you if you just had the wisdom to know yourself and the courage to be yourself. With that, you could change your piece of the world – whatever it is.

Some feel staying out of things is the way to “make it through” life. But we weren’t born to just make it through anything. We were born great  – and to find out how to bring that greatness to our world – not to go through life as bystander and spectator. We are a player – or at least we have that choice. We are equipped to be amazing. We have a world that needs our version of amazing. It is indeed time to know your (great) self, be your (great) self and let others be their (great) selves.

The next time you see an opportunity to step out of your normal “average” and into a greatness response, go for it. Some may ask why are you doing something like giving to the poor, volunteering, running for office, being a great teacher, inspiring our youth, advocating for animals, or kids, or for a life without war. Why not you? It may be just the thing that you are here to do.

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Why Competition is an Old Model of Living

UnityCompetition is an outdated model of living. There is a strong calling for us all to begin recognizing our unity and working together, instead. Easier said then done, I know. We have all been taught from birth that we are separate from each other with every man or woman fighting for themselves in this so-called ‘dog eat dog’ world. We compete to get into the best schools and then to get the best jobs so we can buy the best things and everybody will think we are cool. But, is that really why we are here? So that other people think we are cool?? Prettiest, smartest, funniest? You get the point. Surely, there has to be something more! So much more.

While it is true that, as individuals, we need to create our own destiny, putting others down or feeling bad about ourselves in the process should never be a part of the equation. But, those are the exact things that manifest when we feel separate and the need to compete or prove ourselves. With everything going on in the world today, we really need to ban together. The power of collective consciousness is the only way to trump many of the serious challenges that we are facing and will continue to face. We need to respect each other and work together.

Competition is rooted in fear – fear that you are not good enough, smart enough, special enough or unique enough. This is the ego’s way of keeping us separate and small. It’s also a huge distraction from our life’s mission — to spreading all the goodness we can possibly spread. When you are taken over by feelings of jealousy, anger, animosity, and lack on one end of the spectrum, or vanity, superiority and self-righteousness on the other end, then how can you possibly be at your best performance to help the world?

And, believe me, I know. I am far from perfect and have to continually work as I grow along my own spiritual path. For instance, it used to really bother me when somebody would come to me and say, “I think so and so is copying you. Didn’t you just post something similar or doesn’t this sound way too familiar?” It has happened in both my business and personal life. It used to really bug me, as my ego desperately tried to cling to my perceived specialness and uniqueness. It was my own immaturity and insecurities coming out that made me feel like I needed to get the credit or the pat on the back. It has taken much work and shining the light on this weakness of mine, but I’ve learned to just be happy to see how far the ripple effect can go. Ideas and inspiration are supposed to be shared (as long as actual copyright or intellectual property is not being trampled on in the process), and we’re all so much better off when they are shared.. Who am I (or anyone else) to try to hoard them?

We’re all unique, like snowflakes. While we may have some similarities, there is nobody else in this entire world that is just like you or me. We all have our own very unique journey, life experiences, and perceptions. And, the world needs more of the special gift that each of us has inside. We should all feel encouraged and free to put our own unique spin on similar ideas and offer them to the world. There is plenty of space for all of us to do so! Instead of concerning yourself with what others are doing and how you compare, focus on what you love and what lights you up. Everything else will naturally fall into place!

Take me, for example. Sure, there are a million other self-help blogs, life coaches, and female entrepreneurs out there, but that doesn’t stop me from spreading my own perspective on common ideas. People need to hear these same concepts in many different ways! We each have our own unique light to shine and impact to make. I don’t spend my time worrying about how I compare to others because I don’t give my heart and soul for the pats on the back and recognition. I do it out of love and to hopefully make a difference to someone. It’s all about intention. When intent is rooted in pure love, you dreams will grown and manifest faster than you could ever imagine.

“When you want only love you will see nothing else” is a teaching from A course in Miracles. I find this very true in my own practice. Stay focused on offering your gifts and love to the world, in service, and any need to be “the best” or “the first” or “the coolest” will just fade away into the darkness, where it belongs. Instead, you will feel only love.  That’s what it’s about. Now, go out there and make your impact! Namaste.

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Deepak Chopra: Brotherhood – Dharma, Destiny, and the American Dream

Probably every immigrant has encountered the appeal of the “American Dream.” But many also feel pulled and deeply tied to their cultural roots.

In Brotherhood, a new memoir by brothers Deepak and Sanjiv Chopra, the two reveal the story of their personal struggles and triumphs as doctors, immigrants, and brothers going down two very different paths toward achieving their goals. Both pursued medicine, one from a straight, Western approach, the other from a path informed by ancient practices and his own cultural heritage.

