One of the most common challenges that parents face is connecting with their children and maintaining a relationship with one another. As kids grow and develop, it can be challenging to remain close due to outside influences and changes that take place. When you want to strengthen your relationship and form a close bond, there are a few important tips to follow that will prove to be effective. Continue reading
Any time for yourself? Any time for health? We understand that you can be running low on hours even with daylight savings starting our days a little earlier. When it feels like there is absolutely no moment to rest and invest in yourself, that is exactly when you need to do it. So our intent for today? It is to find a little time for yoga.
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One of the leading causes of divorce in the United States is finances. It’s easy for a couple to find themselves bitter, angry, and resentful toward the person they once loved more than anyone when finances are a problem. Whether it’s one person spending too much, one not being generous enough with their income, or ample debt, many couples find it difficult to overcome these issues when they don’t prevent them in the first place. Keeping a healthy financial relationship with your partner is the one of the most important aspects of any good marriage, and there are several ways to keep finances healthy. Continue reading
The moment a loved one receives the terrifying diagnosis of Alzheimer’s disease, difficult changes are on the horizon. I can think of nothing more daunting than to be a spouse facing these challenges. The supporting partner must navigate relationship changes, safety issues, as well as medical and financial decisions. At the same time, they are left to grieve the relationship they once knew.
Life will soon be inexplicably changed forever. The partner, now altered by this disease, will likely exhibit challenging behaviors and unpredictable personality changes. It is a difficult road full of unthinkable demands for the one providing care. A new reality requiring a tremendous amount of support. Following are suggestions for those facing this tragedy. Continue reading
With the lightning speed that everything is happening these days, are we alone when we say that our families usually end up with the short end of the stick? Because we come home to them, we assume that time will naturally happen but this isn’t always the case. When our family gets the in-between time as we rush from event to event and task to task, we end up communicating that they aren’t a priority more than they are. Our intent of the day is to put family first. We want to be intentional in protecting our calendar, making space for the unscheduled and slowing down enough to enjoy our time because the time spent with the people who matter most is what will be the most valuable in the long run.
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Parents understandably want to be their children’s biggest advocates. When a child’s recovery from drug or alcohol addiction hangs in the balance, that’s never truer. During rehab especially, that natural parental impulse to do anything to help can kick into overdrive. A well-meaning effort to support a child’s recovery, often amplified by a sense of guilt or responsibility for that child’s substance abuse, can feed a strong “over-parenting” reflex to save a child.
“Helicopter parenting” is the term clinical psychologists have attached to this phenomenon. It’s a fitting way to describe unhealthy parental hovering over a child’s every move: like pilots at the controls of a Black Hawk military aircraft, some parents at the first signs of a threat launch a full-scale air assault or swoop in and deploy a quick getaway for their child. And parents of children in rehab are especially vulnerable to this form of parenting, because they know their child’s risks of relapse pose harmful and potentially life-threatening consequences.
But what parents of children in rehab also need to know is that an “interminable ‘swoosh-swoosh-swoosh’” over their child’s every move can pose even greater dangers to that child’s recovery from drug or alcohol addiction. Knowing what these pitfalls to lasting sobriety are is key to boosting a child’s chances of success in rehab and beyond.
Helicopter Parenting and “Failure-to-Launch” Children
Helicopter parenting in rehab can result in the following dangers, all of which can account for a child’s failure to launch toward lasting freedom from drugs or alcohol: Continue reading
Summer is a wonderful time for enjoying adventures in the great outdoors, but it’s important to factor safety into all your plans for sun and fun. With Memorial Day on the calendar this weekend, take a moment to review a few precautionary measures that will keep your family out of harm’s way and ready to play all season long. Continue reading
There’s an ongoing battle to tear down the myths about foster care. In a recent NPR interview, one foster parent discussed the negative impressions that the public is often given related to foster care—and how it’s a barrier to the great work that can be accomplished: “I think all too often the focus is on the negative and not on the good things that happen, the kids that were reunited with their family or the adoption.”
To help counteract negative perspectives and continue to educate Master of Social work students and social service professionals, SocialWork@Simmons created “The Facts of Foster Care.” This infographic provides the latest objective and authoritative data published by collecting bureaus related to foster children and foster families—as well as data that will help to dispel myths about foster care. The goal is to achieve better support for those who need it most—especially the children and those who are caring for them. Continue reading
Sure we’d say, “I love you,” and some things were just understood, but we didn’t necessarily communicate on a certain level – that level where you just sit around clearly communicating and talking about feelings. Our actions spoke louder than words, so it was clearly shown how everyone felt, and I felt loved, but I wish I could verbalize some things – to further convey that love. Below are seven things I’d want my dad to know before it was too late: Continue reading
By Dr. Patricia Ryding
The involvement of your family is an important part of a healthy recovery from substance addiction—and that doesn’t just mean the adults in the picture. Sobriety is about love and connection, and if you have children, that love and connection is vital to creating a space in which your entire family thrives.
However, at the beginning of your journey, that connection might be damaged, especially if your children witnessed your substance-fueled behavior. Because the substance has stood between you and your loved ones for a while, it might be hard to bridge that gap, especially at the beginning. That’s completely understandable, but it doesn’t have to stop you from sharing with your children.
Children are highly aware of their surroundings, so they probably have picked up on some issues. A child might not be able to express what they have processed about your struggle up to this point, but rest assured that they have noted it. Now ask them to join into strengthening your lives together. You are building a new life walking away from those substance issues, so ask your children to join with you in your journey.
Here are some things to keep in mind. Continue reading