Brotherhood is available now at Amazon and other booksellers. Read Deepak and Sanjiv’s remarkable journey, and tell us your thoughts in the comments section below!


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Wordplay Wednesday: Most of the Time

Most of the time
I’m grateful
That I’m on a creative path
That I’m following my heart
That I’m a sensitive person
With a million feelings
That I choose not to numb
With alcohol
That I’m asking questions
In every direction
That I have such a strong
Hunger to learn
But sometimes I get tired
Of being the beginner
Wish the signs
Were clearer
Telling me where to turn
I get overwhelmed
It’s hard to tune out
The opinions of others
When you’re living out loud
But most of the time
I roll out of bed
To the sound of the ocean
Like the waves of my breath
And I’m able to focus
My attention
On what lies just ahead
Sipping my coffee
To kick-start my head
And I’m getting
More comfortable
Being uncomfortable
Which kind of feels
Like progress
And I know the longer
That I stay open
And listen
Maintain eye contact
Even when my heart pounds
Everything will unfold
Just as it should
Most of the time

Note: Hi everyone! I wrote this one yesterday:)

Karma 101: Cause and Effect for Beginners

Light as a featherKarma simply means the effects of our actions. It’s like planting a seed and watching it grow. The more conscious we are of the seeds we plant through our thoughts, words, and actions, the more we can consciously shape our destiny. When we eat a little too much today, tomorrow, and again the next day, the result is a need to buy new pants to accommodate that expanding waist line. That’s karma. Like overeating, the consequences or results of karma are not immediate. It takes months or even years (and some would say lifetimes) for some actions to bear fruits. Though it’s often associated with negativity, karma can be good and bring good results too. Anyone raising a child knows that each day of loving care results in a healthy adult. Writers putting pen to paper know that long-term, the many words together can result in a book.

Our lives are created through each moment. The decisions we make, either conscious or not, create our future. If we follow human values and focus on uplifting thoughts, words and actions, we can create a beautiful and meaningful life. This is guided by a deep spiritual connection to the Divine.

If we choose the path of ego instead, then we will harvest the results of ego. We see it clearly in the lives of criminals. A small decision to lie may dull the conscience which warns when actions bear bad karma. The conscience wears away and the inner mechanism that keeps him or her from doing acts that harm himself and others no longer functions. He may move onto cheating, theft, and even murder.

By listening to that inner voice of wisdom that elevates us to take the harder path and do the right thing at the right time, we naturally know what direction to take. Take a moment to contemplate where you are and the thoughts, decisions, and actions that have brought you here. Consider, too, where you’d like to be in a year or in ten years. If you’re searching for peace, love and compassion, begin by extending the same to others today. Every action counts.


Debra Moffitt is the award winning author of Awake in the World: 108 Practices to Live a Divinely Inspired Life and “Garden of Bliss”. A visionary, dreamer and teacher, she’s devoted to nurturing the spiritual in everyday life. She leads workshops on spiritual practices, writing and creativity in the U.S. and Europe. More at http://www.awakeintheworld.com and on Facebook.

Deepak Chopra: Is Obama a Man of Destiny?

obama-lincolnThe historical movie “Lincoln” has struck a deep chord with many people, and it turns on a theme that is rarely met nowadays: the man of destiny.  In one scene Lincoln is sitting in the war room from which he oversaw the very mixed fortunes of the Northern armies. There is no one with him except his two young secretaries. He asks one, “Do you think we choose to be born?” the secretary says that he doesn’t think so.

Lincoln pursues the topic. “Do you think we are fitted for the times?” The secretary can’t quite fathom the question.  To the best of my recollection he replies, “I don’t know. Maybe you are.” In fact, when you look at the historical record, Lincoln was considered to be absolutely fitted to his time. He was Father Abraham and after his assassination a secular saint. The chaotic forces that tore the Civil War era apart were gathered in his hands. He and many around him saw a man of destiny who was fated to end slavery and bend the future to his will.

Heroism still appeals to us, and the saintliness of Lincoln can’t be erased, despite the film’s accurate portrayal of him as a canny, down-to-earth politician who knew how to broker a deal.  But we find it hard to think in terms of destiny.  Tony Kushner, the scriptwriter for “Lincoln,” chose a more modest phrase: fitted to the times.  Kushner wove our present predicament into his screenplay. Chaotic forces are swirling around us; the nation has reached a turning point that feels threatening at the same time. There is a widespread yearning for leadership.

I wonder if President Obama’s re-election is a shoulder tap from destiny. Lincoln felt that way about his second term.  We see him fiercely focused on abolishing slavery because the Emancipation Proclamation had been tested by the people, as he put it, when they chose to keep him in office. I have a feeling that Obama is gathering his own convictions for the same reason.

This is more than George Bush’s notion that his re-election, which was by a slimmer margin than Obama’s, both in popular vote and electoral tally, gave him political capital.  What we see in Lincoln’s time are politicians, heated by partisan fury, milling about in confusion. The heel of history is hard on their necks.  Their passions rise and fall with every turn of the war. Lincoln was different. He understood that he was the still point at the center, the one mind whose clarity and judgment must save the day – or it wouldn’t be saved.

History proved him right. At the end of the movie we get a flashback to the Second Inaugural Address, the greatest piece of oratory from Lincoln after the Gettysburg Address. It constitutes a heroic, compassionate attempt to shape the future according to the ideals of Christianity and democracy.  The final paragraph has long been considered a masterstroke, and it is astonishingly fitted to our times:

With malice toward none, with charity for all, with firmness in the right as God gives us to see the right, let us strive on to finish the work we are in, to bind up the nation’s wounds, to care for him who shall have borne the battle and for his widow and his orphan, to do all which may achieve and cherish a just and lasting peace among ourselves and with all nations.

Obama has been repeating the theme of tolerance and fairness for four years, and it has mostly fallen on deaf ears. Lincoln was beloved but also reviled; he could have gone down in history as a divisive leader more than a uniting one. The difference wasn’t up to him. As he saw it, destiny worked through him. It will be fascinating to watch and see if the same historical force is about to push America forward once more.


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How My Meeting with the Richest Man in the World Changed My Life

We all have one.

No matter who you are.

A unique gift, that you were born to give.

Are you giving your gifts fully?

On my first trip to India, over a decade ago, I met the richest man in the world in the poorest state of the country, called Bihar.

It was an insane 118 degrees. Exhausted, I collapsed on a bench in front of the Bodhi Temple, the main temple in Bodhgaya. Before me were ten beggars in formation, as if on some kind of beggar’s row, bowls in hand. This is business as usual in India, I thought. Same old, same old. I’d become somewhat numb to this. I mean, how many beggars can you help in a day?  I’d cried a river, so I decided not to pay them any mind. Until, that is, my eyes fell upon the one beggar sitting on the floor in front of the temple.

Dressed in a blue cloth, and nothing else, a man was singing his heart out and drumming to his song. His hymns were to God, this much I knew from some of the words I’d studied. He sang with such devotion, purity, passion, and joy that it melted my numbness.

After a few minutes I realized that this man was blind! I thought, “Wow, he can’t actually see how much money he’s being given. And, he can’t see if anybody’s even listening to him.”

Clearly, this man wasn’t singing his song for wealth or fame.  As I witnessed the purity of his expression to God, I ached to have that kind of goodness of intention in my own life. Needless to say, I was deeply moved.

Then I looked closer and saw that the beggar had stumps instead of arms! It took a second to compute. Unbelievable. Blind and without hands! He showed such mastery with this drum that I’d failed to notice this enormously important point. And yet, with every ounce of his energy, he beat his drum and sang his heart out like any passionate musician I’d ever seen.


He can’t see!

He has no arms.

He has no hands!

I started to weep, head in hands, standing right there in plain view of the other beggars. Tears were streaming down my face. I felt humbled. We’re so spoiled in the West. If this guy wanted to moan and complain, I’d give it to him. I’d say, “You, Sir, can be the one person alive I’ll give a special victim voucher to for whining.”

The more I focused on him, the more the tears fell. I thought about how I’d eat if I had no hands. Or how I’d pee. Or how I’d maneuver around the world without sight. In an instant, I saw and felt how very little I’d been appreciating what I had, always thinking there must be something more, that there was never enough.

Just when I thought I’d been hit with the full effect of the lesson, I realized that the reason he was not running around hustling foreigners like the others wasn’t because he couldn’t see or use his hands, but because there was something else I’d missed entirely. Unbelievably, this man had no LEGS! When I saw that reality, I just lost it, dropping to the dirt and sobbing.

Unbeknownst to him, this man with nothing was teaching me one of the most powerful lessons of my life. With a heart full of gratitude, I approached him and humbly knelt alongside him on the dirt. I looked at him. He turned and seemed to look straight through me. With no eyes, he somehow looked into my soul. I could literally feel his gaze pierce through me.

“How do you do it?” I asked. “How do you come out here day in and day out, singing and giving and sharing like this?” I was expecting the scent of roses, the heavens to part, and some great wisdom to pass his lips. He looked at me simply and with one line said:

“Is there anything else to do?” His words slayed me – simple yet so profound. Then he looked away and resumed his singing.

After his song was through, he looked at me again and said: “Life might give you what you want. Life may never give you what you want. But you can always give life who you are.” He then turned back around and started singing again, like nothing had happened. That’s when I realized that this was not a blind man, but a man with extraordinary vision. He could see his own gifts and gave of them freely.

That’s when I knew how poor I was.

I had all these gifts inside of me, and yet I wasn’t giving them.

I was the poor man. I was the beggar.

If the man who has nothing dares to give no matter his situation, then we who have plenty have no excuses.

Whether you know it or not, you’re playing your song to life anyway—your love song, if you will—every moment of every day. Don’t think they can’t hear you. Don’t think they’re not paying attention. Your song is as unique as you are. It’s as loud as a college marching band. As obvious as a billboard. As beautiful as a flower.

Every time you share yourself and your gifts, you do make a difference. Sometimes you may not directly see the difference you make, but rest assured you are.

So, sing it loud!

Really…… Is there anything else to do?………



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PPS – I would love to hear your comments below. Tell me what your unique gifts are?


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Advocating for Lost Souls

Recently I have come to the conclusion that in my work I act as an advocate for lost souls. Sixteen years ago, as I was coming out of an intense period of competitive bodybuilding, I never would have imagined that this would be my future. Yet maybe it was my imagination that guided me to this path.

Back then I was attending a screen writing class under the tutelage of Alfred Brenner, who passed away last summer at 95 years old. I had just submitted some pages of dialogue for our class, and  the following week when I received Al’s notes, I was surprised to find him scolding me!

“Clearly,” he said, “based on your writing, you have not read my book!”

Wanting to be a good student, I humbly took Al’s advice; studying his book and learning his format. From my imagination came forth a story about an Irish nun called Mary. In the story, Mary wakes up from a dream filled with babies falling into a fluffy cyclonic wind tunnel and declares she is leaving for Sin City to save the babies. There, to her detriment, she falls in love with a gigolo and with his help manages to infiltrate a baby-selling racket operated by the local priest.

Currently one of the services we provide at Silver Horse Healing Ranch is Family Constellations, performed outdoors and with a horse. Bert Hellinger, originator of Family Constellation work claims that ‘everyone in the family has a right to belong’, including missing babies.

In many of the Constellations, the horses and I facilitate concern missing babies; aborted, miscarried or given up for adoption. The family members are represented by other people, horses or objects. In my experience, when the ‘mother’ is able to look into the eyes of her lost ‘baby’ and the ‘baby’ can see the ‘mother’, the baby is reintegrated into the family and the mother is freed of any inhibiting emotions.

Horses, with their empathic nature, easily relate to the archetypal pain of exclusion. This makes them excellent representatives for this type of work. They offer their support to the Constellation simply by being present and engaging.

Consequently, when the baby is welcomed into the family, balance is restored within the family system and everyone is able to move forward onto their own individual and evolutionary paths.

Needless to say it was an epiphany to acknowledge that, metaphorically, I am actualizing the mission of my fictionalized character, Mary, in order to ‘Save the babies’. To have recognition of the intricate pathways woven into the fabric of my destiny gives me an immense appreciation of my life and what lies ahead.

Sara Fancy is one of the experts who will be featured on the upcoming Intent Show on the Chopra Well. Be sure to subscribe to the Chopra Well to keep up with the latest videos and updates!

The Cosmic Trinity of Chinese Metaphysics

Cosmic Trinity of Chinese Metaphysics

There is something really important I want to share with you, because I believe it explains what controls our lives and how we can make better “life choices” for a smoother smarter path.

It’s called the Cosmic Trinity of Chinese Metaphysics and it is divided into three parts; EARTH LUCK, MAN LUCK, and HEAVEN LUCK.

Earth Luck is our Feng Shui and it controls one-third of the equation. This means that the physical place we live and work is important. Either it supports us or it depletes us. Have you ever been to someone’s home or office and it doesn’t feel right? You can’t wait to leave? On the other hand, there are places you love and want to stay forever.

Man Luck is your freewill. These are the choices you make. It is also the magical candles, mystical objects and superstitions you believe in. It’s those coins tied with red strings or the hanging crystal. It is also your education and everything that requires you to take action. Man Luck is powerful because it controls one-third of our lives. Finally, there is

Heaven Luck or your astrology. It can be Western Astrology, or Chinese BaZi Astrology, or Vedic Astrology. All roads lead to Rome. This represents your parents and your destiny. It explains why you have certain talents and traits. Why your parents and siblings constantly get on your case about something you do that bugs them. It’s about your potential.

I want you to see how all three work together. If you live in a place that supports you and you’re proactive in making smart choices because you know your potential, you will be more successful because you have 99 percent of the equation. This insures that you have a greater chance of being happy, healthy, loved, and prosperous.

Have you experienced an imbalance in these three aspects of yourself? Have you focused on only one of these areas and seen success bloom because of it? Please share your experience in the comments.

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